Is forcing for eating meals is good habit?

Forcing for eating is not good thing - Meals should not be over dose
India
April 5, 2013 1:30am CST
Few days before I goes in my relatives house there they are saying me take the meal. I say no I am already eat my meal few minutes before and I came here but they not trying to understand they are saying I know you are telling lie and dont do drama sit and eat the meal. I say okkk I will eat only on chapati but they serve me more chapati and forcing me for eating. I eat but few minutes after my stomach was doing dance and I go there where mostly people goes in morning time. With in 1 hour I goes two time then I say to my cousin sister see how facing the problem and why not trust on me why serve more meal.
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13 responses
@grvdubey11 (1879)
• India
5 Apr 13
Everyone has to face this problem,and its like that, if you refuse to take the meal someone requested ,its considered to be rude.Whenever i visit relatives or friends its big trouble for me too ,because after returning i have to work out to burn all those extra calories.Best wishes.
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• India
5 Apr 13
Hello, the problem is that there are not many people who understand .Few years back i refused to eat sweets when we visited one of our relatives,after we were gone they told other guests that i am showing attitude as i work abroad and think high of myself.LOL strange isn't it.
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• India
6 Apr 13
Ohhh God grv people can think such you are showing attitude but if we are doing refuse then here how came attitude. Really very hard to understand the human nature. Hmmm prashu my friend I hope you will not behave with me like rude if I will refuse in your home for eating.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
5 Apr 13
Hi yes some people consider it as rude but actually its not. Actually we become rude to our stomach when we agree to eat hehe. But they should understand the situation of the person when they say no.
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• India
6 Apr 13
Hi Surekha Bhabhi. This kind of thing happens. And I think it is more prevalent in our country. In India giving your guests food is like doing something holy. So people in India stress so much on guests to eat food. However, it is not the same in our house. My mom loves to make food for others, but she never forces anyone to eat more and more even if they are full. She gives the guests complete liberty. However, she also knows when a guest is feeling shy. Anyways have a nice day !! SuperShames
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• India
6 Apr 13
Hehee...you are right in India forcing system is common for any guest. But in my home no chance of forcing my MIL ask make tea then if guest say no then she never ask second time. But my mother is also like your mother she feel happy to make any dish for guest.
• India
7 Apr 13
Hi surekha bhabhi. I think it depends from person to person. Some people are like your mother in law, some like my mother and some like your cousin. But in India mostly people are like your cousin only.. Have a nice day !!
@allknowing (130088)
• India
5 Apr 13
If I do not want to eat I will not, no matter how much they force me. It is my body and I know when to eat!
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@allknowing (130088)
• India
6 Apr 13
I enjoy good health and have no diet restrictions but if a guest who is a diabetic arrives I never offer sweets. Nor will I give them any beverage by adding sugar. I will first ask. If we care for others we will not force them to do things against their will.
• India
6 Apr 13
Ohhh God I am feeling like you will anger on me if I will force you for eating. Dont worry I will not ask you for eating if you will came in my home hehe...you are right friend only you know about your body problem.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
6 Apr 13
surekharathi It is part of manners and often culture to be generous and want to serve guests..and especially relatives. This happens in our family too. My suggestion is not to fight it..lol just don't eat before you visit..since you know they will want to give you food. It is wonderful to have generous, friendly relatives and I feel sorry for all who are missing that.
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• India
6 Apr 13
Now this was my first experience next time I will go there empty stomach and say give me lots of meals I not eat anything from my home hehe...
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
5 Apr 13
haha surekha stomach dancing . yes i have come across such people they wont listen and force us to eat which irritates me a lot. when we are not comfortable and saying them why dont they listen? we have to face the problem after wards which is like hell. I dont think its right to force people when they say no to anything.
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• India
6 Apr 13
Hmmmm nice means you understand my problem and if I will came in your home means you will not force me but at least once say me surekha do you want to take some snacks. Then I will reply yes or no otherwise you will think ohhh Surekha is already take meals so why should ask hehee...
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Apr 13
haha surekha i will not force you but will keep all the varities in front of you so that you yourself get tempted and eat all of them.
