Problems at home

United States
April 14, 2013 12:38pm CST
So yes, I'm 22 with a child. I live with my parents. I moved out a few years back whenmy son was still a baby. I asked to move back in after about a year, being a single mother I couldn't manage rent on top of the cost of living. So I moved in maybe its been two years now? I clean house for my parents in place of rent and all my money goes for my son and myself plus savings to move. All of a sudden its become an issue with my dad. He's 45 and in good health. He quit his job last year and refuses to look for something else. He is basically mooching off my mom. And although he gives rides if anyone needs them, especially me and my son beause my dad refuses to take mr to get my drivers permit and such. He claims hes too busy. He doesn't help much sround the house. I offer my mother the money to get Ryan, my son, and myself our own food, but she says its not necessary. My dad refuses to drive me to the store. Anything that we need basicall is alll ordered online. Its rough, evrryone I know is too busy to help with getting my permit or babysitting my son so I can work out of home and work my way to movingus out. This all leads me to why I'm writing this. I spent my morning making my earnings at the same time of caring for my son and doing my housework. I sit down finally to eat lunch when my dad comes upstairs and starts yelling that I didn't put dishes away after washingthem. He came in the room and kicked my lunch on me, the couch, the floor, the tsble, and my tablet I use for work and started yelling more because I said it wouldnt hurt him to do it.
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@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
14 Apr 13
your dad seems really rough to live with. some men can't stay at home and not work. i heard this before and it seems to be true. some of them get really grumpy like they are on PMS. your dad probably just need to go back to work. sure hope you are able to get some more money to move soon.
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• United States
14 Apr 13
You have a point, he was never grumpy will having a job. Thank you, I hope I do too. Even if I wasn't having problems with my dad, it'd be great to have my own place for my son and myself.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
14 Apr 13
Sorry to hear that. Have you tried to sit down and discuss this with your parents? Good luck to you there...
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• United States
14 Apr 13
My dad doesn't listen when I try to explain things I usually get told how I'm wrong or insulted. My mom listens but won't talk it out with my dad. She tries playing both sides.
@shorty08322 (1270)
• United States
15 Apr 13
i knw but u trying and he nt helping u knw why he dnt want noone moving bck home i would be looking for me a place and i would put my son in preschool and try my best to move out and if u you need help with ur rent get section8 and next time they ask u to move bck u just say no
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
15 Apr 13
I'm sorry to know about this. I hope you could find a job soon so that you could move out with your son as soon as possible. Don't worry, your son will soon grow up and you will not anymore find it hard to take care of him. By the way, what kind of job you have online as of now?
• United States
15 Apr 13
I do survey sites and review music.
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
15 Apr 13
Maybe you can try transcription and call reviewing jobs as an addition. For transcription job you may try transcribMe. They will give you exam and as soon as you pass it, you can start working immediately. With regards to reviewing calls, I am not sure if they are hiring right now, but you can try humanatic.com Have a nice day!
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
14 Apr 13
well as soon as you can i would be moving out your father has no respect for you your child or your mother and that is a shame it is time for your mother to tell him to get a job or move on
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• United States
14 Apr 13
That's how I feel. No respect. I'm not asking for anything and I appreciate the help I get. I try to do as much as I can on my own, my plan is moving when I can. My mother feels if he's home he should help with house work too, but he just does what he wants when he feels like it.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
14 Apr 13
you're in a sticky situation. i know how hard it is to be a single mom because i was too. fortunately, my parents helped me a lot during the time when my son was still young. just try to save as much as you can so you will be able to get a place of your own.
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• United States
14 Apr 13
I'm glad someone can relate to how hard it is. It's good your parents helped you out. I'm trying to save what I can.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
15 Apr 13
For a man who is healthy to stay home without work at age 45 is not a good idea . I hope he will soon be bored at home and look for another job. At least he could keep his mind occupied with work and this is a good exercise for his brain. I feel sorry for you that you are in this situation. I do hope your mom could help to take care of your son and you could find an offline job to do. In this way, you get to save some money and be independent in future .
• United States
15 Apr 13
I know. My dad did roofing most of his life. He decided to stop, he didn't want to do it. He says everything else pays too little. I know he started home classes for photography but he hasn't even been doing that in weeks. Maybe he's stressed about something and I'm not catching on. That could be why his mood is bad now. My mom works full time, and my sister can't help because she has school and other activities. I'd love to be more independent and i'm trying my best. Just need further help. Maybe one of my friends could remember about me? ahaha, take a bit of time and help once and again.