My sister drives me nuts!
By CosmoOwl12
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
United States
March 12, 2013 8:11pm CST
She will be 20 years old in July. She thinks she rules the world and everyone owes her something. She was living with a cousin of ours but this cousin somehow got my sister's personal information and put her water bill in my sister's name. Nobody paid it so they got their water shut off and now my sister has bad credit. So she ended up moving in with a friend of hers. She was babysitting her friend's four kids while their dad was there (why he couldn't take care of his own kids, I don't know). Her friend found out that she was sleeping with her kids' dad so she kicked my sister out. After that, my sister moved in with my mom's boyfriend's neice because this girl is a manager at Burger King and helped my sister get a job there. Well, I guess this girl didn't want my sister staying with her anymore so now she's back home.
This means that I have to deal with her yet again. She's only here long enough to shower, eat, and sleep. But she's using our electricity, eating my food so it takes away from my daughter because I use our food stamps to buy that food, and she comes in and out at all hours of the night and she usually brings random people home with her. I don't want people I don't know around my daughter! I have told her this several times and our mom has even told her but it does no good. Our mom actually kicked her out before for doing everything she's doing this time around but now my mom is basically ignoring everything and it's really getting on my nerves. If I was financially stable to where my daughter and I could move out, we would definitely do that.
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@whitneysquirrel (224)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
I have a sister who is 20 years old and I think that she's a self-centered person who lacks consideration for people other than her friends, and I always feel like I cannot wait to live my own life without having to take care of her. I've raised her since she was 14 and I don't know how you really feel but I understand a little bit.
Have you tried talking to her about her situation? That age is a tricky one, she might be torn between wanting independence and at the same time, wanting to be taken care of. With all these moving around, she lacks permanence and a solid foundation of some sort in her life. Sometimes, family can help, although I don't want to downplay the suffering she has caused you but optimistically, maybe your relationship can be improved before you move out, and communication is always a factor.
Your mom reminds me of my aunt who have similar problems with my cousins. They both act like they don't care, but maybe, like my aunt, she just tunes out the things that she is tired of handling or confronting.
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@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
20 Mar 13
Several members of our family have tried talking to her but she thinks she knows everything so she doesn't listen. She just wants to argue about anything we tell her. She just found out that she's pregnant and she's been asking me different things about pregnancy since I've been through it. When I tell her things, she seems to think it's not going to happen to her. She has no idea what's coming and I know she won't be able to handle it. She is way too lazy to have children.
My mom isn't excited at all about her being pregnant because she has no idea who the father is. So my sister is telling people that my mom doesn't care about her and her baby. She is all about drama and she does nothing but lie.
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
24 Mar 13
When I was pregnant, I stayed at home most of the time unless I had a doctor's appointment or I had to get groceries. My sister stays out until 4 or 5am every night and currently she's in Chicago with some people she barely knows.
This is her fifth pregnancy but she's had four miscarriages and nobody thinks she's going to carry this baby to term. She was told by her gynocologist that if she keeps sleeping around, she'll never be able to have kids.
@whitneysquirrel (224)
• Philippines
21 Mar 13
Wow, that's a new aspect to your sister problem. I hope she realizes the value of your mom once she herself becomes one and wishes the best for her child. I've seen people make a complete turnaround from a self-centric lifestyle to such good mothers, and I hope it would be the same for your sister. I do not want to but I feel sorry for her. Because she took her family for granted, she may not have support when she actually needs it. I wish this problem would be resolved for your family.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Mar 13
Your sister sounds like she has a lot of growing up to do. If she is getting kicked out of everywhere she has lived, there is definitely a problem with her! Sad.
I am sorry that you have to put up with her. I know you cannot afford to move out right now but I hope you will be able to soon.
I don't think your sister thinks about your daughter being there when she brings strangers home. She will only realize once she grows up or has kids of her own. It is a dangerous thing for her to bring people home with your little one there, she will feel bad if something ever happened to her (which I pray does not happen). Your sister needs a wake up call that is for sure.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
My goodness, it looks like your sister is a good for nothing kind of person. If all you've detailed about her is the kind of person she really is, then she is the last person, I would like being with.
I understand you if you would like to move out. Is there any chance she would change?
I understand you if you would like to move out. Is there any chance she would change?1 person likes this
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
13 Mar 13
It's so hard to see a family member throw their life away. Sounds like she wears her welcome out no matter where she goes, living with this person, then that person. I hope your mother does stand up and if needs be kick her out.
As long as she has a crutch, she will continue to live her life this way. It's hard and sad to say that but it's true. She really needs to fall on her face here so she understands you don't walk through life using people.
Wishing you patience here!!
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@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
20 Mar 13
That's definitely true about her wearing out her welcome everywhere. My mom's boyfriend and I were just talking about that the other day.
She just recently found out that she's pregnant. She has no clue who the dad is because she sleeps around too much. She's had four miscarriages that I know of and she keeps getting STDs and they think that's why she's been losing her babies. My mom isn't showing her any sympathy even though she's pregnant because she thinks everyone should cater to her and buy her everything.
She quit her job and she's sleeping on our couch. She doesn't pick up after herself, our dining room has all of her clothes everywhere, and she doesn't help out around here at all. My mom was just saying how she may have to kick her out again and she can go stay at the women's shelter because she has no sense of responsibility.
@wdwgirl (23)
• United States
20 Mar 13
I don't think it's fair that your daughter would be put in that kind of situation. I would bring that up to your mom specifically. I would get my butt straight down to the dept of children and families and talk with them about finding housing for you and your daughter as an option. People are crazy and your absolutely right to feel worried about strangers that your sister is bringing into your home being around your daughter. GL on your situation
@CosmoOwl12 (411)
• United States
20 Mar 13
My daughter is number one in my life and I don't think it's fair to her at all. My sister has no consideration for anyone, not even herself. I've asked her I don't know how many times to stop leaving things on the floor because my daughter is still at that age where she puts everything in her mouth. Talking to my sister is like talking to the wall because she doesn't listen to anything. All she wants to do is argue about everything we tell her and she thinks she knows everything.
She's going to be in for a rude awakening because she just found out she's pregnant. If she doesn't lose this baby like she has all the others, I don't think she'll be able to handle pregnancy. She's already complaining about it and they say she's only about 5 weeks along.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Mar 13
hi cosmo Owl cannot you and your Mom sit your sister down and have
a heart to heart to heart talk with her and outline the responsibility she must assume as her share of living there. She
must help with the rent and utilities and help with food costs too surely .She is plenty old enough to have to assume a third of the costs at least. your mom should be getting after her to do her share and not drag down the costs of food when you have to depend on food stamps for you and your daughter.The two olf you must sit her down and make her do right or move out. she is old enough tol know better so she needs to be told she must contribute to the good of the household
