future mommy!!!

Philippines
April 14, 2013 9:49am CST
I have a mixed emotion of excitement and a bit worry about being a mom... Am afraid that my kid will not follow my instructions, or I'll become a control freak mom... All I want is I could be both friend and parent to my kid. I also want her to finish college before she focuses on love when she becomes a lady. But I don't know how to do it... any advice?
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
15 Apr 13
If you are a parent you will have to wait and see how you feel after the birth. But also you will have to wait and see what character your child has. You can control as much as you like or want but it's not said your child will accept that. You can like to be your child's friend but it's not said you child wants you for a friend. I think there is no need to be worried about how you might be or what you like to be for a parent. Only time can tell and time will change just like your situation. Most of us parents life in a complete different world/life as we ever hoped or planned for. Most of us have childeren who are completely different as we ever thought they would be. If we think about having babies we don't see a teenager or an adult with his/her own wishes, dreams, character, personality. The only think you can do is be yourself and have interaction with your child. Be open and see your child as an individual of it's own!
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Thanks for your advice. I have these worries because from the past, my mom had been tried to control my whole life. I can honestly tell you that until now, I have a trauma on the criticism of my mom. And I don't want that to happen to my daughter.
• United States
16 Apr 13
Just know that nothing will go as planned. Being a parent is very unpredictable and not usually what you expect. You just have to teach them the correct way to behave and talk. As for the waiting on love, I have no advice for you there. I only have toddlers and they have a while before i have to worry about that. Dont be too strict on that or they will rebel and do it anyway. I know I did when i was a teen.
@wowjen15 (183)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
Hey relax there future mommy. You just need to be yourself. You're just about to be a mom but you worry up until your baby finishes college. Take things one step at a time. One day at a time. No need to hurry.