Good Friends or Not?

Philippines
April 25, 2013 3:44am CST
This is one of the stories happened last year. November of last year, me and my friends decided to have a Christmas party and each of us should contribute P500 for food. At the end of November, I gave them P500 as my contribution. Unfortunately, my girfriend's family was hit by Typhoon Pablo. I told them I couldn't attend the party because I have to go to ComVal to help her family. I didn't ask them to give back my P500 because I wanted to see if they will return it without me asking. And so, the Chistmas party happened and I didn't have my money back. I thought they will return it to me because they knew the situation and my gf's family need help badly. How would you describe the situation? Do you think they are good friends or not?
8 responses
@kheigh (215)
25 Apr 13
I think that you shouldn't base your judgment if they're good friends or not on that situation alone. Really good friends would probably return your money without you asking for but maybe you should have. I think your friends would have returned it if you asked for it. But the preparation for that party must have cost quite a lot, and maybe they thought that because you didn't ask for the money that you don't actually need it. That maybe your girlfriend is receiving more or enough monetary help. Again, do not judge your friends based on that single event.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
yes you are right. I was just quite disappointed. I really thought that they will give it back. It happened in the past, I forget it. I know they are good friends. It was also my fault not asking them to give it back..
@vip25sc (48)
• Thailand
25 Apr 13
In your case, I can say not at all. I know you have made an agreement to do the party but the bad situation of your girlfriend is something that you didn't expect before. What they should do it not only return you those p500 but they should offer you some help. However, what you have got from this situation is not money back but you know the what kind of people they are. There are lot of people like this in our society, they call themselves friends of you but when you need help what they have done to you is not what friends should do.
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
Unfortunately, they didn't give any help. As far as I can remember, my gf was joking the gf of one of my friends (she was our co-worker before) if they could give something to her. She ask her boyfriend (who is my friend) about it and told that they couldn't give any help. (even used clothes?)
@yanzalong (18857)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 13
Did you mention to your friends that you only lent the money? If you did, they must have said something about when the money had to be returned to you. I guess there was misunderstanding between you and your friends. Supposing they thought you gave them the money as your contribution, they should have something about it too.
@jenny1015 (13367)
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
They must have thought that you might have just wanted to give it to help them celebrate the party. Don't think bad against them. It was Christmas, after all.
• Philippines
25 Apr 13
Maybe that was in their mind. I just felt bad because what I wanted from them didn't happen.
@Raine38 (11504)
• United States
25 Apr 13
It is heart to qualify the extent of someone's friendship through money. Because money will never be a measurement of a true friendship. They may have been insensitive at that time, but then that doesn't mean that they are less of a friend to you.
25 Apr 13
such incidents are common in current day world. but still you cannot say your friends are not good friends.
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
25 Apr 13
Why test your friends? Are you their friend too? If you need the money, tell them. If they are your friends and they can understand the situation, I am sure they may help. They are not mind readers, are they?
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
25 Apr 13
The party was already prepared. The collected money could have already been spent on party logistics. They still are your good friends, the way I see it.