I am very dissappointed with some people ...no good samaritan..

@emily7339 (1338)
Malaysia
April 10, 2013 12:22am CST
Yesterday, my son who is aged 21, had finished his classes and stayed back in uni for blood donation. He was dizzy after the blood donations (850ml)and doctor advised to stay back in uni for a couple of hours. By the time he recovered, it was already night and it was raining . I received a call from him @9.30 PM that he had a bad flat tyre and the car could not move. I put down the phone and immediately make my way there to make sure he is alright . However, he managed to make it to the petrol/gas station nearby. It was his first time trying to fix the flat tyre all by himself. Many adult men came to petrol/gas station to pump petrol/gas. No one rendered help to him. The poor boy was soaked in sweat and rain. By the time I got there, he was almost up. I am glad he did well. But he could not drive home due to the blood donation and still a little dizzy and hungry. Fortunately, hubby came along and he drove home his car and I drive my son home safely. I am rather dissappointed with those men where none of them is a good samaritan...
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@Pegasus72 (1898)
10 Apr 13
Most people won't help out these days thinking it might be some kind of scam, dangerous, or that everyone has a cell phone to call for help or AAA. It is really sad that there are only a few helpers still out there. Glad your son donates Blood.
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@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
That could be the reason as well. The image of the society nowadays has been spoilt by the bad hats ! I only came to know he donated blood after I met him there . He did not inform me earlier. Otherwise I would go to fetch him home instead of let him drive home .
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@Pegasus72 (1898)
11 Apr 13
My girls and I can not give blood but my husband and sons can and they do as often as they can.
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• Mexico
11 Apr 13
I think after so many bad news stories.. people just dont want to get involved.
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• Serbia
10 Apr 13
You know sometimes i hear older people go on about the "Good old days". And i wonder, whether they are just saying it like i would say the good old days about 5 years ago, for example. Or if it really is like they say it is and in the older times like 20, 30, 50+ years old things were really better than they are now. People were better, more willing to help and everything. I guess i'll never know...
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• Mexico
11 Apr 13
The good old days, we sure better I think. many would come to help one. Not so much anymore. very sad
• Serbia
10 Apr 13
Yeah no good old days no more. Just days :p You're totally right about it depending on where one lives. Ive been a city guy all my life and, well, im hoping to one day end up in the countryside far far away. :) Maybe that's why some pull out and make their lives into kind of an on-line thing. Here we get to choose which "Community" to belong to. Who to talk to or not talk to (in real life it would translate into "who to see or not see" i guess hehe). Thanks, i love your sharing too. Friend. :)
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
Yeah, "good old days"...but there is nothing like "good old days" now . I believe it also depends on places we live in. My parents live in the countryside and they enjoy their life there very much. They could still feel the friendly and helpful environment in that place until today. That is marvellous Unlike the city people, most of them are very self-centred. We seldom get to see people go all out to help nowadays due to many criminal activities that has been happening every now and then . I love your sharing!
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@mentalward (14692)
• United States
10 Apr 13
I am a 60 year old woman and my car broke down on an interstate highway. I sat there for THREE hours, waiting for my husband to come and help me. (He could not get off work earlier than that.) While I was sitting there, many, many cars passed by but not one single person stopped to even ask if I was alright. Two police cars also passed me and did not stop! I had my emergency flashers on so there was no doubt to passing motorists that I was having a problem but no one would stop. I was especially upset that the police couldn't be bothered to see if I needed help. By the time my husband got there, it had been dark for at least two hours, yet no one would stop. I can understand some people being afraid of a scam or ambush but not the police. I lost a lot of what respect I did have for them that night. I'm so glad to hear that your son was okay. As a mother of two sons myself, I know how you must have felt when you got that phone call.
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Sorry to hear that. Id be in the same boat as you. I could never change a tire...
