Embarrassed at a restaurant

@dorannmwin (36665)
United States
April 2, 2013 9:14pm CST
Yesterday, being as how the children are on spring break this week, I decided to take the two of them out for lunch. We went to Arby's and got all of our food ordered and then I discovered that I didn't have my debit card on me. I was humiliated. Well, I had an adult friend with me, so I left her and the children at the restaurant while I had to run home to get a check and then run to the nearest branch of our bank to get some cash so that I would be able to pay for our food. This is the first time that something like this has ever happened to me. My husband tried to make me feel better by telling me that I'm not the first person that this has ever happened to. However, I don't know anyone else that something like this has ever happened to. Have you or has anyone that you know ever had this kind of an experience before when it came to paying for a purchase that you made when you were away from home.
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@Hugsy25 (274)
• Canada
3 Apr 13
I went to the grocery store once not realizing that my husband had already used the $20 I thought was in my wallet. Luckily my mother was with me so I borrowed from her. I told him when I got home if he ever took the money with out telling me again I would shoot him. LOL I don't mind that he goes in my wallet since it's our money. He doesn't carry a wallet so I keep all the money in my purse. It's just the thought that he could of told me haha.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
That is pretty much what had happened in our situation. I keep the debit card in my purse and he had taken it out to make a purchase and hadn't told me about the fact that he had taken the debit card out of my purse.
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@Hugsy25 (274)
• Canada
8 Apr 13
Silly men. He always tells me now when he's taking money.
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
9 Apr 13
I wish that this would be something that we could get to the point of. I've actually gone so far as to hide my purse sometimes.
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@jenny1015 (13380)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
It has happened to me but it was just from a local store who happens to be renting on my in law's apartment. I was a bit embarrasses but then at least it was just a few walk away from our house.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
I really, really wish that it would have been something that would have happened a little bit closer to home, but that was not the case at all. That's okay though because it has been something that I've been able to get over.
@jenny1015 (13380)
• Philippines
8 Apr 13
It happens, really. We just can't get away with some silly stuff every now and then, right?
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
9 Apr 13
Would life be worth living if we weren't able to get away with being silly from time to time?
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
3 Apr 13
Your husband it right, you are not the first person this happened to. But I guess it is particularly embarassing when food is ordered. I have devised a little system for myself. I usually pay everything with my debit card. I also have a Visa card with a very low limit, deliberately low since I only use this card for purchases on the internet. I keep it in a separate compartment in my purse and if I forgot my debit card or left it in the ATM machine by mistake (yes, it happened) I can pay with my Visa. One question though, in the end where was your debit card? You said you had to run to the bank to cash a cheque, so I guess it was not at home either. I hope you found it.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
Yeah, the debit card was in my husband's car at his place of work. It was much easier for me to run home and then run to the bank to cash a check than it would have been to run all the way to his work.
@suzzy3 (8356)
3 Apr 13
Don't be embarrased about something like that.Lots of people forget their wallet or debit card. I must admit it has never happened to me.I have just about paid with enough cash sometimes,so a debit card is wonderful.I think you worry to much just laugh it off.
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@SomeCowgirl (32258)
• United States
3 Apr 13
I work for a grocery store and see this quite often. Someone comes in and either forgot their debit card in the car or at home and they have to run back to get it. Most of the time they are the ones that live close by so it's no big deal to run back and get it. You may have been the only one you saw that happen to that day, but trust me you aren't the only one that this has happened to.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
I have seen this happen at grocery stores in the past, but this really was the first time that I've ever seen something like that happen at a fast food restaurant.
@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 13
Oh yes, this has happened to me too but fortunately I knew the owner of the restaurant and went back the next day to pay the bill. Don't be embarrassed as the problem was solved without the management knowing. Aren't you human too? and we all make mistakesYour husband is right
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
I know that he was right in this situation, but it still made me feel like a bad person. I mean they had already dropped the order and then had to waste the food that we had ordered in the first place because they cooked for me fresh when I came back with the money. That was such a waste.
