what's with her!

@cttolledo (5459)
Legaspi, Philippines
March 18, 2013 6:10pm CST
I just wanted to share it to you guys.. I am amazed with this girl... this girl is having a problem "money". She earn a high salary , she have other source of income from her field of expertise but everyday she keeps on saying that she has bills to pay, she has loans.. different kind of loans actually.. But I was amazed a while ago why she keeps on ordering different products offered online, which in fact she has no money for that..and she has a lot of payables... I opt not to make comments since that is her life, but i don't understand why she can still afford to go shopping despite of her financial status..I am just worried to her because I think her problem is more than money ..She wanted everything that new to her eyes. Do you met such kind of person..? what do you think is her problem..?
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@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Maybe she's a shopaholic. Or she's just trying to put up an image that she's someone even if she's not because she's scared that people might look down on her for not being able to keep up with the trend. But whatever it is, its none of your business to pry. How she handles her money and payables depends on her and there's nothing you can do about it. What happens to her is the consequences of her actions.
@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
19 Mar 13
Yes, I thought of that also.. it's none of my business but she's like a freind to me and i just worried for her and to her baby.
@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
20 Mar 13
I agree. I'm taking into consideration the after effect if i pursue my plan of giving her a sort of advice..Thinking that she is older than me.. and she supposed to know and she should think better than me when it comes to life. Anyway, for now what can I only do is to pray for her to change.
@ayeeesha (1127)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
Well as a friend, try talking to her and ask like how she's been doing financially. But don't push it though. Money is a sensitive topic to talk about.
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
She's a shopaholic. I hope she can control her urge to shop. It'll be dificult for her to pay everything if she'll shop more and more.
@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
20 Mar 13
I'm hoping the same, for her to control her urge in shopping.. and excessive spending
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
19 Mar 13
If she has high salary then for sure she has savings that she uses for her online shopping.
@cvodrey (225)
• United States
19 Mar 13
It sounds like she has an impulse control problem. I agree, her problem is not 'just' money; she has a deeper problem that might require professional treatment. There are different types of people who attempt to fill a void with massive purchases, some thinking it will make them happy. They are never satisfied and they are rarely 'happy' after a purchase. More often than not they feel guilt. She has bills because she has an addiction to shopping. She is attempting to create wholeness in her life, but this the wrong way to go about it. Things are not what make people happy.
@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
20 Mar 13
She mismanage her money..I just don't know what will happen to her in the long run.. she should know that life is unpredictable..
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
19 Mar 13
I know some people who are also like that, and I also stay away from their business. It's their life, it's their money, they can do anything as they please as long as they do not bother me. It is a bit sad that they prioritize some trivial things, but then it is not up to us if that is how they want to spend their money. It is also up to them if they don't want to save up on what we think are the more important stuff in life.
@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
19 Mar 13
Yes.. its her life and it's her own choice but if I only have that courage to tell her or advice her but I am not sure if she will take it in a positive or in a negative .. SHe is close to me that's why I am concern to her.
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Maybe she's just trying to experience how it is to live a luxurious lifestyle when in fact this kind of lifestyle is not applicable to many nowadays.
@cttolledo (5459)
• Legaspi, Philippines
19 Mar 13
Actually she experienced it already but shopping is her hobby already.. it's scary
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
some people are like that, they keep on buying or ordering something..they will acquire a lot of credits and debts and also what bothers us is this person has a salary or income but how come they cannot pay for their debts? maybe she doesn't know how to manage and organize her money and things she has to pay like her debts and bills. i also know such a person, even though she still didn't pay the past bills and debts, still she doesn't take action or manage her salary to be able to handle or accomplish such things..it could be this person has an addiction or issues that is addicted to shopping or something, that she cannot control, she has to do it all the time. she needs proper guidance and counseling regarding this kind of attitude, if not this can cause a really big problem for her in the future as the habit becomes worse.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
The problem, my dear, is that this girl is materialistic. She is attached to material things and doesn't know how to manage her money. No matter how high a person's salary is, if that person is not wise with it, all the money will go down the drain.