So my DIL drove passed me in car park but..
By cynthiann
@cynthiann (18602)
Jamaica
April 2, 2013 12:58pm CST
My GS turned down the window and shouted and waved, so she slowed down. The twins were happy to see me and wanted to talk but after a tight smile she drove off again. I was hurt but just smiled and waved at them.
I knew that she had been in my home as my GS was holding a book on weather (his latest interest) that I had bought from the Cancer Society shop for him. He said it was wonderful and kept thanking me. I had left it on my coffee table for him to have when he returned home so that is how I knew that they had been inside of my home.
The lady that helps me worked today so when I reached home she said that the twins had come into the house with their mother and that they had hugged and kissed her and then my GS saw the book and knew that it was for him. He told the lady to tell me thanks and that he was taking it with him as he couldn't wait to read it.
I then asked what it was that their mother wanted. She said that she didn't know but their mother went into my son's bedroom and when she came out they all left. No message given or anything.
I'm wondering what she wanted. Do you think that I had better check the room in case there is a grenade or some device timed to explode? 
My husband always said that I took a serious thing and made joke of it but it is my way of coping.
My husband always said that I took a serious thing and made joke of it but it is my way of coping.4 people like this
15 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
You're thinking too much! 
Relax! I am sure that your DIL would not go to the extent of planting a bomb inside your son's room.
Relax! I am sure that your DIL would not go to the extent of planting a bomb inside your son's room.1 person likes this
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
3 Apr 13
Jenny, u just don't know how mean this woman is & i would not put anything past her. U have no idea what Cythiann has gone through w/this mean bit**(.
@ cYNTHI, I'M NOT JOKING, DEAR.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Apr 13
I have read past posts of cynthiann and have felt how bad she feels about her DIL. And maybe she can be the evil DIL, but I hope she doesn't go to the extent of having to do such things. We all want the whole family to be safe including cynthiann.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
3 Apr 13
She had no buisness in your house & i would let her know that. She was up to no good. I would let the law know she was there w/out my permission.i would put nothing past her. U know how i feel about her & AS I SAID WOULD PUT ANYTHING PAST HER. sHE COULD BE DANGEROUS, cYNTHI. qUIT THINKING THE BEST OF EVERYONE. THERE ARE ALOT OF MEAN PEOPLE OUT THERE & I WOULD THINK SHE'S CLOSE TO THE TOP OF THE LIST. U NEED TO REPORT EVERYTHING THING SHE DOES LIKE THIS. PLEASE BE CAREFUL & KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN. LOVE YA!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
3 Apr 13
U NEED TO QUIT making excuses for her. Open your eyes real wide & expect the worse from her because that's what u are going to get. I just don't trust her, Cynthi & i'm afraid she is going to do something really bad to u.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 13
My GF tonight said that I always make excuses for her bad behaviour. No, I expect anything from her now - really sad but it is the truth. Love ya too Jo
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
3 Apr 13
Bedroom huh?
How do you know if she had not sneaked out into the kitchen? Access your medicine cabinet?
If I were you, I would conduct a HazMat sweep, check for remote webcams and eavesdropping devices around the house. Send all my dried sundries especially your tea leaves to be analyzed for arsenic to cyanide. I would also check with your son if he had changed the safe's combination after he got separated and I am not going to be comfortable if the answer is a no. Just for that extra caution, get him back to check the safe's content if he is very predictable by nature. Better be safe than sorry here. So, this is not being paranoid.
Sorry but I have my suspicions - call it a woman's instinct especially when she had been nothing but mean. Also, I don't buy that she's got a job waiting for her in the US because at this current economic situation hiring companies will not wait even if she's some gifted prodigy. So, before she could lay a hand on any of you (hopefully not) make sure you are close enough to chop that head off.
"Keep your friends close and your enemies closer." Sun Tzu
"Keep your friends close and your enemies closer." Sun Tzu@artemeis (4194)
• China
3 Apr 13
Middle East?
Well, well, well, now you really have to check for anthrax or some biological agents like pneumonia plague strain on toilet seat covers and etc.?
Anyway, this sounds all the more serious and who is to say that she would not reapply passports for the twins by using some excuse of their previous passports being lost? Make sure their birth certificates are in your son's possession along with some written custodial papers. It is better to be very clear and legal here. As for her, she can contribute to the jihadist over there for all she wants.