• United States
3 Apr 13
I cant count how many timess i've gotten to the cashier at the grocery store, and discovered that my debit card is not in my wallet! Lol. You'd think i'd learn to check my wallet before leaving the jouse! Actually i do now.....sometimes!lol. I also sometimes check my balance at an atm before shopping, i was furious last week when my card got denied after depositing a few paychecks, which according to my bank werent available because i deposited right before Good Firday and the money wouldnt be availabe until the following tuesday!
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
Oh yeah, that is something that also really stinks. We've had that happen with a deposit at the bank before too and it is a terrible feeling when you go to make a purchase only to have your card declined.
• United States
3 Apr 13
How is forgetting one's debit card embarrassing? Inconvenient? Yes. Embarrassing? Not so much. I would be more embarrassed to admitting to feeding my children anything that came from Arby's... or eating it myself.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
Not embarrassed about that, we don't eat fast food all that often and it was a treat for them. That was the first time that we'd been there in months and it will probably be summer before we end up there again.
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
Hi dorannmwin. I think it happens once in a lifetime. You just have to laugh at it. For sure that restaurant have encountered few instances like that with their customers. Nothing to really be feeling bad about since you have the intention to pay. Sometimes when we have too many things on our mind, too tired or even too excited we tend to forget things that matters. At least it's only about that. Some people tend to forget that they're boiling water, cooking rice in a stove and so on. That will be very alarming as it can cause the house to burn right? It can also help to have a check list if you experience it again. If you have a friend who have cash that time, he or she can lend you cash so you don't have to go home and go back to the restaurant and go home again. You can treat her some of her favorite food the next time you dine out as a return of the favor. I've experienced that very long time ago. I think once but I have cash with me. It's a fine dining restaurant. I was in a hurry going home. I forgot I haven't paid the bill and no one even noticed me. I rushed back to the restaurant because I don't want them to think that I ran away. Lols.
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
I will admit that there was time in my life that I did dine and dash. However, the reason that I did it wasn't because of the fact that I didn't have money to pay for the food, it was because of the fact that the little boy that I was watching ended up getting sick and I needed to get him home as quick as possible. I thought my boyfriend paid for the food and he thought I paid for it.
@roshigo58 (4866)
• Pune, India
3 Apr 13
Hi, This had happened to me only once but that restaurant is very near to our house so I I brought my wallet form my house in only 15 minutes. I didn't feel very embarrasing because I was with my son and my wife.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
I think that it ended up taking me about 20 minutes to get home, run to the bank to get cash and get back to the restaurant to pay for the food. Still, it was quite an inconvenience.
@jazel_juan (15758)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
oh that happened to me too! but what was worse was i was in a public transportation and i forgot my wallet! lol.. i have to tell the driver to turn back home!
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
If something like that was to happen with public transportation, I really do think that it would be a very embarrassing thing because you would be holding up everyone, not just yourself.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
3 Apr 13
You are not alone dear. This has happened to me once when I felt humiliated and low but now it has become a matter of laughter while recollecting funny incidents. I once had the shopping cart loaded only to realize at the billing counter that I had left the card at home. That's how life is!
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
I definitely do think that it is a part of how life goes, but that really doesn't make it any easier to accept when something like that has happened.
@lumenmom (1995)
• United States
3 Apr 13
This happens a lot more than you would think. Yes, it is embarrassing, but it's not like the people really care that you did that. It's your ego that took a hit, but relax. It is natural human error. Reminds me of how I got on the city bus and thought I had picked up my bus card but instead I picked up my food assistance card and when I realized what I had done, I had to exit the bus at the next stop. We all have things happen that turn our faces red. We just have to grin and bear it.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
I mean I did try to make light of it in saying that I guessed that I would be doing their dishes for the rest of the day, but the server didn't get any kind of humor out of that at all.
@dawnald (84074)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Apr 13
Ha, I was expecting a discussion where the kids were acting up and embarrassed you. I did go to the cafe next to work, and when I went to pay I didn't have my $5 bill on me, so I was going to go back to work and get money but the guy said I could pay him back next time. We had worked out how much I owe him, and then I turned around and saw the darn $5 bill on the floor.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
To see that kind of trust by people in a store is a really good thing. Unfortunately, that is not something that I've ever seen happening around here very often at all.
