Do you like weddings?

@tehpau (340)
Malaysia
March 21, 2013 11:37pm CST
I do not enjoy attending wedding dinners. Most people have dinners instead of some ceremony here in Malaysia. Let me share with your some common Chinese wedding practice here. Attending dinner means we are required to bring a gift of $100 per person in today's market rate. The hosts will have someone record down how much is received from each guest. So we are literally paying for our own extremely expensive dinner. Next, the dinner seldom start on time. We will be waiting there with our hungry stomach. During dinner, we are forced to listen to some terrible singing or forced to see all the photos the couple had taken repeatedly. I prefer to sincerely send my friend a gift and forego the wedding dinner.
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@subhojit10 (7377)
• India
22 Mar 13
I have always loved weddings especially the Indian weddings, for it is not only about the meeting of two souls but there are so many things to see also. I do not know how weddings occurs in Malaysia but certainly it is a treat to be a part of Indian weddings. though food is not perfect all the time, but the ambience is great to catch up.
@tehpau (340)
• Malaysia
22 Mar 13
Indian weddings in Malaysia is quite different from the Chinese ones. They have ceremony at the temple and in the home. Followed by simple lunch or dinner. Somehow Chinese wants to hold expensive dinners for their parents to show off to their relatives. At the same time, they are so afraid they over booked and people don't come. So they come chasing after the guests to confirm their seats.
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
21 Apr 13
Oh, I can imagine how aggravating it is to attend a wedding dinner like that. Here in our country though, it always depend on the arrangements made by the person who prepared the reception. It is most of the time a wonderful event. Anyway, I guess the most important is what the bride and the groom feel and think.
@512771751 (1096)
• China
7 Apr 13
The same as you ,I don't like attending wedding dinners either because it is a big waste behavior. But nowadays, every family hold such wedding dinners.
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
My aunt goes to a lot of weddings and usually, they’re open to the public and free. If we were invited, we give a gift and sit down for the reception. Usually, guests would like to leave because they only came for the food expect for the family of the bride and groom or if someone is one of the wedding sponsors. We don’t usually give money but sometimes, some people give them as nest egg for the couple.
@sjlskl (3382)
• Singapore
22 Mar 13
The culture here is also the same. Red packet gifts, long waiting for dinner to start, watching of some photo montage or video spoof etc. It depends on who the groom / bride are to me. If they ain't close, usually I will just give it a miss.
@KrauseHome (36663)
• United States
22 Mar 13
Personally, I think it really depends on who the people are ,and how well we know them as if we will take the time to attend. When you are required to give a nice gift or not go, that is wrong. I hate the fact that I am being compared to the Jones. Why not appreciate anything someone gives you, and move on?
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
22 Mar 13
I do like attending the wedding specially of my friends and to tell you frankly I never missed any wedding from my relative side. It is sort of special for me to attend the wedding from my mother side as I am the eldest daughter in the family and luckily from my husband side too.
@cvodrey (227)
• United States
22 Mar 13
I don't like them, but I don't hate them either. Free food is always nice, and the company is usually good, but I'm not all for commercializing or glorifying an institutional (and utterly archaic) event.
@Paper_Doll (2375)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
I love attending wending especially if it will be held in some place I have never been before. I am very particular with food, this is one of my biggest consideration when I got married. I wanted all the visitors to enjoy the food and leave the place full and satisfied. Here in our country, you are not really required to bring a gift. My husband and I attended my friend's wedding last December and we did not bring anything except ourselves and our warm greetings But I have already made a note on my calendar to give them something on their first wedding anniversary. Probably a dinner for two or something they may enjoy. I have noticed that nowadays, couples do indicate in their invitation that they prefer monetary gifts. I did not do that as I love opening gifts and I know that many of my relatives cannot affort to buy a gift so they are free to attend with our without a gift. But for others, I think that they are just being practical. In many cases, couples received gifts that are the same. Like us who received about 4 kettles, 2 wall clocks, 4 sets of plates and 2 sets of kitchenwares. Until now, we have not really used many of it because we already have those before we got married. I really do not care much about the gift. It is the thought that counts, they say.