Life of a single mom!

i think its a hard job and i respect many single moms,they must make all the choices about their home with no one to assist or consult,you are playing two roles of dad and mum and also the society wonders alot about you ,i think this mums have alot on their plates and we need to be kind and also appreciate what they are doing for their kids and their lives.

I think it is not easy to be a single mom since you have to be a father and a mother at the same time to care a kid. You have to work hard to earn money. I have no idea to be a single mom since i can imagine how hard to be a single mom. Life is not short at all, and we have to face to money, caring a kid till she/he is 18 years old, and you may support money for him/her to continue studying in univ. 3-5 years more.

Well, if you don't mind, I just want to say something on your post although I am not a single mom, nor I am a woman. I think those single mom are the greatest person in the world. They work hard, and they fought their way through without complaint to raise their kids. A couple of colleagues of mine are single moms, and they did a great job to raise their kids and to keep up with their healthy lives too.

I am not a single mother but I knew lots of them some are my friends.. anyways it is hard to be a single mother being the only one to support and raise your child alone needs a lot of patience and hardwork., my friend is a single mom of two so I can't imagine how hard her life is because her husband didn't support their children financially.. he doesn't care anymore .. and my friend don't have a job right now so she just waits for her parents for a financial support for them.. I really admire my friend for being a good mom despite of her situation and I really wished good luck to all the single moms out there..

i was a single mom to my son for 12 years, until i met my husband ten years ago. however, since my husband and i live abroad, so he isn't an active step dad. my period was a bit irregular when i was young so i only realised i was pregnant a few weeks after my BF and i broke up. however, the fact that we weren't together anymore didn't stop my ex from asking me if i wanted to get married. i thought hard about it and decided not to. i didn't want to marry just because i was pregnant. i reared my son with the help of my parents. i had a good job and i was financially capable of supporting all his needs but without them, i would have been lost. when i left for abroad, i left him with them so he could continue with his studies. i saw to all his financial needs and i always talked with him regularly. every year i go home to stay with him for a month. i do have guilt feelings. i haven't asked him if he feels bad that i chose to be a single mom and thus deprived him of a "normal" life. i feel guilty that i wasn't always with him during his teens. i am very close with my son. he is very open to me about his life. he tells me about his problems. now that he's married and has made me a grandma, i try to help them in any way i can. except during the first few years when he was still very young and suffering from asthma, we had a relatively good life. it wasn't really hard as my parents and brothers loved my son a lot. there was never a problem for a male figure since i am the only girl in the family (except my mom, of course). my two brothers and dad were always there for him. he had no problem adjusting in school. we lived in a small town and everybody knew about his having no dad so it was a given. whenever there were school affairs that needed the presence of parents, i was always there. believe me, even if i was the only single mom, i wasn't the only one alone. most parents couldn't come in twos!!! having him is the best thing that thing that ever happened to me. he gave me strength and a purpose in life. in every major decision i make, i always think about him before i decide.

I think being single mother is challenge for me. I had experienced become single mother at about 4 years. I divorced from my husband because there is no similar point of view anymore and I felt comfort to be alone, since there is no arguing anymore between us. I can handle my own children. It's hard actually but I enjoyed. I always ask help to my God for everything.

I am a single mom after separating from a husband who did not fulfill his obligations of child support. I had to fulfill the responsibility of feeding the kids and sending them to school which has actually put me into a cycle of debt. My paycheck was hardly enough to cover the monthly expenses that my only option was to borrow money. It came to point when there was hardly anything left for living expenses but we survived. The kids were a big help as they completely understood the dire financial situation. It is very significant when children understand as they don't ask for extras. At a young age they learned the value of money and sacrifice. Right now, we have overcome all the financial issues since 2 have graduated from college and mind you, they are strict with budget after all they have gone through.

Yes motherhood is never a joke especially if you are just alone doing the responsibilities. Motherhood is a lifetime commitment , no time outs nor rest . It is a 24 hour task. I believed motherhood is next to divinity. Being a single mom is a saintly deed , fulfilling the two roles without any complain and with a pride. It is in here where unconditional love can be seen . Single moms are more superb and amazing than ordinary moms because it is never easy for a family to have one post only . An ideal family should have two post for it to be able to stand and single mom performs that ! Salute to all single moms!

I am not a single mother but I think those who are single mother are really lucky because they face only maybe financial problems and have two role of being mom and dad in the same time.. I do not think if having that two role is that difficult... when a mother works , her income will be like role of a father and love and caring for her child is role as a mother.. well.. I really think to become a single mother is a luck..

Hi Cttlledo! I'm also a mom but with a partner but I a cousin and close friends who opted, they really chose, to become single mothers. They more or less living the life and can give much to their children, actually most of them have only one child. So more or less the child is pretty much well supported. My cousin said she really don't like the guy so having a child with him was really a mistake but having a son of her own was a miracle. She's having help with her mother instead of renting a nanny. It goes the same way with my other friends. Having their family members help take care of their children. So they usually don't have a problem with having a father figure because their fathers are there to support their choices, too. Their children are pretty young, like 3-4 years. I would worry about if they get to school already and ask about their fathers. What would single moms tell their children about their relationship. And how would they make the situation normal for the child and others? Would the children have behavioral problems? I hope I can learn from this discussion. Thanks! Happy mylotting :)