Again, be careful.
Anyway, this sounds all the more serious and who is to say that she would not reapply passports for the twins by using some excuse of their previous passports being lost? Make sure their birth certificates are in your son's possession along with some written custodial papers. It is better to be very clear and legal here. As for her, she can contribute to the jihadist over there for all she wants.
Again, be careful.@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 13
My home is small and the kitchen is part of the sitting area so that was okay but she may have used the bathroom from the son's bedroom. I will check there as we have checked everywhere else. She never knew the safe combination as he got this when they separated and locked away pasports etc.
She may actually work in the Middle east where she was before - I honestly do not know
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
2 Apr 13
I wouldn't be at all happy that the woman is letting herself into my home without permission! Ugh! When is she leaving again?
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 Apr 13
Well the children obviously walked right in as the door is open and the lady who cleans for me did not know what to do in a case like this as she had never met her before. It is a bit of cheek though as she could have called me to ask if she could pick up extra clothes or something the children wanted
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
2 Apr 13
I just don't like her.. she has no class, no common sense, no courtesy! She has no right to let herself into your home without your permission.. she should have called first. Rude, disrespectful, and downright ugly!
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
3 Apr 13
Hiya C.A.
Pardon me but does she always drive straight past you like that all the time? Or was it just a once in a blue moon event?
Sounds like she went there to see if she could get something using the children as an excuse by the look of it.
Did she know where the strong box was sounds very fishy to me.
Like everyone is saying keep your guard up and watch every step she makes if you can if she tries to go into your House.
By the way it was very rude of her to go into your House without you even being there that is being very rude.
Do you think she could have taken something from out of that room. Although you cannot know yet can you until your Son comes back can you?xxx
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 13
She abandoned the twins with me from early last October and went to Florida. This is her first visit back from she left so she came for the children. Contrarily, she could have left them with her mother but her mother would not have them. This is the second time she has done this. She and my son were separated from last year and divorce is pending. A real mix up but my concern is for the children. The adults can deal with it - they cant. But she became extremly vicious towards my son and I and things got nasty. So she is supposed to leave within a week and then I try to put back the pieces again with the children. My son and I have always respected her and speak positively and kindly of her to the children as she should be respected as she is their mother. I just wish that she would do the sameand stop confusing them
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 13
Sorry - it does not look like anything is missing and his safe is in a closet - not easily found.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
3 Apr 13
Hello C.A.,
Good news then if she could find anything to take with her. She probably thought that she might be able to get something though by the sound of it.
No one dares to go into anyone´s house especially when they are not there at least not educated people.
Very sad state of affairs and you are right to be so concerned about those very young children.
Just the same I would be vigilant for the just in case she might try something again.
Hope it all works out for the best.xxx
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
9 Apr 13
It's great that twins feel right at home when they went to your place!
I saw from dawn's response here, you mentioning about a safe that your son that only he can open. I'd hate to think it, but that must have been it. I don't like that she's sneaky going in and out while you were out, and not telling anybody about it.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
9 Apr 13
The twins have always regarded my hime as their home as I had them for two years when they were 17 months to three and a half when she took them back. She has not gone back to the US and I do not know her movements but I will see them tomorrow as my instructions are to collect them from school and keep them until her brother comes to collect them from my home. I know that the judge will give her custody and I know that my son will not put them through being interroh
gated by a judge and being forced to choose between their parents as he would regard that as cruelty. She will go back and then come and take them in August to wherever she has a job. My job is still to love them and offer stability at this time and to also show respect to their mother and never disrespect their mother in front of them. I am so glad that there are two of them as they have each nother and are not alone. And no, I am not taking this well but it is the right thing to do
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
2 Apr 13
I don't know how your home is set up or how much the housekeeper kept an eye on her but from reading all your other discussions I would be checking the entire home. I would not for a minute trust that she did not plant some illegal substance or something in there. Why did she need to follow your grandson into the room at all? If he is smart enough to read a weather book (my grandson is into the weather too) then he is perfectly smart enough to pack some extra clothing. I would not put anything past this woman. She has pulled enough bizarre stuff to raise my guard and I'm not even involved. Do NOT trust her.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
2 Apr 13
oh and I meant to add...set up a plan for your housekeeper for if this ever happens again. She should not be allowed to roam free through your home. I would not even trust her to use the bathroom without someone escorting her there and then searching it afterwards to make sure she did not pull anything. You have previously said that things have been planted in your garden ...just don't trust her.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 13
Thanks Sid - I don't trust her either and we did do a search. I have told the housekeeper to keep the grilled gate locked at all times so she just cannot walk in and out when we are not there. Thank you for the bathroom tip. My eyes are opened to her antics!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
2 Apr 13
ooophh!! i do not trust that woman. id surely check everything. she might be after life insurance on your son or something. why else would she come when you are not there? id tell her she needs to call first. its only right. 
