Sometimes, it is not the blood relationship that binds you...
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
April 7, 2013 3:35am CST
A pleasant day Fellow Mylotters,
Due to the situation that I am encountering for the past months, I just realized that most often times, measurement of being a relative does not really lies on the blood relationship that binds you. As because of what has been happened for the past months, my brother again started to fight me because of the bad tricks that his wife is doing. He became mad at us (his sisters). And I really feel upset to what is happening since we have a close family ties before. And just because of the bad tricks being done by his wife, arguments arise in our family. And I really cannot understand what is the motive of his wife, doing those bad tricks. Hence, what she's doing really ruined our family ties.
8 responses
@alpha9180 (301)
• Malaysia
8 Apr 13
This is the usual problem in a big family with sis-in-laws. It is either way. But sad to hear yours is from the sis-in-law. I hope your brother will be more neutral and not listening to one sided. A harmonious family is very important.
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@nitinnair89 (2899)
• India
7 Apr 13
I agree with the title
Why does your brother take his anger due to his wife on you people? I don't understand. Will talking and sorting things out during a planned family dinner help solve this?
Why does your brother take his anger due to his wife on you people? I don't understand. Will talking and sorting things out during a planned family dinner help solve this?@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
hi there nitinnair89,
how i wish it will go as simple as that but its not. and i can't explain why those things are happening.
@dfollin (27267)
• United States
7 Apr 13
I have found that if you Hi airasheila, Unfortunatley, I have been there, done that!
I have found that if you just voice your opinion(as you have already done) then just leave it alone the he will eventually see what is happenlng and get over it.
Good luck, I hope it happens quickly.
I have found that if you just voice your opinion(as you have already done) then just leave it alone the he will eventually see what is happenlng and get over it.
Good luck, I hope it happens quickly.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 13
Well, so sad to hear about your sis-in-law is playing tricks on your family that cause the disharmony in the family . I hope your brother will investigate properly before taking any actions. It is bad to ruined family ties as family members are the closest to each other.
. I hope your brother will investigate properly before taking any actions. It is bad to ruined family ties as family members are the closest to each other. @airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
good day to you,
how i wish, my brother will do his part but his mind was already close and can't see what is really going on. hence, i am fed up and surrendering every bits to God. believing that the word "karma" will soon be coming to them.
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
You have the same situation with my husband's cousin. She and her sisters are not being thrown out of their house because of their sister in law's doing. We do not know what her sister in law has told her brother that made him decide that his sisters should no longer live in that house where he has built for their parents.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
7 Apr 13
i think you and your sisters should have a talk with your brother and his wife. have a sort of a family meeting. this is important so you can clear this matter up. it's not good to have a family that is not united.
you and your sisters should also do some reflection. maybe in one way or another you have hurt your sis in law without intending to. we sometimes indirectly hurt others with our actions.
if there had been some misinterpretations in your actions, clear it right away with your sis in law. tell her that it wasn't your intention to hurt her.
if however you are convinced that you and your sisters have always treated her fairly and all these misunderstandings are her doing, then you have to ask her straight what her intentions are.
