Kids Playing Outside

@Shellyann36 (11606)
United States
April 17, 2013 6:38pm CST
The weather is warming up so nicely here in my little part of the world. My 3 year old is longing to be outside every waking minute of the day and I just can't let him. I am not able to go outside with him that much because of the twins and because of my allergies. Even with my OTC meds that I am taking I try not to go out when the pollen is so thick. We live in a rural area and I only have one neighbor whose house I can see (he is a retired military veteran that keeps to himself) and our yard is fenced in the front but it still scares me to let my son outside to play when I am not watching him. There are too many mean people out there these days that will snatch a child up and runaway with them in a heart beat. Some people may find that I am over protective but I would rather be safe than sorry. The world we live in today is not the same one that I grew up in. Do you let your small children play outside by themselves without supervision?
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17 responses
• China
20 Apr 13
I don't think you are over protective .It is better to be careful.Your son is so little and there are some people who trade in children there.
@Shellyann36 (11606)
• United States
24 Apr 13
Yes I feel the same way. Thank you for stopping by.
• China
25 Apr 13
You are welcome!Hope the pollen count will soon be low .
@velvet53 (19202)
• Palisade, Colorado
17 Apr 13
I can understand why little Keith wants to be outside with the nice weather. But with your allergies and the twins I can see why you can't be out there a lot. Things have changed so much since my boys were his age. If I had little ones his age I wouldn't let them be out very long by them self. One never knows what can happen any more. Pretty sad isn't it?
@Shellyann36 (11606)
• United States
18 Apr 13
Things have changed alot since my older boys were his age. I was careful with them but not as strict as I am with Lil Keith these days. Hubby sees nothing wrong with letting him run wild in the yard while we are inside but I can't stand it.
@velvet53 (19202)
• Palisade, Colorado
18 Apr 13
Is your yard completely fenced and all gates locked so no one can come in? It is hard to keep him inside but it is also scary when you don't see him. Mom put a harness on me cause I would always take off. But that is no fun for a child that wants to have fun. People shouldn't have to live in fear of someone taking their child out of their yard.
@ANTIQUELADY (36471)
• United States
23 Apr 13
I think u are being very smart to be like this. Of course my children are grown but i have grands & i do not let them play out by themselves not even my oldest who will be 9 in july. I always sit out on the doorstop when he's outside. It's a shame that kids can't play out like i did. We stayed out till dark alot of days & noone ever thought a thing about it.
@Shellyann36 (11606)
• United States
24 Apr 13
I agree. When I was younger I stayed outside by myself alot without my parents worrying about me. Things have chanbed so much these days. It is a shame the way the world is these days.
@riempie9 (1026)
• South Africa
19 Apr 13
Do you know where your children are at all times of the day? Do you have any measures in place? Do you know about their friendships and chats with strangers and who their friends are? Predators lurk in families and where you least expect them. Sometimes they are your next-door neighbor, sometimes that friendly person you met in church. Take nothing for granted. Set up a neighborhood watch. Make sure you know the names of those new kids who sometimes join the group. And do not fall for that old trick: 'can you help me look for the dog? He was just here a minute ago.' Child snatching is a practiced art for molesters and kidnappers. Teach your kids to be streetwise and not to talk to strangers.
@Shellyann36 (11606)
• United States
24 Apr 13
Well my oldest 3 are grown and out of the home but my youngest 3 are ages 3 and twins that are 18 months old. Yes, I do know where the youngest three are at all of the time. We only have one close neighbor and he is not social and the kids are scared of him. Right now we don't have to worry about having friends over for play dates but it is best to be aware of what is happening everywhere. Thank you for your comment.
@ShyBear88 (27152)
• United States
18 Apr 13
No. I don't let my 2 year old play outside a lone either. There is always someone outside. This world you are never sure who is around and what they will do and so on. Yeah I do live in a great neighbor hood and there is a lot of little kids that live I'm the area as well all around my daughters age.
@Shellyann36 (11606)
• United States
18 Apr 13
I don't blame you ShyBear! More parents should be more responsible with their children. I keep tight tabs on mine.
@lelin1123 (15636)
• Puerto Rico
17 Apr 13
You are not at all over protective. In this world that we live in today you need to keep four eyes on your kids at all times. There is no way if I had young kids today, would I let them be outside without me watching over them. I will be in New Mexico in about fourteen days and I will be watching my two granddaughters. There will not be allowed outside unless I'm out there with them. I feel so bad for your 3 year old not being able to go outside. That has to be hard for him. How about if the twins were in a stroller or carriage and you had a mask over your mouth and nose you couldn't go our for about an hour so he can get some sunshine and play alittle?
