Kleptomaniac - A person having habit of taking others belongings

@roshigo58 (4859)
Pune, India
March 26, 2013 2:51am CST
I know a lady who is a Kleptomaniac, She has the habit of taking others belongings. Her financial condition is good. It can not be called stealing, For she is not aware that she has taken someone else things. Btu not only people are unnecessarily inconvenienced by this fault of hers, in addition she becomes a laughing stock and her husband too feel ashamed. So he avoids taking her anywhere. He is very sad. But it is not her wife's fault. He loves her wife very much. Do you know such person who is Kleptomaniac ?
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23 responses
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
26 Mar 13
Hi, This is the first time I come across the word 'Kleptomaniac.' Thank you. I learn a new word today. Do you know the meaning of 'cynophobia.'? It means the irrational or excessive fear of dogs. I learnt the word from my son when he was in primary school. He knows many words of phobias.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Mar 13
Thanks friends for informing a new word - cynophobia - excessive fear of dogs. I also fear going near a dog. I may not classify it as excessive. I can tolerate a street dog walking beside me or seen on the road. I do not run away for that. good day.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
26 Mar 13
hi,Iriene and firepanther. Thank you for the response. i haven't heard about 'cynophobia.' We can learn many things through the discussions. 'Kleptomaniac is a person having kleptomania
• Italy
26 Mar 13
nope :D I think she referes to the word kleptomania, which is the inability to refrain from the urge to steal items for reason other than personal use and gain.
@ShyBear88 (59282)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Mar 13
Yes my sil law at least one out of he four of them does this. Not only does she keep her stuff new and old but other people's to weather they want to keep that item or get ride of it. It bothers me an my parents allof the time hen we just ha. Junk all over the house.
@ShyBear88 (59282)
• Sterling, Virginia
28 Mar 13
I can't take specialist advise because I don't have a problem she does and she won't taken advise because she doesn't think anything is wrong and you can't force someone into doing something unless you have guardianship over them.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, I feel sad for your sister in law. You should take some specialist advice for this. thank you for the response.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
She needs professional help. I have read that- such illness can be cured by the help of professionals. It's not her fault- but yes, she is giving disgrace to her family. I also know someone during my younger days who suffer the same fate. Pity those people who are klepto- people judge them instead of understanding.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
I agree with Jai, these are people are sick and need immediate medical or psychiatric help, the problem is it might be discovered late or people seems to undergo a certain " denial stage" like "my sweet baby darling is not a klepto" or " it could not be him or her", only aggravates the problem,
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, You both are right. This disorder can be cured by medical help. People should try to understand them and the the family members who have such person in their family should accept the fact and start treatment for the person and should not try to hide it. They should try to get rid of that problem.
• India
28 Mar 13
Yes, there is someone in our close relation who has this habit. He is a well to do man and has two grown up kids. I have heard he had this habit since childhood, but I am happy his kids are not Kleptomaniac. His kids and wife are always at guard whenever they go out to some family functions with him. It is really embarrassing for them, but then this is something they can't help.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
28 Mar 13
Hi, You are right. It s very embarrassing for those kids and his wife. But it is very good that they are always careful that there should not be any misbehavior by him in family functions. Thank you for the response.
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
26 Mar 13
hahaha if I will tell you who I know then it is gossiping. If the wife knows that she has this problem it is treatable and not too late for her. she can still become able and normal person. She just need to seek some professional help. I know some people who were treated from this habit. so she should ask a psychologist to help her fight it.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
26 Mar 13
Hi, I don't know the treatment is going on or not, because we are not so familiar with them. I have heard all this from other people. But if this disorder is curable then it is good for those families who are going under difficult situation due to Kleptomaniac family member.Thank you for the response.
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
26 Mar 13
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/kleptomania/DS01034 as long as the individual has accepted that she/he has this mental disorder then he/she could be helped. it is just a matter of acceptance from the person herself/himself and the family.
