Stranger Request
By Nitin Nair
@nitinnair89 (2900)
India
April 17, 2013 7:13am CST
Hi friends,
Yesterday i was having some fun in facebook playing a baseball game. And while so, i got a friend request. This was from someone whom i don't know. A complete stranger. Yes that was a boy. Lol.
So i visited his profile and saw if there was anything common between the two of us. Sometimes i get friend requests from unknown people for game purposes. And i add them too.
But i did not find anything common. So instead of confirming his friend request i messaged him 'Do i know you?"
i haven't got a reply from him till now. Now a days there's no restriction for sending requests to unknown people on this great social site. Some fall into this trap some don't.
So friends, please don't accept request unless you make sure it is a genuine request.
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14 responses
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
I do not usually accept friend request even if I know this person. I only add those who are really close to me so I can make the most out of my facebook account. Having said that, I just created a new account where I could accept those people. The thing is I do not really want to offend them because they usually ask for my fb account. My honestly, I seldom open this second account of mine.
We should really be careful in accepting friend request. Well, I know that there are people who would just add as many friends as possible because they use their account for marketing purposes.
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@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
18 Apr 13
For those who do marketing and stuffs it does not matter adding unknown people. But it's the opposite for common people like us.
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@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
18 Apr 13
I think for me it is okey to accept stranger .. since social media like facebook is designed to find and meet people.. So If someone send me a request I will consider that, meaning i am interesting that's why that stranger wants to know me more, In the first place I didn't divulged so much private information in my wall, so I think it's still safe if they view my wall .
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
18 Apr 13
Oh. I don't allow anyone to post on my wall. Not even my friends. Lol. I hate it when some people just keep sharing stuffs without any sense. And that's why.
@cttolledo (5460)
• Legaspi, Philippines
19 Apr 13
I think you have your own personal reason but I have a different point of view when it comes to facebook, that's once you joined on the social media you already open your privacy to the public.. that's why I considerably allowing others to post and make comments to my wall as long as it's not harmful and will not cause any humiliation. I allow them but respect of one's dignity must always in consideration!
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
19 Apr 13
I have no problem in allowing them. But i don't like when people share stuffs which have no meaning and the tags irritate me. Lol.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
19 Apr 13
I think most probably it might be a friend of yours who have studied with you in your school or something. I think facebook and orkut helps to get old friends back. I think it is always good to make questions like you did to know if we know the person.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
20 Apr 13
I don't remember him though. Anyways he could have replied to my message then instead of keeping mum. So i even deleted his request. Yeah it is good to always be alert and counter-check.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
18 Apr 13
I always have strangers requesting to become friends on facebook. I accept all of them. Some become good friends. Very few are weirdos talking bad languages. I ignore and un-friend them eventually.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
18 Apr 13
Oh that's another approach that you use. But due to this new subscribe feature, even if you unfriend people, they still get your updates. So please take care of that.
@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
I also had that before and i message him with a very long one telling him ( a boy as well)that i do not accept friends' request from a total stranger and I had experienced befriending someone who turned out to be someone who was just enticing women to get into relationship with them and asked for this and that. But after sending that message, he never replied at all. See? We better be careful with those requests from people we do not know. I do not know whether you agree on that or not but I just want you to be more careful especially if you had just found out that you do not have anything in common.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
18 Apr 13
Yeah. Sometimes i wish that innocence to be back. Then people will stop such acts.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
18 Apr 13
Yes i agree with you friend. I ignored his friend request and even blocked him. Lol. He too did not reply to my message there. Hahaha. When strangers get smart, we need to be smarter.
@cherigucchi (14879)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
That is really smart! we should learn to decipher people's motives so we cannot be a victim of anything.
