i need someone to cry on

Philippines
March 26, 2013 11:15am CST
The feeling that you are so sad and all alone that you want to cry all night. This is how I feel tonight. Since I have so many problems, I can't find someone whom I can cry on. Whom I can confide my problems and always there to listen. If my friend needs my shoulder, I always offer mine but when I am the one who needs shoulder to cry on, I find no one. As of this moment, I am crying while I am typing this discussion. I know it sounds corny but I need to voice it out just to somehow ease the pain. It is really hard to find someone who is willing to share his shoulder for you. Needless to say, I may look strong but I am very weak. People think that I am okay but pretending to be okay though I am not is very hard. How about you do you always have shoulder to cry on?
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@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
26 Mar 13
Hi friend. Please don't cry. It is not necessary that we will find people and shoulders to cry on every time. We just need to be mentally strong. And i know you are strong because you have shared it with so much pain.. I hardly had a shoulder to cry on so i stop my tears..i prefer not crying outside but inside or when it's too dark where no one will see and stuffs like that.. I am sure mylotters here will be there for you when you need someone. So please cheer up. Problems in life are not meant to make us cry but in fact, to make us strong and realize our true strengths. Take care.
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• Philippines
26 Mar 13
awww. Thank you for responding quickly. I feel quite relieved. Sometimes if I cannot carry my problems anymore, I just cry. Just like you, I cry when nobody's around because I prefer it that way. I have financial problems and since my redemption on a certain website is not still received, I get more anxious. How can I pay my bills if I can't get my earnings. :(
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• India
26 Mar 13
Everyone has financial problems friend. My mom has taught me that 'No matter what your conditions are, never reflect it outside. Never let yourself down'. Are you old enough to get a job? If yes, then please do try it. If no, then please try to join good trusted sites so that you can earn online. Please have a calm mind always. And if you can, try to meditate and focus on your inner energy. Then you will feel alright :)
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• Philippines
27 Mar 13
Yes I am old enough to work but my parents won't allow me so :( They say that I should be focused on my studies. Thank you for your advice :) I really appreciate it.
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27 Mar 13
Hello dear...Don't be to much emotional because it is not good for your health especially in your heart.. Even me sometimes I feel very alone,all i do is cry,but I realize,nothings happened if I just cry,Be strong and pray to God all your worries and problem,trust him,his always there,you can never feel rejection in him...Stop crying..Think positive in life..
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27 Mar 13
Yes that's it...Enjoy life..Problem is always there....See how beautiful life is...problem is just a spices in life..
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
Thank you. :) I just can't help it really. Perhaps the reason why sometimes I feel like I can't properly breathe and my chest is kinda painful because of too much crying right?
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
26 Mar 13
Welcome to Mylot, I hear your pain, and in actual fact crying is therapeutic and helps a great deal, I only wish I could cry, but being a guy it's something I find exceptionally hard to do, I was taught as a child that boy's must never cry, how crazy is that. If I was able to cry I would heal much quicker. Sometimes just getting it off your chest, even if it's through Mylot as a medium it can help a great deal, someone who will listen to you, empathize and offer support. I know I have found Mylot a wonderful place where I've nowhere or no one to turn too.
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
For me, men can also cry. You are a truly man if you admit that you are weak. I have a friend and he never cries until he met me and confide his family problems to me. I didn't laugh at him but instead I was so proud of him for being so brave that he cried. Yes, Mylot for me is good place also to find people who can support you and give you advice though we do not know each other in person. I really appreciate your comment. :)
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
26 Mar 13
It's bad if you help others, but you feel left alone with your own problems. As for me, when I feel like crying, I'd rather be on my own, actually. It's weird, but it's like, I don't wanna seem vulnerable or show my weakness to people. But, just for a rant, or asking for advice, I like to have friends around, and it would be pretty devastating, if they neglected me.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
26 Mar 13
Oh, and you may try writing it out in a journal - that actually does the trick for me.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
27 Mar 13
I hate it when people see me cry because aside from I can't really talk when I am crying, it also makes me feel more vulnerable so when I feel this way, I write what I feel in a paper and hide it somewhere, then I read them after a few days later when I'm already feeling better. Somehow doing this makes me feel stronger. It reminds me not to give up easily and not to let others treat me unfairly again (it happens sometimes). Then I wet them and tear them into pieces then throw or flush it in the toilet to make sure no one will be able to read it. I only talk to someone when I am already feeling better so I don't have to cry and be able to watch out my emotions. And so that I can be reasonable and listen to any advise with a clear head.