• Philippines
2 Apr 13
I don't personally know someone who is a kleptomaniac, but know about kleptomania. I know a famous actress here in our country who has it. I agree with you that it cannot be called stealing, because the person cannot help it. It's a disorder. It's kind of strange though...because people who have this disorder usually have enough money to buy the thing they want. Why can't they just buy it?
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
2 Apr 13
Hi, You are right. the people having this disorder are having capacity to buy the things they want but they steal the belongings of others. I think they can not stop themselves from getting the thing they want. They become restless and helpless. Really this is very troublesome for the patients and the family members of that patients. thank you for the response.
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
Oh I pity her, I have known someone like that, she didn't knew it when she steal something. Something from the mall newly opened in our place, she was taken photo by the mall officers. But the relatives told the mall representative that the girl was innocent. What she took was only a whitening toothpaste. To think it is very cheap...yet she belongs to a well to do family.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, Stealing small thing or big, stealing is stealing. The family members of such people have to listen some harsh words from the other people because they are unaware of this. They have to bear a loss. So these people should not be allowed to go out alone. Thank you for the response.
@namiya (1713)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
I encounter one during high school days. Someone always claims losing something during our PE once in a while hence our teacher cautioned us to be aware of our things. It was until one day when one student saw someone opening a bag she recognized as that of her close friend which was among our things filed up in a corner of the stage where we were having some exercises. She immediately informed our teacher about this and when her friend examined her bag her wallet was missing. The offender was from an affluent family who we were all aware had the capacity to buy anything she wants or needs. She dropped out of school because of that incident and we also learned later that it was due to a psychological disorder beyond her control and that her parents had sent her to Manila for psychological treatment.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, i feel very sad for that student. She had to leave the school for her mental disorder. Her parents must be very much worried about her. But it is sadi that this disorder can be cured by the proper treatment. Thank you for the response.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
27 Mar 13
I do not personally know of anyone who is Kleptomaniac. But i have watched it in shows before i think these people will steal stuff but they have no idea they did that. Does the husband brings the lady to see some doctor? Maybe seeing someone professional will help.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, I am not familiar with that couple. But I heard about them by my friend. But I think they should consult doctor and get treatment. Thank you for the response.
• United States
27 Mar 13
This is a mental illness. Though I'd anyone is caught shoplifting, they will be arrested. The law doesn't care if you have a mental illness. They just want you to pay for your crime. Everyone who is a kleptomaniac isn't rich. They often do know what they are doing but can't seem to stop themselves. A former church secretary stole $10,000 from the church over the years. She stole from stores too. Her husband moved them back to Alabama because her reputation here was so bad.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, you are right. Law doesn't care of your illness. Stealing cash from church is very bad for her reputation. Her husband must feel very sad for that. But for such peoples disorder no one can bear the loss. thank you for the response.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
i do not know how this stealing happens for thus who have this kind of illness. they said that, a forceful urge for that person to take what they want as they held their eyes on someone's belongings. it is psychological problem that is very hard to resist, as they said it is. i heard from some friends of mine that someone in the work is like. they cited lots of happenings when that person used to steal as we call it because getting the belonging without permission from the owner. and many times, they saw the things in that person's drawer. but since their working years are too much ahead from mine, i cannot prove it and besides, i did have an experience where she steal things from me. i just do know, but heard lots of rumors about stealing and kind of psychological problem :)
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, You have the experience of stealing your belongings by other. It is very annoying. We can't say that it is psychological problem or that lady doing knowingly. Thank you for the response.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
i know someone too.. she takes things that she thinks no one knows that she steals it but we all know we just don't confront her because we know her condition.. and sad to say her niece is seeing signs of being kleptomaniac too.. that girl steals toys.. we just see her that she is already playing it in a place that she is alone so no one will see her with the toy she steals.. i pity them they can afford to buy things but they have a condition that i know should be seen by a medical person..
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, You are right. Their condition is very pitiable. But we can't do anything for them. Thank you for the response.
