Being ignored on purpose

United States
April 8, 2013 9:53am CST
Sometimes my boyfriend has deliberately ignored me-and lately, it's making me angry! Last night, we were watching one of his train DVDs. I don't recall the specific questions I posed to him, but I needed an answer from him. I asked the first time-no response, so I sat up and looked-he was awake. I asked again, a little louder and he acted like he didn't hear me! And it happened again this morning. Now I could be a child, and behave the same way, but I think I'll have more 'hearing' problems soon. And yes, I do really have a problem hearing, so it wouldn't be such a stretch!
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7 responses
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
9 Apr 13
maybe he really did it on purpose. ask him what is the problem why he acted such behavior. that is quiet frustrating and annoying. me, if i am upset with my boyfriend, when he threw a question to me, i acted like i do not hear it or not recognizing his presence. he will get angry but i will get angrier more - what else he can do but just to leave me. my feelings will just subside. he needs to stay away from me for a moment and will be fine soon. he already got this technique when i am angry with him.
• United States
10 Apr 13
I tried asking him what his problem was with me, but he just flat out denied it. Some days I just shake my head and wonder how he managed to be married before-he can be so infuriating at times! I can only hope that he's willing to work on that with me.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
i guess you need to talk to him seriously and find out the main reason why he is excruciatingly tortured you by not talking with you. or please examine yourself, maybe you had done something that annoyed him that is why he treated you coldly. some person used to do that as a protest or to annoy you. do your best for now to resolve this problem of yours between you and your boyfriend. :) i know you can make good :)
• United States
11 Apr 13
It's hard to have a serious discussion when one person doesn't want to. It happened while we had been viewing TV, and because he ignored me, or didn't respond, I turned off the TV-and he got upset! Monday night, he claimed that he could sleep with his eyes open! I think he refuses to talk about issues that arise for some unknown reason, but doing so makes me think he wants to actually be with me.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
Your boyfriend is kind of childish. But what could be the reason why he behaved that way? Did you do or say something bad to him? Or is he having his period?? If he doesn't want to talk then stop talking to him and let him come to you. Be reasonable and don't throw a tantrum. That will make the situation worse.
• United States
12 Apr 13
You hit the nail on the head! He's extremely childish, and to be honest, my child is grown-I don't want anymore! I'll try ignoring him. I've already rearranged my Saturday to accommodate him, but last night, I took him out of those plans. And he's either on his period now, or he's got a severe case of Male PMS!
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
13 Apr 13
Boys can be so childish, it's a total turn off! You should not bother accommodating your schedule for him. Don't make it too easy for him. It doesn't seem like he is appreciating you the way he ignores you now. I hope you'll kiss and make up and that he'd stop acting like a child.
• United Kingdom
9 Apr 13
Maybe you can have a serious talk with him about this. You can tell him ignoring your words makes you depressed, and then observe if he would change his attitude. Or maybe you should have a self-examination, that if your questions were bored to him, or maybe he thought the question need not an answer? If you want your relationship goes well, you both two need a heart-to-heart conversation, and without any louder voice or angry words. Hope it would be helpful.
• United States
11 Apr 13
I agree-we do need a heart-to-heart. He's had some trust issues in the past, and I think he could be transferring them onto me. I haven't given him any reason to not trust me either, which is strange.
• Indonesia
11 Apr 13
This is what happened to me in the first two months of my relationship with my boyfriend, if I made a mistake or did something he doesnt like he would ignore me for a week or so. He really loves playing "ignoring game", he claimed it is to avoid another argument with me, but it would anger me more because I don't like being ignored. He acted like he dnt see me, filtering my message, etc and that's make me want to punch him with my heel real bad . If I did something bad, he should have told me but he wont because he wanted me to find out my mistake by myself. (*looks around* oops I hope he wont read what I post here, or else he will play "the silence game" again. No not again please!) *sighs*
• United States
11 Apr 13
Why are some people so childish? When I confronted him about it, he just flat out denies it. And I hate being lumped in with other women in his life where the relationship ended badly!
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
8 Apr 13
Let's hope that you aren't about to get run over by a car and you scream his name for help and he's "ignoring" you. I would assume he can probably "read" right? I mean you don't have to hear to be able to read. Hearing does get worse as we get older, but we can still read.
• United States
8 Apr 13
He was ignoring me, plain and simple. I mean, if you knew someone you didn't want to talk to was trying to get your attention, you'd probably not roll your eyes in their direction, right? And I know he hears a lot better than I do-he even likes to make fun of me about it.
• United States
8 Apr 13
That's sort of rude for him to legit ignore you. Seriously, a boyfriend should be interested in what you have to say. It would make anyone angry to get this kind of behavior from there significant other. I like the more of a "hearing problem" technique. Taste of his own medicine. You should tell him it bothers you when he ignores you first, and see if he changes. If not, slap him with the same silence! Good luck.
• United States
8 Apr 13
This has happened before, but not as frequent or blatant as this time. I've mentioned it to him before, and how much it bothers me. Last time, I lost my balance and hit a car. The time before that, I completely wrecked my knee.
@topffer (42156)
• France
8 Apr 13
You have just discovered that he has also an hearing problem.
• United States
8 Apr 13
Yes, I suppose you're right. My dad called it selective hearing.