What Gentleman means for you?

India
April 25, 2013 1:50am CST
Well, for me Gentleman is the one who is really polite and sophisticated.. I love sophisticated, soft spoken and handsome guys! Men in my home country are really Gentle, they would never pass the door if a lady is there, they would go to the corner and politely they will ask to ladies first to pass... they would never sit in the car without opening and ask to lady to sit first and after they close the door, they will sit and drive.. they would never talk loudly, they would never come empty handed to a lady as always they surprise you with something as a gift. well they should be so caring and soft spoken like what I have seen in guys of my home country.. and result of marring out of your country is to not have those gentlemen ...lol... what is your idea about a gentleman? and who is gentleman for you? :)
16 responses
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
25 Apr 13
I don't know in which category I belongs. Normally, other people who judge others by observing people's behaviour and I like all those habits what you mentioned above. It is not just for a formality, buy doing so, I feel comfortable and feel good at mind and nice behavior is as simple as clean water. So, I never prefer any kind of bad habits towards women or ladies mainly because I just don't like it. I think to have a lots of good friends (girls) for me is may be the same reason. Even in office also, we have around 150 members in the dept. and 60% above are girls and only few got married and all others are just fresh like college and after. I got a nice companionship with most of them and I still have the faith that, if we behave nicely, we will get it back double in return.
• India
25 Apr 13
Hi Viju/fun, It is true that our behaviour shows to an extent, what type of a person we are. In the modern life, people behave so gently as part of their profession/career life pattern and they may be different in their real life. In the last weekend, we were out for 3 days in a resot and few female staff over there were so well behaved, mannered, smiling and talking nicely and all. We may think that how good they are. But in fact, they all are behaving in such a way that they it is part of their profession and they need to be with other in their premises. At the same time, if we happened to meet the same girls outside the place anywere, we cannot expect them to behave in such a manner anywhere else. I mean to say, being gentle in a person's life shows their culture etc. Here I can't find such a well behaved/mannered people around at all times and about 95% people are not belongs in such a category. I don't know why people so, may be lack of knowledge or they may be thinking that such behaviours may not make any difference or they never learned to how to behave etc.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
25 Apr 13
Hi, If we (male/female) need to be treated nicely by others, then we should be nice to others.
• India
25 Apr 13
well, a polite and well behaved man is gentleman.. so you are gentleman in respect and understanding..
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
25 Apr 13
I like that appropriated 2 words, "Polite and sophisticated". Consideration to feeling of others and being unmoved by silly provocations are unavoidable qualities of gentleness. But which is that "home country"? What that "out of your country" means?
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
25 Apr 13
Gentlemen are vulnerable to marriage. Gentlewoman too.
• India
25 Apr 13
that is for everyone... if a man is enough good and gentle then of course his partner is happy with him and what is the result of being happy together? a good and successful life...! and opposite if a man does not know how to be well behaved and respect then he hurt his life partner and fight and discuss and in that atmosphere who can be happy...? opposite of that also is true... so it is good to be a gentleman and gentlewoman...
• India
25 Apr 13
well, home country means the country that I belong and I grow up in... I am out of my country now. and a gentleman may never marry !?....
@youless (112164)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Apr 13
Besides the polite and good matters, I think gentlemen also refer to honest, brave and just men. They will try to keep their promises. They will not tell a lie. In brief, gentlemen are the ideal men I am glad that there are a lot of gentlemen in your home country.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
25 Apr 13
Hi, Oh, i thought gentleman never promises (so no worries of keeping their promises)
• India
25 Apr 13
why they should keep promises if they are honest? honest one does not need to give promise and a gentleman of course should be honest..
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
25 Apr 13
The one who treat everyone with respect and behaves politely is a gentleman for me. No I don’t think so a handsome man (a good looking man) can be a gentleman too. In a lighter side, in my country a guy would open the Car door if the Car is hers or the Car is new or if she’s his Boss, if they don’t speak loudly people will think he’s scared of his gf/wife…….. lol. Sorry no offence meant to any of the good and bold gentlemen here….
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
25 Apr 13
By talking loud, he’s trying to show his manliness (power of being a man). In this country the females are expected to be quiet, calm and speak in a low voice, thereby exhibiting good womanhood....
