When did you start telling people that you are pregnant?
By missa405
@missa405 (290)
Canada
March 13, 2013 10:47pm CST
I've heard that a lot of people like to wait until they are past 12 weeks pregnant to tell their family and friends about their happy news(or surprise news). Some say they wait until the third trimester is over because the risk of miscarriage is a lot higher in the first 3 months than the rest of pregnancy. Others choose to tell their family and friends as soon as they find out so that they will have their support in case something does happen. What do you feel about when to tell others the news?
I was trying to get pregnant so as soon as the plus sign showed up on the home pregnancy test I told my Fiance immediately and we called his grandma immediately. We quickly shared the news with the rest of our loved ones soon after that. I don't think I could keep a secret like that for very long at all. What did you do when you found out?
16 responses
@maurya83 (923)
• India
14 Mar 13
Here also people say not to tell anyone until first trimester pass safely at least. But me and my hubby both are not good to keep secret :D I told to all my family members at the day when i got to know about my pregnancy and not surprisingly hubby did the same. Though i controlled myself to not to tell friends except the closest one but hubby just couldn't hide it and told to all, now each and everyone in friends, office and neighbors know about my pregnancy.. :)
@missa405 (290)
• Canada
14 Mar 13
I love that your husband was just too excited to keep the secret, its such an exciting life event even if its not supposed to be announced so early in your area. Sometimes pregnancy feels like such a long wait to get through the first trimester and start showing so its nice to have others knowing about it so they can wait with you! Congrats! I hope pregnancy is going well for you so far :)
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
As early as a week of being delayed, I already wanted to know if I was pregnant. I don't have a regular period but each time I feel the hunch, I just had to make us of those pregnancy test kits. I tell my husband about it right away. It was always him who tells the news about my pregnancy. I just keep mum about it unless somebody would notice a slight difference in my shape.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I was really unsure on how to break the news to my mom. All my pregnancies were unplanned. And I felt that I should not be getting pregnant when we do not have enough means to raise the kids on our own. So it is just my husband who tells them. He doesn't worry that much coz he knows that his parents will always be there to help us, but I am not comfortable having to depend on them all the time.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
when i found out i was pregnant i told immediately to my boyfriend.. he was with me when i did a pregnancy test but i never told him i would do it so when it came out positive that's the time i told him and show the pregnancy test.. next i told to my co workers and i waited up till three months before i told my parents about it.. because my pregnancy was unplanned but my parents are happy when they learned about it because i`m at the right age to have a family..
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@missa405 (290)
• Canada
14 Mar 13
When I did my pregnancy test my boyfriend knew I was doing it because he was asking when I was supposed to get my period and I told him "A week ago". So when it turned positive I just put it on the ground and told him to come to the bathroom lol. I don't know why we were even shocked haha.
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 13
Hi missa...I also cannot keep my pregnancy, even for one day. Currently, I was pregnant, I have been expected two months. When I knew that I was pregnant I immediately called my husband to share this news and my other family members.
Yes, you are right, there are many mothers that keep their pregnancy until reach three months, because first trimester is critical period of miscarriage and maybe they do not want their happy news change to be sad news when they experience miscarriage. But, there are many mothers that keep their pregnancy because of ashamed, because their child too young to have brother. Yes, anything is okay as long as it makes they enjoy.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
When I found out I was pregnant, I immediately told my husband about it. I mean, he should be the first one to know about it, right? But it took me some time before I told my parents about my pregnancy. I was still in law school when I had my first baby so I was pretty scared to tell my parents. But after a few weeks, I told my mom that I'm pregnant since its much easier to tell her first than my dad. They were quite disappointed because they wanted me to finish school first but eventually, they accepted it :)
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@missa405 (290)
• Canada
14 Mar 13
I definitely think the husband should be the first to know about it. I understand why you'd wait a little while to tell your parents in this situation though. It must have felt really good when they finally accepted it, like a weight lifted off your shoulders.
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
15 Mar 13
Congrats! I agree, keeping a secret like that would be very hard.
If i ever get pregnant i think i will that as a secret till the very end. You must be wondering why? Well mostly because i am a guy and that i am not suppose to get pregnant lol. :P
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
15 Mar 13
There are many advise not to tell everybody about pregnancy till the
baby is stable first. This is to avoid people sayings and some unwanted
events that can lead to miscarriage. However I still think it is good to
tell someone close so that they will help in case of emergency. Some people
just do not tell until other people notice their pregnant tummy.
@Mintlin (322)
• China
15 Mar 13
I observe most of people here are agree to tell this good news to people at any time,but i have different opinion. During my first pregnancy,i was so excited and couldn't hide anything to people,my husband is the first one to know it,then my family members,my friends,co-workers. unfortunately,children miscarriage in three months..i was so sad .i think next time,i will tell this news to people after trimester.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
I told my family immediately. I think it's something to be shared and rejoice about. I don't think of the beliefs that something might go wrong or i will have a miscarriage. I always want to think positive about everything.
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@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
in my observation because i am not still get pregnant,when my sister not yet ready to be pregnant she didn't tell to my parents because she was afraid but when her stomach became bigger then she don't have a choice is to tell,most of the time when the baby is in five months.
@ShyBear88 (59282)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Mar 13
With our first we told right after I went to the doctor to confirm my home pregnancy test. I did the same in my second pregnancy right after my blood test came back positive but then I was told I lost my son and then told I didn't. So when I saw the home test for the second time with my second baby i didn't tell anyone outside of a hand full of people till I had my ultrasound and saw him. That was at 8 weeks.
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@kingyrvee (17)
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15 Mar 13
Hi missa405:) the time i've knew im pregnant, i emmidiately told my hubby.. And since that time he showed up more love,sweetness and care esp.to the baby i have on my womb.. So its better to tell ur loved ones as soon as u knew it so they would show up more support on ur pregnancy..
@SummertheCat21 (11)
• United States
24 Aug 13
When I found out I was pregnant my DH and I kept it a BIG secret between the two of us. Gradually, the news started filtering out to family members and friends.
I remember being sick as a dog in my first trimester, and I had to tell my mother because I needed her during my sick time. After that, I felt more comfortable spreading the news to everyone.
I told my boss around 12 weeks. I had to tell her though since a doctor note had to be provided each time I was out of the office. She said she had a feeling I was pregnant because the notes said "Maternal Fetal Medicine"
All in all, everyone took the news okay. Better than I had thought.
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@momalisa65 (1971)
• United States
15 Mar 13
Lol! When I was young and stupid and pregnant, my boyfriend didnt want me to tell anyone until he got up the nerve to tell his parents first.
I got to be 5 months pregnant and was starting to have a hard time hiding it when he finally told his parents and then I told people.
My son was born premature, so as soon as people found out I was pregnant, I had the baby 2 months later!
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
15 Mar 13
I got a positive sign of pregnancy when I did the home pregnancy
test. I told my husband about it and we went to the gynecologist
to confirm it. Once we have the confirmation, we called my husband's
parents and my mum to inform them the good news. We only inform
others after 3 months as what majority of people did. Because the
first trimester is quite risky and Chinese believes others unhappy
people / jealous people might have bad intention on bad wishes.
This truly happened in royalties during the China / Korea dinasty
where people eyeing for the throne.
