Do you feel like people make fool out of you because you trust easily?
April 23, 2013 12:00pm CST
Has there ever been a moment, when you realize the person you trusted was not worth it? There have been a few moments in my life when I felt so helpless that every proof of a person's lie and deceit was in front of my eyes but I could not let go of that person. Somehow I felt so attached to that human being that even though I was back-stabbed a dozen times, I still wanted to make that person happy. Still felt like trusting ... have you ever felt so? Or am I the only fool roaming this planet...
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• Pune, India
28 Apr 13
Hi, There are some people in our life who take the advantage of our kindness. They make us fool. You are very nice person. You want to make others happy even if they cheat you or fool you. I read somewhere that we should be nice to others who are rude to us not because they are nice but because we are nice.
24 Apr 13
I think that people will definitely make a fool out of you because you trust easily. They will easily misuse your trust. They will betray you. It will be one of the worst times of your life. But think about it, were you really the fool? Was it really the one who trusted and believed in another person the fool? :) I think that the real fool is the one who was trusted but decided to misuse it. Seldom will they find other people who will truly believe that there still is goodness in them.
24 Apr 13
"If you give an inch, they will take a mile" is a common phrase I have witnessed many times throughout my life. Whatever city, town or country I was in, this always is true. Another quote that comes to mind is: "If you can't find the sucker at the table, then it is you." This is a reference to poker, but of course, both quotes respond to real life. Life is too short to simply trust anyone whom you deem fit or who you believe trusts you. Even Mother Theresa was known to let people die (even children) who didn't announce their faith in God. The point is, there is no such thing as a truly good person, and simply trusting and giving to everybody you encounter will only lead you to frustration and a shallow grave. Don't let people walk all over you. Live for yourself and develop a strong core of a few people you trust and love. That is all you need afterall...don't let the wild, vengeful world absorb you whole, leaving nothing except regret and disdain.
24 Apr 13
There are some people of this kind even I have noticed but do not worry if you have a good quality and your friend or enemy has a bad quality neglect these tiny things and do not react at these conditions pray to god that please help me he everytimes provide you what you have asked beleif is necessary then,god will never decieve you do friendship with god not with your friends they are in reality selfish they can not give you anything but the creator god always help love you like a mother loving kissing his child even the child cries,
• United States
23 Apr 13
Your problem is very relatable shiftmeup. Sadly, our kindness can easily be exposed as weakness by less than moral people. The most important thing to do is forgive but not forget. We can't help who we're attracted to in this world, but it is up to us to set guidelines and boundaries in our lives as we see fit. The only advice I can give is to remove yourself from usual patterns, it's a lot easier than removing usual patterns of thought.
23 Apr 13
Yes. I broke my heart many times because of my past "best friends." It was during my elementary and high school days that trusting people did me no good. Friends would betray you in an unbelievable way just so they can save their own faces. A lot of backstabbing and other hurtful things gave me trusting issues. I dunno why, but sometimes, even though the person has already done something bad to me, I end up forgiving her. Maybe because I keep hoping that they'll change on how they treat me. Now, I am very careful into letting people in my life. You could say that I still have trusting issues, but it has lessened because I have a person who cares about me now as much as I care about him.
• Leesburg, Georgia
23 Apr 13
Oh goodness, I have been through this so many times in my life! My husband and I like to help people all the time but we have also got burned from doing so a lot too. My husband and I took in a guy who we thought at the time was a friend. Well, he was here for a month. Then, one day he thought it would be a good idea to steal from us! He stole our scooter we had just bought, my husband's sneakers and a few other things as well. We were so hurt because we were really close with him. He told us he loved God (which was a lie) so we thought he had the same faith as us as well. He was nothing but a liar and a thief! The worst thing is, he was REALLY good at lying and stealing... Too good. He really hurt us and made us so angry! But we still felt sad that we lost a friend...
23 Apr 13
Well I guess everyone has been betrayed at some point, but I for one am very wary of trusting someone too readily and then if I find I have been hurt, I have absolutely no problem just making a clean cut straight away. If I don't protect myself I will be left with a mess to clean up all by myself anyway, so its in my own interest!