You hold grudge ...

just as lord buddha says...holding grudge or anger towards anyone is just like throwing hot charcoal at them...you get yourself burned..so in short we spoil our own lives with anger inside...whenever i have such negative emotions inside of me i completely neutralise it thanks to a very good method i learned from youtube lately..its known as the sedona method...very helpful and simple and powerful...helps keep me peaceful..used by many successful people and celebrities..

hi leateagee not any more as I found it made me feel sick and sure did nothing bad to the person I had the grudge against. held hatred toward my father into forging him and asking him point blank why he molested an innocent child when I was just eight years . I did this and while my father refused to answer my questions it did make me feel like I had lifted the weight of the world off my shoulders.Holding grudges only hurts ones self and does not bother any one else.We are bigger than those who hurt us when we let go any grudges much bigger.Those who hurt are the ones who have done wrong.

I'm definitely not one to hold a grudge. I believe for most people it is normal to hold a grudge because it effects us when someone as done harm to us. It makes for bad feeling inside your yourself both mentality and physically though. Which I believe ends up doing harm to our bodies. It is best to forgive but I never will forget. That is how I work it. I can forgive you but don't think for a minute I fogot what you said or did to me. I don't keep it in my forefront of my thoughts but its in the back of my brain forever.

I have this huge grudge on my brother in law.Maybe you have come across several discussions here that I have mentioned him as a pain in the neck, coz he really is. And it is not just my imagination that he is a grouch, coz a lot of people see him as one. He finds fault easily. And sometimes, when he could not find something, he gets mad without having the effort of trying to find it himself. And since I was working with him at his pharmacy before, I get to know everything about his business. All the invoices, stocks, I was the one who always fixed them so that it would be easier to find. But one time, he called me up in the middle of the night asking me for a particular invoice which he needed to see. I told him where to find it and yet he was screaming at me on the phone for not being able to find it. I wasn't able to fall asleep at night, coz I was starting to doubt myself if I did file the invoice. The next morning, I reported super early, and when I came in the store, I saw right away the folder of the invoice he was telling me. I should have thrown it on his face. I was fuming mad. When I told him it has always been where it should have been, he just laughed. Now can you feel how bad I feel about that person? And it was not the only incident. We had fights. And I was not ashamed at my in laws coz this brother in law of mine should realize that he can not always win every battle. Oopss! Sorry! I think I just had a rant!

I'm typically a grudge holder. I try to change it, but I can't really do anything about it. I mean, I try to tie the loose ends usually, and not to act upon my feelings, but if someone hurts me, that is going to stay with me till the end of my life.

Holding a grudge give that person power over you. Untill you let go and forgive that person you will always bare the pain. Let it go. Free your hate. Free your mind. Free your self. Regain control.

No, I do not hold any grudges. What is the point of doing so? We would be the ones burt not the person that we are holding a grudge against. It is just not worth it as it causes stress and we can all do without stress in our lives. Life is too short to hold grudges

I think it is just but normal to hold a grudge to someone who have hurt you in any way. Though, keeping it for a long time is unhealthy because every time you think of the person who did it , it stresses you. Just like you, i pray for the person to whom i hold a grudge. I pray that he/she will realize what he/she did to me and would make a way for us to be reconciled. And i pray that i can forgive him/her.

I think in a way we all do. I really have never thought about it.

Well as for me. I dont know yet. Last year i've been through alot of BS and I didnt even know how I survived from that. At first I thought I already forgive them and ready to talked to them. I hugged them, talked to them but inside of me, I was crying and hurt. Now, I do forgive them already but I just couldn't forget what they made me feel that time. Its not that our heart is dark, its just that its really hard to forgive someone especially if that someone is important for your life.

Well, I still hold some gruges over a lot of things. But unlike other people, I don't really need to let all that worry out. I don't martirize myself because of it. Bitterness never killed me — in fact, it only makes me stronger. Bitterness... it's hard to get me, to be honest. I use bitterness as fuel to the fire, it makes me excited and a lot more active, it's exactly what I need to make me realize that I can do it. I can do it. I can do anything when I'm bitter, because it reminds me how much I don't want to be like that person. It's what fuels my fire, you know what I mean? It's kind of hard for me to explain it, as it's this... thing, this huge power that you feel inside.