My ex- asked me for coffee meeting
By ryanong
@ryanong (9665)
Vietnam
April 16, 2013 12:52am CST
I received my ex-boyfriend's message in this morning. He asked me am i in hanoi? and then for coffee meeting when he comes to Hanoi in the next month.
I don't say agree with it yet since for most 1 year, i don't keep contact with him anymore. I told him i have to see at that time i am free or not.
I don't know whether i meet him again for coffee or not... since i am not really comfortable with his meeting.
People said that they can be friends when the love is gone, but with me, it is not easy to be friends and i don't know what i talk with him if i meet him.
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9 responses
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 13
maybe it happens to me..
one of my ex seems hate me..
i don` know..
maybe she dislike one of my character or not..i don`t know..
but i didn`t want to make it more worst..if she think like that, it will be..
i think for many people, it`s weird for being friend with their ex..
@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
28 Apr 13
I have always wondered why ex-lovers try to maintain contact with us by asking us out for coffee or dinner. I feel that once the relationship is broken, it is broken. But there are ex-lovers who cannot understand. They want to break up and they also want to continue. I think it is a result of mixed feelings.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
28 Apr 13
i think so, they just want to meet again for what, continue the love, no way, i have no idea to go back to ex-, i rather to start the love with a new guy.
i told that ex that i don't want to make friends with ex so that from now on, he and i are strange people
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Apr 13
Well, like others have said, if you do not really want to be friends with him anymore, than why would you want to meet with him? No one should dictate or tell you who you have to be with. I would politely decline his offer to want to see you, and wish him a good life, but you are Happy with things the way they are now.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
16 Apr 13
It's been so long time and i still remember the time you came and say that you and your boyfriend got split up.So it would be nice that can still making friends with whom.Anyway,just go and see what his purpose and never fell in love with the same guy for the second time.Good luck to you.
@TLilly12 (1229)
• United States
16 Apr 13
If you don't feel comfortable, about being around your ex, you shouldn't have to, if you feel he is up to no good, them don't even go around, people like that when I see any of my ex, walking down the street, I stay away from them, because they are always after one thing.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
16 Apr 13
if you feel that meeting him is just a waste of time, then i suggest you don't. we meet lots of people in our lives, some stay for long and others go swiftly. however fleeting these encounters, they leave us with memories. most of the time, we long for more time to spend with people who have left us with good memories.
on the other hand, if you didn't part in good terms, this could be the reason why your EX wants to meet you. maybe he realised his mistakes and he wants to apologize.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 Apr 13
Thank you so much for your advices.
I have no idea to be friends with him, i have nothing to share/say with him, sincerely. Currently, i have a nice boyfriend, my current life is good. Whatever reason why he called me and asked for coffee meeting, i am not interested to know anymore. He is my past and i have no idea to go back my past to find happiness.
I think carefully, the best is i should not meet him and have any contact with him anymore...
I have no idea to be friends with him, i have nothing to share/say with him, sincerely. Currently, i have a nice boyfriend, my current life is good. Whatever reason why he called me and asked for coffee meeting, i am not interested to know anymore. He is my past and i have no idea to go back my past to find happiness.
I think carefully, the best is i should not meet him and have any contact with him anymore...
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
Do you still have feelings for him? What makes you uncomfortable?
I met my ex, a few years after we broke up. In fact our break up wasn't good at all. But when we met, it was just like meeting an old friend. We were chatting and talking about common friends and not about us.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
16 Apr 13
For me, it's difficult to be friends with the ex. As this kind of relationship exists because of love. It doesn't exist any more when there is no love. So if I were you, I won't meet him again , yeah, I will refuse the invitation and go on with my life.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
16 Apr 13
yeah, i have the same thinking as yours. it is really hard to be friends with ex-. and in fact i have no friend who used to be my ex-bf at all. i have nothing to talk with him, asking how are you..blah blah..it is not necessary anymore since i don't need to know about his life and i don't need him know about my life now.
yeah, it is better if i don't meet him again, i think.
@dot247 (19)
• Philippines
16 Apr 13
If you're really not comfortable with meeting him, then just politely decline the invitation.
It's really different for everyone. Some relationships end badly so they find it hard to be friends again after but for some, it's easier because the end of their relationships were amicable.