is she not giving them back after her little vacation she had from them? she may be planning on keeping them till she wants a vacation from them again and bringing them back, then taking them again when shes ready what a mean woman. no thought for anyone elses pain.@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 13
I did call and tell my son. I hope that she willl be gone in afew days - perhaps this weekend hopefully
@allknowing (130063)
• India
3 Apr 13
You sure are in a spot. Do your grandsons know about your relationship with their mother? If they do then it was wrong on their part to go to your house with their mother in tow. I do find it odd that your DIL walked in when you were not around.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 13
Their mother drove them to my home to pick up something - whatever - when I wan't there. The twins are six years old and this is the place they have always called home. I had them from they were 17 months old until they were three and a half before she took them again. Then she left them wth me last October. I do ot know what she wa up to. I suspect looking for their passports
@allknowing (130063)
• India
3 Apr 13
Next time see that she comes to your house when you are there. I do not like even my bosom pals to visit me when I am not there and this one is far from being your bosom pal!
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Apr 13
I think that was really rude of her to walk into your home. Has she never heard of a telephone or something? I hope she did not steal anything or do anything crazy! That woman needs to learn some respect and manners, among other things like how to be a good mother!
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 13
I think that she was checking for the children's passports or something. I honestly do not know her motives
@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
7 Apr 13
hi dear Cynthie, I am in shock again reading this. So she is not only a person from Hell as I said in my other answer to your post re. sports day but has no manners too. How can she just get into your house when you are not there and be that rude? I would never do such a thing to enter my mom in laws house when she is not home.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
9 Apr 13
No manners at all my friend and the lady that I have working just didn't know what to do as she had never met her before.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
2 Apr 13
Or maybe she bugged his bedroom, go try to check if she installed some listening devices there or some hidden camera! I'm just teasing. Well, that wasn't so nice of your DIL, but at least your grandson is so happy and obviously loves his gifts. You shouldn't really care that much about her, as long as your grandchildren gets to see you often and that she isn't telling them horrible stuff about you then you just take her and her presence like a grain of salt. If there is one thing that you can be grateful to her is the fact that she gave birth to your lovely grandson.
I'm just teasing. Well, that wasn't so nice of your DIL, but at least your grandson is so happy and obviously loves his gifts. You shouldn't really care that much about her, as long as your grandchildren gets to see you often and that she isn't telling them horrible stuff about you then you just take her and her presence like a grain of salt. If there is one thing that you can be grateful to her is the fact that she gave birth to your lovely grandson.@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 13
Hidden cameras now that is a thought. I think that I was moe hurt that she would drive by me without stopping the most
@FireflyN (22)
• United States
2 Apr 13
You can't take everything too seriously. Sometimes a person needs to make light of a situation in order to keep their head and properly see to the situation. Nothing wrong with that at all :)
You know, checking for explosives isn't necessarily a bad idea. It may seem like a paranoid thing to do, but hey - when have paranoid people ever been blown up by a device that they didn't know was there? Very rarely. Usually they find it first and can call the fire dept and grab a coffee while it is taken care of~
On a more serious note, you may still want to check and see if you can tell if anything is missing. If she took something that belonged to your son, he really should know. Hopefully it was just something for the kids.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 Apr 13
Probably something for the kids but the lady who works for us did not see her coming out with anything but she did go into the room with a bag., I called the son but he is on his way to the city and could not turn around to check
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Apr 13
It's how I cope too.
Should you be looking for a grenade or taking inventory of the jewelry?
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
2 Apr 13
Not much jewellry but am giving thanks that the son has a safe thta onoy he knows the combination of that contains all important documents etc