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
Yeah, my heart goes all out to him when I heard that. I wish I was there immediately for him . I do not blame the people being so self-centred as they may have their own reason not to help. This is our society nowadays. But I am rather surprise with the attitude of the two police car that had treated you. That is so unreasonable . They might be blind and irresponsible ! I am glad your hubby did make it to you to help
@victorywp (3524)
• United States
11 Apr 13
hi emily7339, good to hear that your son donated blood and managed to fix the flat tyre for the first time all by himself. i still remember the first time i fixed the flat tyre by myself was when i was on the way back around 450km away from my home somewhere on the highway. I was driving at the fast lane when i suddenly heard the bursting sound from the back. good thing it was the back tyre burst (not the front) so i was able to swerve the steering quickly to the side of the highway and fixed it myself. however, along the way another tyre burst around 350km away from my home. which means i had 2 tyres burst on the same day! and as we all know, there's only one spare tyre available in a car! but this time i was not on the highway so i just stopped my car at the side of the road and managed to get someone to fetch me to the nearest car tyre shop. i bought 2 tyres there and that person sent me back to the place i left my car (and he left). so i used one of the tyres to replace the flat tyre and keep the other tyre as a spare. p/s: i think nobody helped your son maybe because your son look like an adult? or look like someone who is knows and able to change a tyre on his own? or maybe also due to it was raining at that time?
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@victorywp (3524)
• United States
11 Apr 13
hi emily7339, actually i went to the car workshop and did all the necessary service before this long distance trip. i even informed them to check the engine and tyres whether all were fit to go for a long distance trip. but it still happens... both the burst tyres were the rear ones because i always rotate my tyres and make sure that the better ones are always at the front.
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
The main thing is he got it done, and is safe. You never know what could happen. Glad this didnt happen on the open highway there.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
Yes, he donated his blood because he wants to save people's life. And I am glad that he managed to fix it up at last . Wow, that is very dangerous! Having two burst tyres is no joke . You should check your tyre in future. If it is time for a change, you must not hesitate to replace it with new tyre. Well, I am glad that you are fine and did meet up with a good samaritan. I do not know what is the reason people are not helping him. But one thing for sure people in the big city are more self-centred nowadays. Furthermore, there are many criminal cases that happened in this society and that might deter people from helping others . However, I am glad all are well now. Thank you for your sharing!
@grvdubey11 (1880)
• India
10 Apr 13
Feeling bad for your son,people are getting too insensitive these days.Sadly these kinds of incidents are very common ,we face it on the regular basis now.Although i think good people are still there ,although few in number.Unfortunately none of them passed by the place where your son got into trouble.
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• India
10 Apr 13
You are so right about trust issues due to bad experiences.That reminded me of a story i heard in childhood.There was a evil rich man who liked a beautiful horse of a saint ,he offered him huge amount of money but saint refused to sell the horse.So this other day, rich man changed his appearance as a blind old man and sat on the road from where saint used to pass with his horse daily.Saint saw him lying on the road ,so picked him up and made him sit on his horse.Rich man laughed and said i fooled you now i will take your horse and saint replied take the horse but dont tell people how you took it ,otherwise people will stop helping blind old men.Its a kids story but very much relevant now.
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
People just dont care, like they used to. I blame the media for all the bad stuff they report everyday.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
Come to think of it, even though I am disappointed but I do not blame them too. As the society has become from bad to worst . People are becoming more insensitive and also very protective of themselves due to some bad hats around. People who really genuinely needed help but no one dare or willing to come forward. Overall, I am happy my son who has done a good job even though it was his first time fixing a flat tyre . The only problem is he was weak physically due to blood donation on that day. As he donated his blood due to impromptu act. He wants to take part in saving lives . Glad to hear your sharing!
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@TLilly12 (1229)
• United States
10 Apr 13
I am glad your son got home safely, some people will not help anyeone,they saw your son needed help, probably didn't even ask him it they could, help him some people are just selfish.
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• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Im just glad he made it ok, never know what could happen to the good people...
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
Thank you for your concern. Yes, if there was someone help him it will be very good. At least he need not struggle with it as this was the first time he attended to such problem . However, I am glad that he did well even though he was not well after the blood donation . He was very happy able to donate blood for life saving. He has been very helpful since a young.