• India
25 Apr 13
thanks for your nice idea.. well, a gentleman who always is well behaved specially with ladies then why should be afraid of his gf or wife ? trust should be just for those gentlemen...
@Deepak2J (1178)
• India
26 Apr 13
Really ! Which country are you from ? There is only handful of people who meet your description in this country where I live. That's amazing country you got. Good Luck and Best Wishes. Have a wonderful day
• India
28 Apr 13
thanks.... and good day!
• Philippines
26 Apr 13
Being a gentleman basically is being sensitive to the needs of others especially women
• India
26 Apr 13
hmmm... i did not mean of being a toy in hand of others, i mean a well behaved human who respect others and been honest and trust worthy.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
26 Apr 13
The gentleman you described sounds like what we in the USA would call a true southern gentleman. At one time, boys were trained, usually by their mothers, to treat all females too treat all females with courtesy and respect. Then came women's lib. Young women were insulted when a gentleman insisted in taking the lead in everything, opening doors, doing the driving, planning the evening, etc. The women insisted on having the right to be equal to a man in every  way, They could smoke and drink in public, drive their own cars, and pay for their own meals. Some of the women's lib agenda was good for women in general, but sometimes, I think that they have lost more than they gained.
• India
26 Apr 13
I mean a man who is really man but soft and respectful to ladies, well behaved, honest, brave.. strong... anyway is that available in this world?
@bigearner (131)
• India
25 Apr 13
A gentleman is one who respects each and every person and have good attitude towards all. He is polite,gentle,caring,loyal and more. Respected by others for his good nature and deeds.
• India
25 Apr 13
yes, that is a gentleman and I also think as same as yours about gentleman.
25 Apr 13
well according to me Gentleman is the one show real respect towards women u should be great full towards them n it is really shows in their eyes . it should be the most prominent point according to me.
• India
26 Apr 13
nice idea and thanks for sharing.
• Maldives
25 Apr 13
You are wrong at some part.... If you are so true about what you claim what about... Shakti Kapoor...Gulshan Grover...Amrish Poori...Amjad Khan..Pran..etc...and of their type......? Now beat it....
• India
26 Apr 13
are those gentlemen?
25 Apr 13
A Gentleman ensures that the feelings/needs of others are always considered so that everybody feels comfortable. Happy mylotting!
• India
25 Apr 13
thanks for sharing... I am agree with you, have a good day
• China
25 Apr 13
Being polite to other women with good manners, and the most important thing is that he should be sincere to his beloved one and respect her. A gentleman should always be the same no matter who he is with.
• India
26 Apr 13
agree with you. a gentleman should not have many faces..
• Canada
25 Apr 13
To me a gentleman is very gentle and is a man. Extremely quiet when he talks, tiptoes around the room in a free, fluttery manner, skin so soft it is completely gentle like a babies bottom, an incredibly slow breathing manner and a immensely weak grip on anything he touches or holds as not to crumple or damage it in any way.
• India
25 Apr 13
wow, nice explanation about a gentleman.. yes, they should be so soft in their behave and talk.. they would never hurt anything and should be careful..
• India
25 Apr 13
my idea about a gentleman is the one who has a strong character who always respect people may it be poor or rich a person who never classifies on the basis of status etc.....a person wh is not for material wealth and my gentle man is gandhiji as i heard of this qualities in him.
• India
26 Apr 13
i appreciate your idea about who is gentleman... yes to be strong and brave is a good point
@deine86 (115)
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
Nothing beats a man who truly have the heart for the feelings of others, right? That is what a gentleman is, a man who is very sensible and treats her woman well with respect and caring.
• India
25 Apr 13
yes, a gentleman should behave politely and respectfully with everyone not only with ladies.. but with all... How good was if all men were gentle.
25 Apr 13
My boyfriend is the main definition of Gentleman, setting aside that his my man he knows how to react in polite manner when he doesn't agree, he takes care of woman by nature like simple manner of letting the woman be first in line, carries the bag when he saw someone having hard time in carrying the bags.. those stuffs always listens and he's so cute haha.. he's sensitive to others in man's touch way..
• India
25 Apr 13
you have a great boy friend. ya, he is gentleman :)