Is living in with a boyfriend a good thing?

Philippines
March 26, 2013 5:23am CST
If you remember, I talked about my boyfriend. Now, he's back from Japan. He kept his promise to come back here in my country and see me. We had a lot of good days. On my birthday, he decided to rent another apartment so that we could live together so we did. Now, we are living in one roof. It's been a week now. It's a little bit comfortable since I don't have an experience like this before. I expect some things that we might argue but hopefully everything will be fine. Is living in with a boyfriend a good thing?
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26 responses
• Leesburg, Georgia
26 Mar 13
I think it is a very good thing living with someone before you marry them. It is true what they say, you never really know someone until you live with them. My husband and I lived together 9 years ago when it was still frowned upon. But we wanted to do that so we could really know each other before getting married... You will see every good aspect about a person and every flaw when you live with someone. I recommend living with your boyfriend/girlfriend before marrying them...
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@andy77e (5161)
• United States
29 Mar 13
I thought you were a Christian?
• Netherlands
29 Mar 13
I wonder what being a Christian has to do with "living together" or not being allowed to do so. It's nowhere written in the bible it's not allowed. At the time of the bible marriage by law did not even exist! BTW Maria and Jozef were not married either! People's opinion/the opinion of some societies are made up later! Way (ages) later.
• United States
26 Mar 13
I think it is best to live with your mate before marrying them. this way you get to learn the good and bad things about them.
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@andy77e (5161)
• United States
29 Mar 13
Tell us how well that has worked for you.
@grvdubey11 (1881)
• India
26 Mar 13
If a couple is happy in live in relationship then its good,no one has the right to question that actually.Living under same roof will help you guys to understand each other better so its great overall.
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@chum24 (569)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
hi.. it is good i also did that when i was college we are in same house but different room. it is nice to have your love ones at your side always but their times that you will argue but later on it will settle. but be sure your family know these.
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@sriroshan (2585)
• India
26 Mar 13
It is fine until you are comfortable and no one objects for your act. But what you will do once he goes back? I am sure that time you will be feeling alone. Did your parent have any objection for staying with your boy friend?
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@kprofgames (3098)
• United States
26 Mar 13
If living together works for you two, then no one can tell you it is not a good thing. Couples live together all the time. It means you are making a commitment. They say you never really know a person till you live with them so enjoy getting to know him on another level.
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@dagami (1162)
• Rome, Italy
26 Mar 13
if you're still a minor and/or you put importance to what the others would say about you (also depends on your society), then this is not ok. the most important thing (in my opinion) is to tell your family about this. in the western world, nowadays very few couples marry without first living together. whether this is right or wrong is not my point, i'm just saying that this happens. arguments and misunderstandings are normal in any healthy realtionship. remember that you are two different persons who have been raised in different manners so there will always be some point where your ideas will not meet. just remember that you should always talk and be open with your partner. this is what makes relationships last.
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@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
living in is a choice so you will have sets of good and bad times since you are living in together.. you two should be responsible for your acts.. be matured and i hope you will consider getting married..
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@ajithlal (14615)
• India
27 Mar 13
I am also support you neelia27. Living is a choice of others. But living with boyfriend(without marriage) is not good. And I didn't like these.
@Mintlin (323)
• China
27 Mar 13
there is not a good thing or bad thing when it comes to this topic,since both advantages and disadvantages exist. if we say it's not a good thing ,will you move out that house? i think the answer is no,so just follow your heart,do what you want to do,at least you will not be regret in your life,and at least you've got experience like this,or you could learn something from this experience.
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@mods196621 (3656)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
I wish it could be last forever. Now I wish you and he will end up to church wedding. I wish you goodluck and happiness. Living with your boyfriend is good if he promised you a good life and both of you had a plan to marry. But if we follow the catholic church that's not good to do. Looking on that matter is depend upon the situation. Be it good.
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• United States
27 Mar 13
It could be a good thing or bad thing. I have been living with my boyfriend 3 years now. It was good at first. But now we argue a little bit more than we use to.
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@rivakwa (56)
27 Mar 13
It is morally wrong to sleep with somebody who is not ur husband,it is even worse to live under the same roof,when you are not married to him.You are making your boy friend irresponsible.The best you could do is to take to your family and let him make commitment to marry you.Or else you are sitting on a time bomb.I do not believe in free and irresponsible love
@wapewe (173)
27 Mar 13
Don't know in other religions, but in Islam thats forbiden. Islam only allow the couple that already married to live together. If you religious person, just search about it on your religion. It's allowed or not.
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@jenny1015 (13376)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
It's hard to defy such big step. But I do think that when two people are in love, nothing else matters but their relationship and the only thing that they would want is to be together all the time. Filipino parents would not be up to this idea coz they would want the couple to get married first before living together.
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@Aja103654 (5651)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
I'm not really sure about that either. It could be a good exercise to prepare yourselves for marriage later on.
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@rog0322 (2832)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 Mar 13
Hi, Some say living with someone should be done when the legal matters has been settled. For some, it is favorable for when differences arise in the future, no compromise or binding laws that keep both parties go their own ways. It all depends upon one's choice and the ability to accept and deal with the consequences of that choice in a mature and rational manner.
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@dpk262006 (56708)
• Delhi, India
26 Mar 13
It will be an experience in itself to stay with him under one roof. As the time passes you will come to know how much you could adjust with each other and that will be the acid test for both of you. All the best.
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@artemeis (4063)
• China
26 Mar 13
I think you are not simply asking if your decision to cohabit is a good one or not and to this assumption, I think you should ask yourself if you are seeing a future together with him and likewise for him. If you are saying that this might be too early to be even considering this, then I have to say that it is too early to say if this is a good decision or not. I believe you need to consider the relationship as a whole and rather than going along with the crowd, I would encourage you to take some time working on the foundations of your relationship for the both of you. You do not need to be so spontaneous to the effect that you rush with your decisions sometimes a little hesitation goes a long way especially when it is helping to you to see things broader and clearer. I do not know about you, I have never liked 3-in-1 instant coffee and like your relationship here, I think if you are uncomfortable and indecisive, then take your time. He is not a commodity.
@Raine38 (11448)
• United States
26 Mar 13
It all depends on the two of you. Living together is a good eye opener, because you will never really get to know a person unless you experienced actually living with him under the same roof. But if living together will put a lot of strain on your own resources, like instead of being more responsible your boyfriend becomes worse since now he's got you living with him to handle everything, then living together may not be a good thing.
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@mensab (4203)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
it is not a good thing if you are not married and not even planning of marriage in the future. if there is an engagement and arrangement that you will be together for the rest of your life, then i am amendable to have the arrangement of living together as acceptable. however, without this agreement and arrangement of blessing from parents and church or civil authority, then it is, sad to say, not good.