• Lithuania
5 Apr 13
Make a habit to go to your relatives with your stomach half-empty. That's the deal I guess. I've experienced myself that being too kind and too generous can lead to similar problems liek yours. It annoys me and ,what is worst, you can't refuse their offerings because then they're feeling bad for not caring about the guest. These strict traditions may cause some health problems so try to avoid obesity! Or invite these relatives to your own house :D
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• India
6 Apr 13
I also think such next time go empty stomach or dont go there. Hmmm means you also face the same problem like me same pinch hehe...
• United States
5 Apr 13
I understand it can be a sign of hospitality to a visitor to ones home. However, as you said you had eaten shortly beforehand. I will attest from personal experience in my childhood that being forcefed is not good. It can cause you not only stomach upset but to get used to feeling ill and over eating which would create weight gain. I hope they were not offendedd as I'm sure some people get if you don't accept what they offer you. I would of accepted some drink but no food unless it was for you to take home for a later time perhaps?
• India
6 Apr 13
Yes stomach cant bear more food because not place like a tank ehehe...I also accept drink any time because no harm in it. but over dose meals means stomach will start dancing and go again and again the wrong place.
@alicia812 (646)
• Australia
5 Apr 13
My in-laws are like this. It's just natural for them to insist on people. If they offer someone a drink or food, even if the person says 'no thanks, I'm full or not thirsty', they will still insist and keep on offering. This is one thing that really annoys me. For them, that's just being generous, but for me it pushing themselves or what they want on others. Somehow, I feel like this is an act of disrespect as they don't allow others to have their own choice as they will just insist. The bad thing is, they are naturally like that and I cannot change them. However, I don't let them get on top of me. If I don't want to eat I says NO, and they won't insist on me anymore because at this very point in time they also know me well.
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• India
6 Apr 13
Hmmm your in laws is also like my relatives means if I will came in your home then my stomach will dance after eating meals ehehe...now my plan is cancel. You are right friend this is common to insist the friends or relatives for eating but with in limit because if the person is saying he/she already eat the food then dont should force.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
5 Apr 13
Oh no my dear sis (hahahaa) Yes, some people are like that especially our family, relatives and friends. I am on strict diet right now so no one can temp me to eat more- hhehehe)
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• India
6 Apr 13
Haha...sis you will not force me then I will came in your home but next time I will not go my relatives house after eating meals.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Apr 13
Hi, It is not a good habit to force one to eat the food or take drinks that may do bad things to one's stomach, it is simple murder. Always take into consideration the state of one's preferences, we have this drink here from the sap of a coconut tree that some may find good to their taste but is unsettling to others stomach. There are raw foods preparation, like sashimi, they also that can do the same effect, I say, it is not good to impose them on people who are unfamiliar with it.
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@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
6 Apr 13
I think forcing yourself to eat something is really a bad habit and it makes us feel uncomfortable and probably have negative effects on our health.That's why,whenever I visit someone or go somewhere far away from home and I'm invited to eat some food I don't really want to try,I simply refuse;I prefer to be considered impolite by my hosts rather than torment myself by trying to eat a dish I simply don't like and don't feel the need to try.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
5 Apr 13
Hi, You had to face health problem by forcing for meals. When we go to meet someone in his house it is natural that they ask for meal and welcome us wrmly. But they should trust on you. It is very bad to force to eat the food. It would be very harmful to health.
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• India
6 Apr 13
You are right this is common or natural to ask or serve but this should be depend upon guest wish.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
5 Apr 13
eating too much is not good. maybe your relatives were thinking that you were not telling them the truth that is why they forced you to eat. in some cultures, even if there is nothing ready, offering food to guests is a MUST. it is for the guest to decline and for the host to insist when it is clear that the guest hasn't eaten yet. guests sometimes decline even if they're hungry because they do not want to impose on their hosts. in the philippines, if a guest arrives during meals, it is expected that he shares the meal even if he wasn't invited.
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• India
6 Apr 13
Hehee....you are absolutely right they think I am not telling truth because mostly I not eat the meals early morning but the first time I eat food.