controling your life
By sakuralight
@sakuralight (60)
Egypt
April 5, 2013 4:57pm CST
have you ever thought that your parents are making a big deal out of things
honestly I`ve never once said no to my parents "i`ve been a pretty good girl so far " however I can`t ignore the fact that recently it feels like my life isn`t my life anymore I don`t feel like agreeing to everything they say like before and there are a lot of differences in our opinions that thanks to it i don`t say yes all the time anymore ,however I still feel like i need more freedom I still feel like my life is controlled
did you ever feel this way ?
6 responses
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
Always remember that your parents are just trying to protect you, regardless of whatever they said. Everything they make you do, they're basing it from their experience. Sometimes, you'll find yourself right so you have got to reason out. I know, most parents hate it when their children are reasoning out so you have to do it in a respectful way. Make it so like you're acknowledging their opinion, but at the same time, you also want to let them know your own opinion.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
Always remember that you should have your reasons. That's the most important thing. Don't force them if they don't wanna hear it, but make it clear that your opinion also counts.
@sakuralight (60)
• Egypt
6 Apr 13
don`t worry I`ve never forgotten that that`s why till now I have never done anything against their wishes however all i`m asking for right now is a lil more space to experience the world more nothing serious ...luckily my mum is pretty easy to convince as long as you talk to her ... i will have to make a lot of efforts to convince dad but I will do my best
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
6 Apr 13
i came from a very sheltered childhood, too. the only way out for me was to join the military. i am not saying that is what you should do. lol. by all means no. i am saying that unfortunately it's not going to change as long as you are living in their house. you are still living with them, right?
@sakuralight (60)
• Egypt
6 Apr 13
yeah I`m still living with them and I don`t hate living with them following the house roles is not really a problem coming back on a certain time and so on i`m already pretty used to that however sometime when i want to take a step that they never tried in their life I get answers that show the generation gap too well luckily my mum is good once she is convinced by your opinion however dad is another issue ..... guess I will have to try for a while till both are convinced
@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
6 Apr 13
You do not say how old you are...But, if you live under their roof then you still do have to follow house rules.
I am glad that you have been "pretty good so far". If you have been, it is probably because your parents instilled in you some very good values as you grew. If you feel that you are old enough to start making more decisions about your own life then you should calmly sit down with your family and talk about it maturely. Don't just say it here on Mylot.
@sakuralight (60)
• Egypt
6 Apr 13
well I`m 20
and yeah honestly it`s only recently that I started to feel we have a lot of different opinions I`m not really trying to go against them or anything I just want to go out to the world a lil bit , I Try to sit with them and talk about things cuz even if I feel they are making a big deal out of stuff i still can`t do anything unless i feel like they accept it
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
Being a good child doesn't mean agreeing to our parents all the time.
I understand your feeling- I am also a daughter and several times I do not agree with my parents, but I do not argue with them either.
I listen to them- but in the end it is my choice that I follow (considering their feelings)
Now, I am a mother of 3 young adults and I avoid being a dictator.
I listen to them, ask what they want and trying to be their friend-maybe not their best friend, but at least a friend whom they feel comfort to talk and share their feelings.
@sheikahmay (56)
• Philippines
6 Apr 13
i HAd the same situation as you .. Im their only child and I dont have my freedom yet even if i am turning 18 this month. My parents wont allowed me to go home late, they dont allow me to stay with my friends house even just for a night. i really wanted even just a little freedom.
@chjavedjatt (6)
• Pakistan
6 Apr 13
yeah i feel but don't say yes every time if u do so then u will lose the ability of saying No so some time u must reject and disagree.
moreover be natural... if u like then express that u like iand if u dislike then also express ur feeling don't hide ur feelings