@BarBaraPrz (39361)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
10 Apr 13
Well, if he asked any of them for help and they refused, I can understand your feelings, but your son probably looked (to them) like he knew what he was doing.
@BarBaraPrz (39361)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
10 Apr 13
I hope he's feeling recovered today.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
Yeah, he did but the guy said he could not help as he wants to go somewhere. Then he dared not ask the rest. He was doing trial and error and was not well too . He looked pale and weak, soaked in the rain doing the flat tyre. Anyway, I am glad that he managed to get it right and fixed it up properly . Thanks for your sharing
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@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
He was better this morning. But he went for another blood donation this morning . He is very happy being able to help save lives. That's why he did it again. He told me he would do it again in six month's time. My son has a soft heart, and he loves to help others since a little boy . Thank you for your concern and have a nice day!
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@dragon54u (31629)
• United States
10 Apr 13
As one other person said, it was probably because he was a man. Men are generally regarded as self-sufficient and since he didn't have a big sign saying he'd just giving blood and wasn't feeling up to changing a tire, no one suspected that he would need help, particularly because he was male! Then again, the others are right with the theory about how self-centered we've become. It's a real shame. Thirty years ago people would help each other and now the only help we can depend on is that we pay for, like the auto club I belong to in case I have a flat or something else happens. Some people get very weak after giving blood. I always got right up and went about my business with no ill effects but I know others have a hard time with it. I hope he feels better by now.
@dragon54u (31629)
• United States
11 Apr 13
Maria, I do think it would have make a difference. Very few people help just to help--whether consciously or not, most people help because there is something in it for them. It could be a sense of satisfaction and pride or something else. If a woman has a flat tire a man will feel chivalrous and proud of himself, plus they might get a date or have the satisfaction of a woman admiring their muscles as they work. They don't get that when they help a man. And a woman won't help a man in trouble because she'll assume, usually correctly, that there is some sort of trap awaiting her--from a financial scheme to unwanted advances.
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Maybe, do you think if he was a woman someone would have stopped? I hope it doesnt make a difference..
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@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
Probably what you have shared are correct. He is a young man . He actually looks pale and dizzy as he did fix the flat tyre problem. Sweating and soaked in the rain. No one came forward with an umbrella. He actually felt better this morning. But he did another round of blood donation this morning. And he told me he would do it again in six month's time. He is happy that his blood could save more lives .
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@artemeis (4198)
• China
10 Apr 13
I hate to say this but people nowadays are all to themselves and I am really feel sorry for your son. That being said, I wonder if your son should be driving in the first place considering the physical he was in after donating blood. IMO, he is really unfit to drive and much more so since the weather was equally bad at that time. He should have considered leaving his car behind and called either of you to fetch him home. I am glad that nothing bad happened and I feel you should give him some common sense perspective where his life is worth much more than his car. I hope he is feeling better today.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
Yeah, exactly. However, he did not inform me earlier that he donated blood. I came to know after I arrived there. He did it through an impromptu act . Yeah, I sent him to uni this am and picked him home just now. He told me, he donated blood again this morning . I did gave him some advises yesterday when I met him there. Today he told me, he wants to donate blood again another six months time. He said, it is good that his blood could saves many life .
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• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Id feel bad, if I didnt help him. If I could not change the tire.. i try to get someone to help him.
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@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 13
Hi Maria, You are a kind person as I know from your post. You did helped a poor family and now they are leading a good and decent life. I give a and God Bless you always! Hi artemeis, You are right with your sharing and I do no feel offended as you are giving the possibility of behaviour of this degraded society nowadays! Had I knew he went for blood donation, I would surely not allow him to drive. He did not inform me of that and I came to know when meeting him at the gas station. That was why I fetch him to and fro for college the next morning . He did not know the car tyre was flat as he just turned out from the junction to highway. Only realizing it when near a gas station. There were so many cars on the highway and no where to stop and it is dangerous too. Fortunately there is a gas station nearby. That was why he drove his car slowly to the gas station in order to change the flat tyre. I am glad that everything went well .
