is this so called "friend" ??

@Mintlin (322)
China
March 21, 2013 2:05am CST
I have some friends,we used to be very close,but i don't know since when our connection is becoming less and less,i understand everybody is busy, then the thing made me mad is if i do not contact them,they never contact me,honestly,i do not really like such kind of friend. some people told me ,don't always active contact someone,if he concerns you ,he will contact you actively. what do you think?
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
21 Mar 13
sometimes I like to liberate from my friends too. When I went home during the holidays no one among my friends knew that I was home. they just knew when I came back here. I would rather spend my time with my family anyway it was just a very short vacation. yes... need to have some break and breather to yourself it is not important the number and duration of time you were together what important is you are friends and you know you are still friends even there's an absence over time
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
22 Mar 13
Mintlin, I hope that you are fine. As we get older we have fewer and fewer friends. I think it´s very common. So we must worry more about our true friends. And then sow friendship. Don´t worry, time, love and charity will help you know who are your true friends. Blessings Mintlin... dainy
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@Mintlin (322)
• China
22 Mar 13
Hi dainy,thank you so much. yes,time will prove who is true friend.I really don't need those fake friendship.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
21 Mar 13
Well, I have supposedly close friends that I have kept all these years. However, some things happened and we could not have time to be together. I still consider them my friends, but I do not want to look like a poor puppy having to seek for their attention.
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@Mintlin (322)
• China
22 Mar 13
Exactly,i like what you said,i also don't want to look like a puppy to seek for their attention.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
22 Mar 13
I have some friends like that. They are not really good when it comes to keeping in touch (sending emails, texts or calls, etc.). But the good thing about them is that they really don't just remember me when they need something. Sometimes when their hectic schedule permits, they would ask me how I am doing. There were a couple who would remember me only when they need something from me, and I slowly weed them out of my life when it becomes apparent that they will not be good friends at all.
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@Mintlin (322)
• China
22 Mar 13
some of my friends are just like that,they only remember me when they need me,when they do not need me,never contacts
• India
23 Mar 13
I am almost lonely but the time that I was in my country and near to my friends, I used to contact them if they contact me. so seldom it happens for me to contact the one who did not contact me.
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@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
21 Mar 13
Hi Mintlin...there are many people that forget about friendship because they are too busy with their business. It is normal because each person has some different problems in their life, part of them maybe make friendship just for get some interests from friendship. Try to think realistic and make sure which is your the best friend. I think the best friend will respect to you although they are busy.
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@Mintlin (322)
• China
21 Mar 13
hello,yes,i do agreed with you that the good friend will respect us although they are busy. busy should not be the excuse to forget friends ,right ? sometimes,it just takes few minutes to talk to a friend ,i do not believe they are too busy to squeeze this "few minutes"
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
21 Mar 13
Well, it is true as we get older and quite busy with things in life, we tend to move to different needs where some of our friends we often see less and less. The main thing is when they are people we are growing away from it might be time to choose new sets of friends you can always talk and confide with instead. Don't let it bother you. You will in time find someone to fill that void who will want to take time to bf around you.
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@marguicha (220884)
• Chile
23 Mar 13
I feel there`s a great difference between the word "friend" and the word "acquaintance". I have many acquaintances and I can be very nice, polite and even witty when I`m with them. But I have a few friends and we know we are there for each other. Sometimes we are very busy, but we know that if there is a need, we`ll be there. Maybe you should spek with your friend (s) and ask what is the matter.
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@Pegasus72 (1898)
8 Apr 13
I think you need some new friends. Some friends just fall away from each other depending on where there lives take them.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
21 Mar 13
Hey i can understand your situation very well as i can relate your situation with mine. i passed my engineering last year and i too had many good friends but most of them are not in touch with me anymore and that gave me a clear indication of the bonding we had shared at college. in fact i have left all hopes of ever contacting them in the future also.
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@messi3336 (213)
• India
21 Mar 13
yep ! i can see your mind .so times our friends will forget us because of jobs etc.if we contact them they will confuse us,'they will tell who are you'contact friend is great if they have any thing better than us they will goo love that.
@elenaliu (149)
• China
21 Mar 13
I think the real friendship is based on mutual affection,concern and mutual help.A real friend don't need to contact frequently,he will be there if you need help.However,we can give him/her a call or a message in the festival and holiday to keep our friendship.
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@Dias14 (176)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 13
Communication is a problem which often discussed in friendship. Few comms depopulate it will be another question mark to a friend. If you ' re busy work and had had someday 'd right to go along just toddle for more commune. Schedule right may once a week. Another, if you feel, is a friendship no one would be less hisnameis commo.
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@Yocom67 (23)
• Israel
21 Mar 13
both sides have to be active to keep the friendship going