@Shellyann36 (11606)
• United States
18 Apr 13
Oh I do let him outside. He normally plays outside from around 10 til 2:30 in the afternoons and even more than that sometimes. He just gets angry with me when I make him come in. His dad works 2nd shift and they are always outside doing something from when they wake up until Keith has to go to work. Normally I will let Lil Keith play longer outside until it is time to get busy on household chores and cooking. He just hates it when I put my foot down and he has to come inside when I do.
• Lenox, Georgia
17 Apr 13
My children are not allowed to play outside by themselves either. In the house we are in now we have no fence at all and I hate it! In our old house we had a fenced yard all the way around the back yard, and the back door which I would constantly look out to check on them. If we had a fenced back yard here I would let my kids go back there and play. But I would constantly check on them through the window or the door and I would leave a window open so I could hear them constantly. My kids are also a little older, my oldest is 7 years old so if something was wrong she knows to scream like crazy! You can never be too careful now a days your right about that. It's a scary world we live in! =(
@Shellyann36 (11606)
• United States
18 Apr 13
We are fortunate to have good dogs that keep us posted when anyone is even near our yard but I still like to be safe with him. He loves to run and explore and I have a hard time keeping him wrangled in the front yard. I am glad that you keep a good eye on yours too.
@bjc66bjc (6740)
• United States
17 Apr 13
Oh Shelly, I am with you..I never let me children outside without me sitting out there with me...Even when I went inside to the bath room they had to come inside...You are so right, the world we live in is so disrespectful and mean I would never leave a child outside alone, I don't care what anyone say about being to over protective. I didn't even live in the country I lived in city and without a big yard for my children to play in..so I certainly was not leaving them outside...NEVER...NEVER...so better safe that sorry...
@Shellyann36 (11606)
• United States
18 Apr 13
Yes I agree. It is too dangerous. My hubby thinks I am nuts but I just overlook what he says and do what I think is best!
@BellaDoc (771)
• San Diego, California
25 Jan 16
I loved growing up in a rural area. Sorry about the allergies
@jstory07 (79981)
• Roseburg, Oregon
12 Oct 15
I always go outside with my younger grandchildren. Mostly we go to the park and play.
@inertia4 (27916)
• United States
28 Apr 13
I agree with you. I remember when my kids were 3 years old. I never let them out by themselves. I always went with them. I live in the city, so we have a nice size yard that is all fenced in. And I still never let them out by themselves. Now that they are older no problem. As for playing in the front of the house, not here. With all that traffic and people, anything can happen.
@Pegasus72 (1900)
27 Apr 13
You are right unless you have a fenced in yard which many of us do not have the luxury of having. I grew up with a big back yard, which my kids have never had.
@mermaidivy (15404)
• United States
18 Apr 13
I like to let the kids play outside in the backyard, my backyard is gated and surrounded so I don't worry they play outside as long as I keep checking on them and hear them, also my dog would guard them too, that makes it better I would rather them to play outside than sticking to the television or ipad, fortunately it seems like my son likes to play outside more than the playing with the electronics so far.
@dawnald (84076)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Apr 13
Nooooo......
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
18 Apr 13
i always accompany my son since he is just too small to let him go outside.. i always beside my son specially outside because you are right the world today is not a safe place anymore even kids now are victims of crimes so we should always be responsible in taking care of our children..
@songst557 (232)
• China
18 Apr 13
I won't let my kid go out alone even if he's four now,your choice is right,but I noticed that you said you have fence in front of you door,I guess this can prevent most of incidents.Maybe you can improve your fence that it can't open by kid,and move everything that could harm your kid out of the front garden,then you can sit by the window and watch them playing around.It's a beautiful scene,isn't it? ^_^
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
18 Apr 13
With my first two children,both girls, (in their 30th now)we lived in the country and they played outside with someone checking on them every once in a while. My second two children -boys- (17 and 18 now) played outside but were checked on pretty often because we were living in town and although we had a fenced in yard they had to play in the backyard and stay out of the front yard unless someone was with them. We now are back on the family place in what use to be the country but now so many people have moved in that it seems like a small city. My Grandsons (8 and 10)comes after school and i am a nervous wreck when they are outside and am constantly either outside checking on them or watching them from the window (yeah i know paranoid). but as screwed up as the world has gotten children are not safe even in their own yard so you have to be vigilant. I cringe to think what my great-grand children are going to think normal "play" time is. The little mites are probably going to look like pale little vampires because being outside is just to big a risk for their parents to take. It's sad but true!