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@pals101 (2010)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
It really is hard to be a good samaritan these days. Hopefully we can change for the better and become humble and helpful to our fellow men..
@pals101 (2010)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Sometimes people have this mindset that if you help someone, you get something in return. Which is truly a misleading.. I hope we can all become as someone as good samaritan.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 13
I agree with you that it is hard to be a good samaritan nowadays . I am happy with you hoping for a better society . Thank you for your sharing
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 13
Yeah, be a good samaritan and not hoping for something in return . This is a genuine help where many would need in this society
@jenny1015 (13367)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
A lot of uncaring people nowadays, really. I don;t know how people just don't bother to extend help to strangers when they clearly see that somebody needs help.
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• Mexico
11 Apr 13
I agree.. people just dont care. Very sad. Id help him.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
Yeah, I am also very nervous if I really have some problems along the way . Not many people would genuinely extend a helping hand. Perhaps those who are having bad intention will offer their help and it will be very dangerous for us being a lady . As per your sharing, I do agree with you that there are people who are uncaring in this society now. Thank you for your sharing .
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@velvet53 (21526)
• Palisade, Colorado
10 Apr 13
It is sad that not one of those men could lend a helping hand. I know that a lot of people won't help someone on the highway but at a gas station, in front of many others. Jeepers, what has become of this world and lending a helping hand.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
It is true, people may be reluctant to help on the highway. But, my son was at a gas station with many around . People of the big city has becoming more self-centred nowadays. My dad told me, he is very happy he remains staying at countryside. People there are still very helpful. They could easily offer their help when someone needed it even without being asked. There are still some good samaritan but unfortunate we do not meet one . However, blessing in disguise my son had learnt up the skill and will have no problem next time . I really appreciate your sharing!
@velvet53 (21526)
• Palisade, Colorado
11 Apr 13
It is good that he learned the skill and hopefully won't have to use it a lot. But another lesson may have happened. Your son seen how these men were and when he sees someone with a flat tire or any other type of problem he will probably stop and lend a hand. I know what you mean about there being good samaritans. The world needs more of them.
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Many just dont care anymore. its real sad. I still blame the media for this.
@cttolledo (5019)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
Very seldom are good samaritan... maybe there are willingness to help but hesitant to do it because of different crimes that society have now...
@cttolledo (5019)
• Philippines
10 Apr 13
Correct!!! Our society are getting worst now.. So do not expect help from others, only few have that courage to extend help.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
In this current society it is indeed hard to find good samaritan due to many criminal activities taking place . This has caused many who are genuine victims but not able to receive help . I appreciated your respond !
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@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
Yeah, it is very true. Our society has becoming from bad to worst ! Leaving a minority of good samaritan .
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• Philippines
11 Apr 13
Yeah, it's true, it's very difficult to find good samaritans nowadays. I think it's because people are getting busier and busier with their own lives that they tend to forget about others. It's not good to generalize though because I believe that there are still many out there who do go things to others.
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Or maybe people just dont care about anyone anymore. Very sad...
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@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
Hi wander_n_wonder, maria, This is true, there are still a minority of good and helpful people in this society but we are not fortunate to meet them . Life is getting busier no doubt and people are becoming more self-centred nowadays especially those in the city . Appreciate your participation !
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
11 Apr 13
This is happening more and more. Maybe it is because he is a guy, and looked like he knew what he is doing. I hope he is feeling better now. I know a lot of people that giving blood affects that way.
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Might be.. I think its because of all the media reports of bad things happening to people.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
Probably such scenario happen more in the city life. As I notice at the countryside, people are more friendly and helpful. Anyway, he is doing fine and had learnt up the skill on changing flat tyre . Thank you for your concern. He felt better in the morning but went for another round of blood donation. As he told me the doctor said he could donate another round. He wants to save more lives with his blood . He is soft hearted and willing to go all out to help people since young .
