He is so immature.

United States
April 20, 2013 2:02pm CST
My daughter's "father" posted on his Facebook that I'm the dumbest girl he's ever met and I need to grow up. He also wants me to forget about him like he so easily forgot about me. Well, that's all fine and dandy but what he posted just proves that he doesn't want anything to do with our daughter. Because if he has forgotten about me, he has also forgotten about her. Not even 24 hours later, he's talking about celebrating 4/20, the National Pot Smoking holiday. It's so nice that he can celebrate this stupid, meaningless holiday yet he couldn't even attend his own daughter's first birthday party! He just grinds my gears and gets on my nerves so much! He's still not paying my child support and I guess he thinks he's going to get away with it. He's got another thing coming...
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@sissy15 (12269)
• United States
20 Apr 13
It always makes me wonder how some fathers can so easily forget their children. Most mothers wouldn't be able to do that. A father never gets the bond that a woman gets with their child. I got so lucky with my sons father, but I know a lot of women in the same predicament as you, and it's just sad. Fathers never know what they are missing out on, and if they do it is often after they have already missed a big portion of their child's life. This is why women usually get custody of children. Not to say all women are perfect and are all great mothers, because there are a fair share of women out there who are horrible mothers, but mothers more often than not have their children's best interests at heart. It's like since men didn't carry the child in them they miss out on that bond that mothers have with their babies, and they can't just love the way we can, and it makes it easier for them to just be able to leave. I will never get it. Also most often the state wont let fathers get away with not paying child support, sometimes they do, but not usually. Hopefully things work out for you. I hate hearing about fathers like this. They are low lives and don't deserve to get to know their children who will probably be better off without them. It just sucks for the children. They often wonder why they weren't good enough, and that is never fair. It's just letting them know that they did nothing wrong.
• United States
21 Apr 13
Some boys just don't understand what it takes to be a FATHER. They don't understand what they miss when they put other stuff before their children. I'll pray for you and your daughter that God blesses you with peace. Give your daughter all the love you have and she'll never know what she's missing.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
21 Apr 13
As difficult as it may be to do...do NOT give him the satisfaction of responding or arguing. My Ex used to be the same way only we didn't even have internet back then. He would just tell mutual friends things like I was "taking him to the cleaners on child support"...and other derigatory stuff on me. he was ordered to pay a stupid 25.00 per month!!! And he didn't even pay it!! Yes...I said, per month. I was angry and young and I would buy into it and argue with him and get defensive. Somewhere along the way, I grew up..got over it and figured that if he can live with it all then so can I. We are now very civil to each other. He feels horrible about how he treated us and tells our daughter's that he still loves me. And I felt so hated. It's been years and there are grandchildren. If I could go back and do it again...I'd have pressed my ignore button and not bothered arguing with him at all...not worth it.
@marguicha (216812)
• Chile
20 Apr 13
I would do whatever can be doe to get child support. That, apparently, is all you will get from him and the sooner you realise that, the happier you will be. And that`s a kind of father a child does not need around.Ranting about what he does and about what he doesn`t do is keeking him near you all the time. I would suggest you move on.
@dagami (1158)
• Rome, Italy
20 Apr 13
aside from the child support which you can settle through a lawyer, i suggest you stay away from him as much as possible. he seems not only immature but also irresponsible. if you want to have a more peaceful life, remove updates from him on your FB account. i can understand how you feel because your rapport with him would eventually affect your daughter but unless he changes, your daughter will be better off without him. celebrating the national pot day is not setting a good example for her.