boyfriend didn't want his kid..
By craftybird
@craftybird (80)
United States
April 10, 2013 11:23pm CST
I have been dating a guy for 4 month's now.I met him from my friend and he was really nice and fun to hang out with but after a few week's of going out he told me he has a son that is 8.I was alright with it, and he know's i babysit kid's all the time so i told him if he ever wanted to take the kid's out somewhere we could he said he wasn't really interested.After that he never talked about his son.I thought maybe he was waiting until we were more serious before introducing me to his son which i thought was just him being a good parent.He said his son's mother was addicted to drug's and isn't in the picture and his parent's which they live with take care of his kid while he is at work and with me.however i noticed some days he will stay at my house from the time he get's done at work which is noon until 1am even if i'm not around he will want to hang out in my house which made me frustrated since he was basically doing nothing but playing his ps3 and watching tv in my house instead of being with his son and he just got lazy so i started making excuses not to see him anymore then he asked me if i wanted to come over for dinner and meet his family.I did and his parent's were nice, his son was nice however i noticed his son referred to his grandparent's as "mom and dad" and his dad as his name.He didn't pay any attention to his kid at all or even introduce me, he just asked me to go to his room to play ps3.when i went to ask his mother if she wanted help with the dishes since she had a lot she let me help and said "well you lasted longer than the rest of his girlfriend's.i want you to know that he isn't really serious about anything" I eventually got tired of wondering what was going on and asked him if he really had a son. he said he did but didn't want a kid.he went on to say his son doesn't want to be apart of his life very much but want's to be a part of his parent's and his son is more like his little brother.today I told him i didn't think we were going to work.I just can't keep seeing someone who want's to ignore their own kid especially when he live's with him and it just seem's sad that he want's to pretend like he doesn't have a kid.
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9 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 Apr 13
I have nothing to say about the boyfriend, his son or his family. But yes, for you... as you posted this - please try to breakup and stay away from this boyfriend of yours. As you can see, he is one who doesnt want any responsibilities on him and also he doesnt seem to be serious about anything in life - I wonder how at his age he can stick to playing on his PS3 and continue on with it when he has work, and has a kid already... he should have grown up and matured...
And yes, I know, many would not appreciate my response here as I am asking for a breakup, but then, it is life and you have to make sure you do good to it and not just get carried away by your fancies and fantasies.
@craftybird (80)
• United States
11 Apr 13
I appreciate your response, I honestly don't want to be apart of his life again. if he doesn't have time for a kid i can't understand how he could have time for anyone else.i don't plan to see him again.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
11 Apr 13
I totally understand how you feel. That is so wrong on his part to be acting this way to a child who does not have his mother in his life either. A guy like this you don't need. It tells you the type of person he really is and to me he is very inmature and you deserve someone better with a good heart. I'm so happy though that at least he has good grandparents. I feel so bad for this little boy.
@craftybird (80)
• United States
11 Apr 13
I am looking on the bright side about the kid calling his grandparent's mom and dad because i could tell they care about him as if he were their own.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
So boyfriend is a Single Father, right? I think he is not yet ready for his responsibility to be a father. Try to talk to him, If you really love him you will make a way.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
12 Apr 13
You did the right thing. What's the point of being in a relationship(which should eventually turn to marriage) with someone who is not interested in his own kid?
I think he's an irresponsible person who has never learned to grow up. If I were in your place, I probably would have thrown his dumb PSP to his face.
@firepanther91 (186)
• Italy
12 Apr 13
Hey Crafty, in my opinion you have made a wise decision... They way he treated his children showed how unresponsable he was.. That also showed that very probably he is not much responsable with all things in life, even with girls.. I immagine that has not been easy for you, but you did the best decision. Sometimes it's better to break relationship first, before you get too much involved with a person which is not responsable
@beta715 (57)
• Australia
12 Apr 13
I am considering why his parents did not influence him from the right side. He should take responsibilty on his son, expecially in a signal parent family.I feel so sad for his son, and I think in his heart, he is really eager to have a full family. This is why he think of his grandparents as his real-parents.
For you, I think at least you know him clearly and have already made a good decision .Sometimes if we cannot change other people,at least we can change ourselves.
@xiaoqian19880825 (180)
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11 Apr 13
I agree with you. If I were you, I could not stand his attitude to his own kid, either. If he does not care his kid, he will not care about anything. I can understand your feelings. Maybe you have been doubt his character and consider your relationship.
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
11 Apr 13
I am just wondering if a person have no sense for his kid then which scene will have for others...? which love he will be able to feel or understand? 
@RandomnessPrincessx3 (280)
• United States
11 Apr 13
you did the right thing by ending it! That is not a good person to be with. How low can you be to not want your own child? These kinds of situations twist my stomach.