@rsa101 (36161)
• Philippines
11 Apr 13
So sorry to hear what happened to your son. Maybe it was a good idea you could have accompanied him in his blood donation so you could have at least help him drive home. But I guess there are just people like them not being supportive of helping others. Good thing that your son was alert and did not lose hope that he could do something from his situation. I guess your son is ready to face the world already.
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
I agree, next time he goes to donate blood.. make sure someone goes with him. What a great kid he is..
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
28 Apr 13
I would not allow him to drive if I know he planned for blood donation . However, he did it in an impromptu act. I am glad that he has learnt up the skill by himself after some trial and errors and I am proud of him . He even planned to have another round of blood donation in six month time as he is very happy that his blood could help saves many lives
@jazel_juan (15748)
• Philippines
11 Apr 13
Oh glad your son is better now and yes sometimes there are really people who do not care at all..they would just look at you and would not even offer to help even though you are already having a hard time. Glad he was able to drive going to the gas station and no harm happened.
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Yes, the most important thing is hes ok. As he wasnt feeling good after the bolod donation...
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
It is indeed fortunate for him that he make it to the gas station instead of in the midst of busy highways . My dad says if this happen in his place at the countryside, people there will be wvery please to help even without being asked . It will not be like those in the city area. Most people are more elf-centered and fear of unforeseen circumstances like those undesirable criminal activities. The bad hats has instilled fear into people .
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@cynthiann (18603)
• Jamaica
11 Apr 13
It is sad that this happened but it could be that the people were wary that it could be a trick or something. Remember that it was raining and dark. Your son needs to learn how to change a tyre though. I am glad that it all ended well and that he is okay. He certainly has good parents
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Your right, the media has caused all that these days. people are afraid its a scam.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
Probably they might have their reason for not lending a helping hand. However, it is a blessing in disguise that my son able to learn how to fix a flat tyre and he did well despite with a weak body . I am very proud of him.
• United States
10 Apr 13
I've found if you are female and appear to be having problems men are more likely to help. Your son, being make, probably worked against him. Most guys know how to change a tire. I learned how to change a tire in drivers education in high school. I did have to change a tire in my 30s but other times when it happened there was always a man to offer. Did your son ask for help? He might have been shy to ask. My thought us if they had been asked they might have helped. I think a lot of men just expect young men to know how to do this. My son in law has never changed a tire. He's always taken his vehicle to get new tires put on before tires wore out. He's never even got a nail in a tire before. I don't know why, but I think most people expect males to know how. Your son was probably so weak he couldn't begin to change a tire. Good Samaritans are far and few between anymore. Most people who offer help want money too. That never happened with me, but I've seen it happen when someone offered to help my dad.
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Id hope men would have helped a woman. But it sure should not be that way. Everyone needs help sometimes.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 13
That is what I think as well. Yes, he did ask but was turn down. However, I am very happy he did well for the first time and had learnt the skill. So, there will be no problem for him to fix the flat tyre next time. In everything, there is always a first time Yes, he make an impromptu blood donation that's why he was weak. I am glad that he would do that again in six months time. He is very happy that he could do his part to save the lives of many with his blood. He has a soft heart and loves to help people since a young boy . Thank you very much for your sharing and have a nice day !
@joycseer (845)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
Hi emily7339, sorry to hear about it. But your son did well, first time fixing a flat tyre, and he managed to fix it right. Good job. Well Done! Yes, people nowadays are either mind their own business, or they are afraid if they rendered help, something bad might happen to them in return. The society of helping one another image is totally gone.. Those irresponsible people and scams used the good deed of the citizen to cheat, lie and hurt. It's no surprise that no good Samaritan offers help. Anyway, it's good to hear your son is safe and all is well. Have a good day.
• Mexico
11 Apr 13
Your right there, but youd think at least one person could have asked if he needed help.
@emily7339 (1338)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 13
Yeah, I am happy he did well too. But, he went through some trial and error in lifting up the car before could change the flat tyre. At last, he got it . I am disappointed but I do not blame them as it is the many criminal incidences in this society that has drawn people to think and behave this way . Overall, I am glad that everything is alright and I really appreciate your participation .