@MindSalad (77)
• India
18 Apr 13
That's a good thing to do. Always inquire if there is any chance you know that person or if you'll have met before. Never except unknown request. I see so many people accepting friend requests from strangers left, right and center. Later on, the repent it. It is better to be safe than sorry. Thank you for this post.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
18 Apr 13
Well said. At least this is a win win situation. We got nothing to lose playing safe.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
17 Apr 13
good day nitinnair89,
i once encountered almost the same situation wherein a guy have requested me to be his friend in facebook. although we have a common friend, still i didn't accept his invitation. aside from that, i have tried to ask our common friend if she really knows that guy, yet, that our common friend does not even remember his name. so that made me decide not to accept the request and better to ignore it. and yes, you are right, there are some people who fall into this trap. so, better be vigilant nowadays.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
17 Apr 13
good work done needs to be appreciated. I really like the way you investigated it by asking to your common friend. Let's all keep an eye out to watch out for unknown strangers..lol..
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
17 Apr 13
Facebook actually has an excellent settings that allow people to set different privacy settings to different people.
I don't really mind in adding some strangers as friend on my Facebook, but I won't allow him/her to access my photos, videos, and such.
Later I'll ask him/her for some introduction and all. Later, depends on his/her activities on Facebook, I'll decide whether to keep him/her as friend or simply remove him/her. 
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
17 Apr 13
Yeah they have superb security settings and they have even improved a lot considering people's personal security. But i don't add someone unless they specify the reason why or i know that person myself.
@ruchadhawal31 (228)
• India
17 Apr 13
Even I get many friend request from unknown people. Sometimes they even drop a message saying "please accept my request" lol.. I never add them. Its bit risky as we dont know how that person is. So think before you accept any friend request
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
17 Apr 13
haha..you really do that? That's too risky friend. Anyways, good to see you here and wow! you already crossed..
@profmuhammadakhtar (103)
• Pakistan
18 Apr 13
IT is very common now to sent request but i still trying to answer every one ,because it is on my view to respond p[ositive to request you may get true friend in short this not neceesary that we have mant common things to share friendship does not rely on interest
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
18 Apr 13
Friendship request in mylot's case is different. I don't understand what you are referring to. But why should befriend a stranger?
@paidtoclickfan (144)
• United States
17 Apr 13
I have a lot of people on my friend list in facebook that are total strangers but I still accept the friend request because I don't have my personal information viewable on facebook like my home address and phone number. I don't know what the people are like if they will rape me or murder me. You do have to be careful on facebook and on the internet in general but you can accept friend requests from total strangers.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
18 Apr 13
Yes we can. As you said you have done good security settings so that personal information is not visible to strangers.. In that case i agree. But what about those who are kept public? It's risky for them. Also i don't understand the need to accepting friend requests or being friends with total strangers whom we might never even meet in our lifetime.
@jrjohn (49)
• Kazakhstan
17 Apr 13
I also am in complete agreement with this. The world is a very dangerous place, and people take advantage of the Internet to do some things which they may consider fun, but in actuality are of detriment to others. I am quite careful when I use the Internet, and especially with social networking. I never friend someone I don't personally know. This is the same case with myLot. I have nothing personally against some of you, but I just don't add you as a friend because you aren't a friend for me in real life. I don't see how you can have a real friend without having seen them fact to face.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
17 Apr 13
I agree with your response too friend. But poeple here at mylot are really good and never cheat. I was too like you when i first joined mylot few months back. It's these people that helped me. So you can trust the people here.
@TUHINTUSAR (31)
•
17 Apr 13
I'm agreed with you about your suggesion for facebook friend request.
I also get many friend request from many people who is not known by me.
I think we should not accept all the friend request.
@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
17 Apr 13
Yeah..i still kept that person on hold and probably won't accept him unless he replies back or something like that...Lol.
@emily7339 (1337)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 13
Yeah, this is very true. There are many young girls who have befriended someone through this social networking sites and got into trap 
. However, still there are many young children are very much into this site too, they do not know the danger in this social net working site and are easily dupe into scam 
. They could not identify the what is of genuine and what is not 
.
. However, still there are many young children are very much into this site too, they do not know the danger in this social net working site and are easily dupe into scam . They could not identify the what is of genuine and what is not .@nitinnair89 (2900)
• India
17 Apr 13
Yeah..but now i think it's got a bit safer for girls too with the increased security. But i see many kids there joined just for playing games and they share everything so innocently that data can be misused..it's time that people should understand.
