mother in law hates you!!!

Philippines
April 29, 2013 11:04pm CST
have you experience the feeling that your mother inlaw did'nt like you..i always feel that coz everytime iwill cook she always reject it even if i bought a food she did'nt bother to taste...and also her treatment to me so cold..!!!and now were not in good term as n..but why i bother??????but ihope time will come she accept me with her open arms.
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Not with my MIL but my FIL. Yes. I have no problem with my MIL because she is very considerate and very understanding to me.But, my FIL? oh boy...he is like demon being sent from his master Satan. This is the reason why I refrain from visiting their place not unless for some very important reason to visit or have something to get from my MIL...for me there's no more chance we could have a "mutual" understanding with FIL... Mobhomeir here 043013
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• Philippines
30 Apr 13
hahaha yeah i always do that avoiding go thier house,...by the way thaks for coment.,
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Im not married but im a sister in law. My mom felt so sick about her cause shes very lazy and thrifty. My mom said, it wont matter if she doesnt helps at home but she should have some respect not leaving their used plates or untensils on the table after eating with my brother. So my mom has some right reasons to hate my sister in law but she didnt. In fact she is feeling sorry for her everytime my sister in law has some trouble with my brother. But, your mother in law, I dont understand. I can see you are trying your best to be close to her which she rejects. Are you sure she was just doing fine when you married her son?
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• Philippines
30 Apr 13
hi tnx for the sympathy...yeah maybe i think im too young for his son that ican maybe burden for thier family but i prove it that behind my young age being pregy i can stand all my responsibility,but i think my mother in law seem she did'nt want to notice it..... haaayyy life hehehe
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@lelin1123 (15636)
• Puerto Rico
30 Apr 13
I feel so bad for you. I feel bad for anyone who does not get along with the in-laws. Sometimes its the wife who just doesn't like the in-laws or its the mother in-law who can't accept the wife of her son no matter how nice she is. I feel thoses mom want to continue to control their sons. It has to be a difficult thing to live with. I have been blessed to have great in-laws. They love me like their own daughter and I love them like they are my second set of parents. Maybe you need to have a talk with her and ask her why she is treating you so cold.
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• Philippines
30 Apr 13
yeah maybe but i thinkful in some ways coz she did'nt control the life of his son.,she olny shows me cold treatment and ignore me sometimes...for now i dont bother it i will take college for my own good to my kids and my husbond..hope i can do it.
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@Bhebelen14 (5202)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Sorry if you feel this way and if your mother in law does not treat you well. My mother in law passed away a long time ago and never met her. How I wish i could meet her so that i can share all the happy moments that happened into my life together with my husband. I ma just glad that my father in law is very kind and accepted me as his own daughter. I do hope too that someday you can have talk to your mother in law to ask what the reason why she treated you that way so that you can resolve it. Good luck.
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• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Fortunately, I dont think my mother in law hates me I haven't noticed anything unkind that she has shown me in the past. As for the others who are having bad experience with their mother in law, just give them time because they might just be having a hard time accepting that they are no longer the only woman in their son's life
@Gabugs (1720)
• United States
1 Dec 15
I am so very sorry to hear this. Its sad indeed! On the contrary, your mother-in-law should do all she can to make you feel welcome in her family.
@CuteMandy (165)
• China
1 May 13
I feel sad about that. But you just treat her as sincere as you are,she will accept you someday. The most complicated relationship is daughter in law with the mother in law. While she hates you, you keep to be good to her. She will understand you and accept you at last.
• Venezuela
30 Apr 13
Hi friends. My wife is also in your soft. My mother is some what rough and tough nature, she is very straight forward and speak every thing in front of the person, without understanding the hurts of others. My wife always have a good respect on her, but she have some fear on her due to her activity. Even she moving friendly with her, always have a little bit fear on her. I think this kind of fear are unnecessary. Consider your MIL as your own mother and make a good relationship with her to live your life happily.
• India
30 Apr 13
Hi friend, sad to hear about this. My MIL is very kind. My mother also being very kind to my wife. They both have a good relationship. Hope your MIL will realize her fault soon. I think your marriage is a love marriage, does your parents and MIL accepted your love?
@barehugs (8985)
• Canada
30 Apr 13
Yes, of course she does! You took her daughter(or son) away from her, and not only that- her child loves you more than he or she loves her! So this is quite natural and you might as well get used to it. However with a bit of understanding on your part you can help change this. Always respect your mother-in-law and thank her for raising your loving spouse. If you can forgive her for shutting you out, and be understanding of her situation, she will in time, come to love you as much as she loves your spouse,(her child!)
@vip25sc (48)
• Thailand
30 Apr 13
It doesn't sound good in your case, I hope things will get better soon. I am a bit lucky that my boyfriend parents are so nice too me. They want me to go visit them often and they want me to cook for them too. This is maybe because of I cook something totally different from what they usually eat. We speak different language and don't understand them, they don't understand me but we can cook together, sound fun, isn't?
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
I know that feeling well. I've had same experience with my mother in-law. At first our misunderstandings rooted from jealousy. She feels neglected when in fact her son was very considerate up to the point of indulging her whims. I endured every slander, verbal vicious attacks she threw at me until finally when my husband left to work abroad, she attacked me physically. That was the lowest point in my life, I've cried buckets of tears but in the end I decided it was time enough for me to put an end to her abusing me in any form. I said my piece and we left our home, we rented somewhere near my work so she couldn't get near me and my kids. I let my my husband chose between us and her mother because by then I will respect my husband decision if he can't bear to be parted with her mother, we'd better put an end with our married life. It was the hardest part of our marital life, I thought it would never end. So I guess it is better to live separately, once you decide to marry, it is a must to have your own dwelling, somewhere where you can start by your own, you get to decide where to steer your relationship to to avoid such experience. By now, I get to see my mother in-law once in two years and it's better that way. I've kept my silence long enough and now that I have found it, I won't let anyone ruin it again.
@khithi17 (762)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Well, in my case. My mother and father in law doesn't hate me. They actually love me like I'm their own daughter. It's my husbands grand mother that hates me so much. I always say to my husband that her grandma's allergic to me. Whenever I am around, she's always in a bad mood. That's why I don't like staying at her house, because no matter what good thing I do and even how nice I am to her she still hates me to the bones. But I am still nice to her because she is an old lady. Good thing my mom taught me to respect the elderly. :)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
Oh, what's wrong with your mother-in-law. Maybe she's jealous of you because you got most of her son's attention and love now. Let's pray that one of these days, her treatment to you will change. Try to win her heart. If she really doesn't like you then don't bother. Maybe time will fix that for you. Just enjoy your life with your husband and with your child if you already have one.
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 13
I hope in the future your MIL can accept you. Sometimes parent's love to their child is so big that when someone else receive their kid's love, they start to get a little jealous.
@ajithlal (14613)
• India
30 Apr 13
I haven't any positive opinion about any problem between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I have a mother-in-law but we aren't any problem .