• United States
3 Apr 13
Do'nt even sweat it, trust me being a mother of 4, stuff like this is a daily thing.....why just the other day I went grocery shopping with my 4 year old she wanted to do the express checkout, you know the do it yourself! Well I guess we has a few too many items so after scanning about 15 and realizing all the rest of the stuff I still had in my basket had to all be placed on a small designated area , I had to call for an attendant who cancelled my order helped me put the items already bagged into my cart and take me to a regular checkout....all along the way my 4 year old is screaming her head off because she wanted to the express check out yourself! So we get to the regular line,and she is still screaming, I load all $90.00 worth of groceries again, un-bagging the ones I previously bagged ,and I go to pay....and what do you know I had a toys r us gift card instead of my bank card in my back pocket...I got snide comments from the woman behind me who only had 5 items or so,she looked like she was gonna have a coronary.So I asked if they took checks, the cashier said "yes", so I got my checkbook out just to find out I had already written my last check and only had deposit slips. So I got my screaming child and went to my car as fast as I could. So you see its not all that bad it happens to the best of us. Plus they won't remember what happened , they have so many customers with worse luck than us . So don't feel bad you could've been all alone with a screaming child and no funds or anyone to help! And angry customers behind you muttering their whatever's. It's a Mom thing,it will happen again too,so don't trip potato chip. It's okay
@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
That is one problem that we've never had as the self checkout at our grocery store doesn't have a limit on how many items that you are able to scan in a single purchase. I tend to use those all the time because of the fact that it seems to be a lot quicker in my opinion.
@Rick1950 (1587)
• Lima, Peru
3 Apr 13
Well, I think you had a lot of work running back to your home looking for some cash. A time when I was visiting a foreing city, I went to the store and bought a shoe article. At the moment to pay I saw that I had forgotten my money. The salesman said I could take the product and pay later, what I did after. The good thing was the confidence showed by him that made me feel well. At a restaurant I never had such experience, but can you leave your personal identity document until you come back for paying?
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
I don't know about that, but I left my best friend and my two children there as collateral until I was able to get back with the money that I needed to pay for our lunch.
@lelin1123 (15638)
• Puerto Rico
3 Apr 13
This has happened many time to people. You are not the first and you won't be the last. I remember so many times being on a grocery line and people either forgetting their wallets or not having enough money to pay for their groceries. They would have to run to the car or to the ATM to get money. I believe it also happened to us once when we were out. I think though my husband just had to go to the car to get the wallet.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
I have seen this kind of thing happen at a grocery store many times, but I have never seen it happen at a restaurant until it happened to me. Of course the server couldn't find any humor at all when I joked as said I guessed that I would be doing their dishes for the rest of the day.
• United States
3 Apr 13
I am sorry that this has happened to you. I had this happen to me once and it was embarrassing. I am glad that you were able to return home so you can get your wallet and take money out. I am sure it has happened to many people.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
I too am sure that this is something that has happened to many other people as well. However, I do also have to say that knowing that really doesn't make me feel any better about it happening.
@jaiho2009 (38992)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
I had almost the same experienced like this long ago. I was at the grocery and all items were already punched by the cashier when I found out that my wallet is missing. Good thing my kids are with me so I ask my son to drive back home and get my wallet which I left on my bed (duh) That was really embarrassing -but I have learned a good lesson.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
Prior to this experience, the closest that I've ever come to having this happen was when my husband stayed in the car and I went into the store and he had the debit card on him. Luckily, all that I had to do in that situation was to call him in the car and have one of the kids bring the card in to me.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
I haven't experience such for i am not using cards usually i pay in cash but similar thing happen i ran out of cash just a few centavos i needed , i our place was too far from tha mall which i bought and the item was already entered the machine , so shameful so what i did is i asked from a stranger after me in the line . So humiliating but i tried to tell myself ,nothing wrong in asking , i didn't steal. It is a lesson for me , from there on i always brings an extra money out.
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@dorannmwin (36665)
• United States
8 Apr 13
Well, I'm not using credit cards, but rather our ATM card as it is a lot less dangerous when that is lost than it is when cash is lost. However, it was still something that was very embarrassing to me.