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• Philippines
27 Mar 13
Yes, I only confide my negative feelings after I cried. Because when I am in too much pain I sob and sometimes I do not listen to anyone's advice. I share my problems when I feel better in 3 days. Before I write down what I feel but now I only cry on my own. Sometimes I just sleep my pain.
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@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
very rare in my life that i cried with someone's shoulder. if i want to cry, i want to do it in an exclusive place where no one can see me. yes, like you, they saw me as a tough girl but deep inside i struggled so much to be strong. but my best confidante during this moment is God. i prayed harder as my tears rolled down into my cheeks. by doing this, i will feel His relieving power in my system. He has the best shoulder to cry on. you should try doing this also and see it in yourself how His healing powers might relieved you.
• Philippines
27 Mar 13
Thanks missjahn :) You are really right. God is the best listener and He will never forsake you. It is good to talk to Him sincerely, voicing out your problems. I do this sometimes because I know God is the Provider. I hope that I can be as strong as you because you really run to GOD when you are alone :)
• United States
26 Mar 13
I have my husband to lean on and he has me to lean on. I know that I can also come online and type my feelings out on here and people do help each other out. I feel sometimes it is easier to get my feelings out on here because people can give their advice without having to take sides. I hope you can find someone to make you feel better. Please feel free to share your feelings here.
@lakshmi11 (278)
• United States
1 May 13
Most people have feelings like you do at the moment. We are all trained to feel sad and concentrate on all the bad stuff. But the moment you feel better this time try to take responsibility for how you feel. From the moment on when you feel better this time, look everyday at all the good stuff happening to you, and emphazise this in your mind. Think about it talk about it and try to find new good stuff to talk about all the time. Don't let the bad in talk yourself out of that one by saying to yourself what if things were so and so how would I feel and what would I do. --Just try it you will find that you get more of the things you think about ! I am sure this will help
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
27 Mar 13
Hi sittie! It is really a good thing if we have someone to share our problems with and with me it would be my husband. Sometimes, it is kinda frustrating if we thought we have friends around but when problems came, we could not rely on them. That is reality. We have to stand on our own. Yeah, crying helps us to release some burden and pain inside. Have a wonderful day! Hope everything is okay now.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
27 Mar 13
I get that way sometimes. More when I was here all alone. Id have to call on my big brother. Hope you are doing well now.
@jiiiiin (586)
• Philippines
29 Mar 13
Whenever I have heavy problems that I think I can't bear anymore I just cry it myself alone. I know most of the people prefer to have shoulders to cry on but I prefer to be alone and don't show my tears to anyone. I know it is okay to cry in front of other people but I can't. I don't want other people to see my weak side.
@cmania (207)
• Portugal
27 Mar 13
I odn´t have any shoulder to cry on. My friends arne´t the type giving a shoulder but the type off kicking your but and make you forget the sadness... but it only last a bit, altough it´s sweet of them. Since some days I´ve been htinking that sending letters to tell how my day was to my father was a way of being heard by someone and responded well responded... maybe i´ts not the same as having osmeone real near us but it helps a bit. When everything is bad we just need to make us stronger so we can cope with our tears.
@honor00 (185)
26 Mar 13
OK. Hanky on shoulder, box of tissues ready, a comforting arm, a hug, now how can I help? I'm sure I can if you tell me; come on, spill
@honor00 (185)
26 Mar 13
I suspected financial worries. Is there something you can sell, which for preference, leaves a comforting nest egg. Then budget and plan your expenditure= - cash flow. Cry some
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@jstory07 (134120)
• Roseburg, Oregon
22 Aug 15
Please don'nt cry do you have at least one best friend that you can talk to.That will make you feel a whole lot better.