StepMotherHood

Philippines
April 3, 2013 11:03am CST
It's my 3rd day as a stepmom. I have 3 stepkids. They are aged 11(almost 12), 9, and 8 yrs old. The middle child is the only son. They are sweet kids and I think they miss having a mother figure at home. They are a handful most of the time and they need proper guidance. My husband did his best in raising them 3 kids but a man who works a full time job can only do so much... I am so proud of him though coz he did a pretty good job. The kids like me...and for that I am really thankful coz I know that not all stepmoms are liked by their stepkids. I hope and pray that I will be the kind of stepmom that they want and need. I know things won't be peachy all the time...some days will be tough, but I will do my best at all times. :o) Any stepmoms out there who would like to share their experiences with their stepkids?
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8 responses
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
I am not a step mom but i can tell you are a wonderful step mom. I hate calling a step mom a step mom. She is doing the responsibilities of a mother then she deserved to be called a mom ! It is so hard to tame kids that are not yours and that have grown up already but with a very kind and loving mom all will be possible . See this kids gives back what you are given to them . They reciprocated the love that you gave ! This is very admirable and this is more than enough.
• Philippines
8 Apr 13
Thank you for the kind words! I don't mind what they call me... The title of stepmom doesnt bother me at all. I am blessed to have a wonderful husband who trusts me and encourages me to discipline the kids if and when i feel the need to. Im thankful for the kids too...they are quite handful at times but yes they are quick to reciprocate the love i show them. They are wonderful kids for the most part! :o)
• Lenox, Georgia
3 Apr 13
I am not a step mother either but I am sure it is a challenging role to be in. I wish you the best of luck and I know you will be a great stepmom to the kids. :)
• Philippines
4 Apr 13
Hello! :o) Yes it is challenging. But I have a lot to be thankful for. The kids like me. They like having me here. My husband is wonderful. He cooperates and works with me in the changes that I want to implement in the house a little at a time. :o) Thank you for your reply. Have a wonderful day!
@zzarskie (48)
• Philippines
3 Apr 13
I am not a stepmother, but I just want to congratulate you for having such wonderful stepchildren. I know they are lucky to have you, and you are lucky to have them. I really wish all the best and hope the happiness and grace showered to you will continue. God bless!
• Philippines
4 Apr 13
Thank you for the kind response! Yes, I am happy to be in this family. I know I'm where I'm supposed to be... The eldest is entering adolescence and is sometimes a handful... I'm just thankful that my husband is a wonderful man and welcomes my opinions and suggestions... Coz in this kind of family, teamwork is important. And my husband is good at teamwork. Again, thank you for your time! :o)
@roshigo58 (4866)
• Pune, India
3 Apr 13
Hi, You are very loving, caring and kind stepmother. My father had a stepmother who is not good. She always used to hate my father and his siblings. My father left out the home for education and job at very young age. She was very selfish. She was not like you. Some people in our surroundings, who are jealous teach children something bad about the stepmother. I wish you a happy family life with your husband and your kids. Don't call them a step kids.
• Philippines
4 Apr 13
Thank you so much for the kind compliments! This is the life that I chose and I want to be the best that I can be. I'm sorry to hear about your father having a not-so-wonderful stepmom... I come from a very happy home. I have the best parents in the world...2 crazy but loving brothers and my sisters is nlaw are even more wonderful. I left that world behind to be with my husband here in NY. I'm from the Philippines. He is a wonderful man and had a tough time raising the kids and working full time. Before he went into a relationship with me he made sure I would accept and love the kids. Yes I would like to call them kids and not stepkids...and I do that once in a while... But their mom is still living in this same time...and I don't want them to feel like I'm trying to take the place of their mom...eventhough she hardly spends time with them, she is still their biological mom. So as much as possible I refrain from calling them "my kids". :o) And I've only been here 5days...so I'm being really careful. Thank you for taking the time to reply.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
4 Apr 13
Should you do not ever lie to children. Although it should be disclosed that can be painful. Lead children to be more powerful, but not to lie to them. Besides honest, you also need extra patience when facing the children. Do not expect the kids can turn out good overnight. Give children time. If indeed you are a good stepmother, stepchildren believe you will grow into a nice children.
@cttolledo (5049)
• Philippines
4 Apr 13
Wow! that's not easy job to do.. well i think you have abig heart to take care them as your own children...Goodluck.. Have a long patience always!
@amundy8 (58)
4 Apr 13
You sound like a caring, thoughtful stepmom. Will you one day consider adding more children one day? I have been a stepmom before, and although not under the same roof, it was still challenging. I don't kids of my own yet and wanted a husband who didn't have any either. Didn't work out that way, because I am in love with a wonderful dad of two teen daughters! They don't live with him either, but it was hard in the beginning due to the ex-wife's drama of not wanting them near anyone new, nor her wanting any discipline from their dad when the girls act unruly, especially in public. Thankfully, we have not had any more problems and hopefully it will remain that way...somehow. I would like to make it work, because I have tried to get to know the girls, since we all have the same gifts in common. Only time will tell.
• India
3 Apr 13
Well, I am not stepmother, after all I am not even a female. But I can say motherhood is all about loving and caring be it a stepmom, wife lover whatever. If you could love and care your kids like how your mother loved you... I bet no one can dare to call you as stepmom.