@miryanag (346)
• Bulgaria
27 Mar 13
This is strange mental condition. I think that a psychologist or psychiatrist may help her with some therapy. I think that things will get better if they seek some help.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, You are right. It is very strange disorder. But it can be cured by psychiatrist's help. Thank you for the response.
@srisahara (4508)
• Indonesia
27 Mar 13
Hi roshigo...I don't know such person who is kleptomanic...because it is difficult to mark the person, but I know that this habit very painful for the performer, because she or he does not realize that she or he has taken someone else things. This habit is difficult to stop. Actually, people with kleptomaniac want to get rid their habit but most of them do not do anything because this habit appears spontaneous without planned before... I am so sorry with people with kleptomaniac.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, you are right. These kleptomaniac people do such things spontaneously. But when their mind is normal they would feel guilty for their behavior. But they are helpless because of their mental disorder. It is very troublesome for them also. Thank you for the response.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
26 Mar 13
The first time I came across the word kleptomaniac was by watching a comedy, there was an old comedy based in the UK back in the 70s called Steptoe and Son about a father and son rag and bone men, I remember hearing the son calling his old man Steptoe the Klepto, back then I was always eager to learn new words so I looked it up and understood why his old man was called that by his son.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, We can many new things on this site. This site is very useful for us for adding our knowledge. thank you for the response.
• United States
26 Mar 13
no not really but people who do not know should have help maybe it brought to the attention in a kind way..maybe things they want and thought it is ok to take..better to get help then be sad all the rest of the life and have a problem with crime ..some people may not understand and someone could get hurt so it is best to get help in times like this and maybe help with certain problems maybe could change a person..church and prayer is a great start also...it is like a disease for that person...
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
26 Mar 13
Hi, You are right. She should take treatment in time. And prayer is always good for any problem. Thank you for the response.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 Mar 13
Hi, I know one of them, right here in my hometown, a young lady barely eighteen. She could have a good career having worked as a saleslady on one of the boutiques owned by an acquaintance but she threw it all away in one stealing spree that went unnoticed until she was gone. Why they put such a big trust upon this girl I don't know, maybe it is because she is such an innocent looking and hardworking girl, having grown up all her life in this town or maybe they failed to see beyond his sweet talks and white lies. I can see it coming, my wife saw it too yet they did not listen to the warnings and when it finally happened, the store owners can no longer see us in the eyes until now.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
26 Mar 13
Hi, Really it is very strange that they are trusting that girl after knowing all this about her behavior. May be they are emotionally attached with her as she is pretending as innocent and good girl. If they do not listen warnings then they wouls lose their customers. Thank you for the response.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
I haven't known one personally but I heard that there is a popular couple here in our country who have the same situation. They say that the girl is kleptomaniac but that is only humors. Well, if it is for real, I don't think they will admit it. I think that it can be treated so I hope the husband would take her wife to appropriate psychiatrist or psychologist to treat her.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, You are right, her husband should take her to psychiatrist so that she would be cured. Thank you for the response.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Mar 13
roshigo58 this habit is more or less like a disease. It is difficult to get over it. It is better to bring up children telling them from the beginning that they should not desire about others' properties. I searched internet and found that even famous personalities are also there -- and they have this habit of taking away others properties. True it causes embarrassment for the husband of the lady. Other friends will come to know about this habit and have to take extra precaution to avoid keeping things before her vision. Luckily I do not know any person with this habit from my relatives/friends circle.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
26 Mar 13
Hi, You are right. The friends or relatives who know her habit should be careful and void keeping things before her vision. By doing this their things will be safe and their friend or relative will not have to go through embarrassing situation. Thank you for the response.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I do not know anyone who is afflicted with this disorder, thank goodness for that. Because I don't want to feel helpless especially when the person I know is clearly in need of help, and obviously I don't know what to do in certain cases like this.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
27 Mar 13
Hi, You are right. In such cases we can't understand what to do and how we can help them. It is very sad for those who are having this disorder. They are unaware of the fact that they are troubling others by their behavior. Thank you for the response.