have you ever felt rejected?
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (15932)
Philippines
March 26, 2013 6:16am CST
One of the most painful feelings a person can go through is the feeling of rejection. all of us has the innate desire to be accepted for who and what I am but society at times seem to be very judgmental. I cannot remember a time when I somebody rejected me. It is not that I appraise myself to greater heights but I am the type of person who seems to be respectful of others' opinions of me. I believe that I am not born to please everybody. If people cannot accept me as I am, I don't push myself so hard to avoid the feeling of rejections. I make it a point to be critical in seeing signs of it so I won't go any further pushing myself to the limits.
have you ever felt rejected in your life? How did you cope with it?
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14 responses
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
27 Mar 13
I think that dealing with rejection is very hard. It takes me a while to get over rejection that I may feel. I think we have to start reminding ourselves that we are good at something, or whatever it may be and to work towards that. We will not be rejected at everything so we have to have that mindset.
@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
I do not take rejection so seriously because i believe we are not born to be pleased always nor the other way around. I just think of it as nothing happened.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
26 Mar 13
I really yearn other's appreciation and good opinion of me. So I really feel bad if I'm rejected. I haven't been romantically rejected, because I'm a girl who would not ask a guy out, but I was rejected by a friend once, who just bored of me. That felt really awful.
@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
31 Mar 13
Everyone of us wants to be appreciated but rejection is really inevitable. We just cannot please everyone around..
@aryajayaprakash (1643)
• Japan
26 Mar 13
It must be a painful feeling. I have never felt being rejected.
@rog0322 (2828)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
26 Mar 13
Hi,
I don't feel rejected, it is I who reject then first. I don't really care if I don't belong to any group or individual for I can always stand on my own. It has always been that way since I was a child, a loner who can get along with myself and no other. If people accept me to their circle, fine, but I always make it a point to be myself and to rely on my own as long as I can manage in order not to get hurt when they turn away from me.
@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
That's very strong of you and I admire you for that. we really don't need to push ourselves to the limit just to be accepted in the first place. It's a matter of "take me or leave me," attitude.
@pahak627 (5347)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
Lots of time. The most was when I was yet in college. I studied in a school which is famous for its medical courses in Cebu City. I was there for only 2 years and I went back to Mindanao to continue my studies. I felt rejected there specially that most of my classmates were rich. Most of them were children of doctors. My family belongs to the lower middle class. I just ignored those who rejected me and I befriended only those who took me as their friend. I didn't force myself to those who didn't like me.
@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
I do the same. When I feel like a certain person does not like me, I just walk away and never waste my precious time pushing myself to him or her.
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I felt rejected a lot of times during the awkward high school years. I was studying in a prestigious private school then, on a scholarship, plus my family doesn't have that much money then so all my stuff are not good enough for most of the people there. I was also chubby, pimply and wore nerdish glasses so my self-confidence was really on a tipping point, and I think they all can see that so I am an easy target. Well, I was not really targeted out of nothing, usually when there are class projects I am the last one to be picked out as a group mate. During school tours, I am also the last one to be picked out for a buddy. And a couple of times, I would see them snicker about my plight. It did hurt me but I made it my driving force to strive harder and aim higher for myself.
Looking back now, most people who rejected me didn't really make something big out of themselves. They got pregnant early, not finished school, those who rejected me because I was fat are the ones who are overweight now, the works. It's like the situation now is reversed, only much better. Now everyone wants to be friends with me, haha! But I know better now. I do talk with them still, but I will never forget what they put me through. But then some part of me thanks them for if not for their rejection and insults, I don't think I wouldn't be where I am now.
@ShivenderRajput1 (110)
• India
27 Mar 13
thats the best attitude to have when a person faces such kind of situation. To succumb to a situation is not its solution bt to hold on firmly to your position and show wt u r realy worth of is the key to solving this problem. Just give people the reason to believe in you and your worthy of their appreciation instead of rejection
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
Yes, I have rejected one time in my life. And I just felt so stupid trying to force myself to be accepted. I was really not the type of person who would do that. But I guess, I was on my wits end that time. And I have never dealt with anything as bad as that situation.
How I was able to cope up with it? It took a lot of courage and accepting the realities in my life.
@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Mar 13
I have felt rejected, more so when I was younger. I didn't fit in with the kids I wanted to fit in with. Heck, I didn't even fit in with my family. I never really felt like I had a place where I fit in.
As an adult, I have felt rejected with my Childcare Business. Not everyone likes my house or me so they have chosen to go elsewhere.
I think everyone at one time or another in their life has felt rejection. The only way to get through it is to push forward and leave the past where it belongs, in the past.
@WakeUpKitty (8691)
• Netherlands
26 Mar 13
Except as I was a little child by my parents and later on siblings as well, no. I tried very hard to please them all, to fit in, but it was never good enough. I am glad I left and I started a life of my own. I am still proud I found myself way more important as crawling around on my knees for them. The worst thing for me would be if I can't live with myself.
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
There are really a lot of instances in my life that I felt being rejected, especially when I was still in high school wherein I used to be a bully and an arrogant person.
@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
Most of teens feel that in their high school years especially when they start to have this peer with them. Trying to fit in is such a hard thing to deal with most of the times.
@Mavic123456 (21891)
• Thailand
26 Mar 13
many times ... sometimes I blame it on my looks.. sometimes my intelligence... but in the end.. I just give up and walk away... i don't like to compete and I am tired... so that's it.. how do I cope I look for other ways that will accept me and want me. a simple as that. I will try a bit harder to push myself towards and show why I am worth.. if still not fine.. I just back off..
@cmania (207)
• Portugal
26 Mar 13
Yes I´ve felt rejected when I was younger...
Well I guess I didn´t cope with it I dind´t knew what to do when i was rejected so I kinda criticized myself of how dumb and stupid I am and all of my little imperfections.
But than after all of that time really sad I realized I´m jsut the way I am and I dont´want to change the way I am ... maybe I´m being selfish ? Oh well If because of our differences we are rejected than I don´t know how people aren´t rejected because everyone is different.
@ShivenderRajput1 (110)
• India
26 Mar 13
well i dont think if thers a person who hasnt felt rejected in some point of life.
In my opinion one of the main reason of this is expectations. A person feels rejected when he or she expect smone to treat him or her in a particular way and when it dsnt turns up as expected its this feeling of rejection that penetrates ones heart and mind
@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
I believe those persons are in denial stage. They do not acknowledge the issue that they had expected at some points ion their lives then felt rejected..
@ShivenderRajput1 (110)
• India
26 Mar 13
well i dont think if thers a person who hasnt felt rejected in some point of life.
In my opinion one of the main reason of this is expectations. A person feels rejected when he or she expect smone to treat him or her in a particular way and when it dsnt turns up as expected its this feeling of rejection that penetrates ones heart and mind
@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
26 Mar 13
All of us have certain expectations and when they are not met, we feel the rejection. That happens to everyone.














