Don't be afraid to love again...
By AngelaMarie
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
Philippines
April 30, 2013 2:03am CST
My cousin came here last night crying around 11 pm and do not know where to go. I was very surprised to see her in front of our door because she usually call first before going to our home, good thing the guard allowed her to go up here in our unit. She was crying because someone deeply in love to her and she likes the guy too but she is afraid to love again after what happened to her in the past. She was very in love during that time with her ex-boyfriend, she gave up everything including her wealth, career and dreams just to be with that guy. They lived in together for almost 3 years far away from her parents and relatives until one day the guy left her in that place without any explanation and without even a single cent. Good thing someone helped her and allowed to use cellphone to contact us,immediately her parents came to that place to rescue her. She already moved on as far as i know and happy with her present life being single but until someone fell in love with her. She likes the guy very much but afraid to love again, i told her not to be afraid, fall in love and be happy. You will never know if he is the one for you or not if don't try. Not all men are like your ex-boyfriend, enjoy your life and don't leave the past behind. After that she embraced me and cry hard. I am always praying for her happiness, she deserve to be happy and to be love my someone.
Have a great day!
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9 responses
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
30 Apr 13
Hello Bhebelen. It seems that your cousin was deeply hurt by her ex-boyfriend, unfairly treated by him. Out of this reason she is now hesitating about falling in love again. Maybe she has not got out of that shadow created by her ex-boyfriend. Your understanding to her and comforting her makes me feel good. I hope that she will soon forget about the past and let it pass without letting it influence her current life. May she live a good life with someone to love and to be loved. Take care.
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
I am hoping that she will let go the past and live her life with full of love too. I am praying that one she will realized that what happened in the was only a bad experience and it's time for her to make a good one. Thanks
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
I agree with you ajithlal, once you got hurt you need to move one to the next chapter of your life and never look back it makes you sad or if you still feel the pain.
@Ashokraj (107)
• India
30 Apr 13
Your cousin's fear about love is reasonable. At her situation anybody will afraid like that. But she needs to think. She should decide her life. All men are not like her ex boyfriend. Somebody may be like that. No need to afraid to fall in love again. If she also loves him and trust him, she can go on. Trust and confidence is more important in love. If both of them have this, they will live a good life. I wish them to be happy.
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@Iamyoung (21)
• Hong Kong
30 Apr 13
I totally agree with you,No need to afraid to fall in love again,she should forget the unhappy experience and try to look on the bright side,after all very few people are like her ex-boyfriend....
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
30 Apr 13
I know why your cousin felt this way being afraid to move on. The pain is still in her, just imagine almost three years spent and gave all she had just to be happy with him. But I guess they were really not meant to be a couple.
Now, she needs a friend to assure her that all will be fine if she gave it a try. Forget the past and move on, with her experienced I guess she should be more careful this time.
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@cloudstr (2)
• Venezuela
30 Apr 13
when you are falling already, its really hard or impossible to stop, either you could just keep it in and let it blow over in time or act on it. But one could prevent falling before actually falling by not allowing oneself to get infatuate. Its a discipline, a skill i believe that the most committed people is lasting happy relationships consciously or unconsciously know.
@sexygrace (13)
• Philippines
1 May 13
if there is pain, sorrow and failure someone comes in our life and give us strength to believe in life again. Do not afraid to love again and there is always love in second time... That is my idea when it comes to love. Give ourselves a chance, a chance to be happy again and a chance to love and be loved.
@RebeccasFarm (86757)
• United States
30 Apr 13
Yes this new guy and the feelings she was feeling at this time, probably raised up the painful past for her. I am too glad that the guard was so kind as to let her up to your place at that hour.
I know that she took comfort in your words and hugs.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
30 Apr 13
I think your cousin should let go the past and try to live at the present. I also agree that all men are not the same. I think it is always good to love someone who love us than someone whom we love and to spend time on people who does not love us.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
30 Apr 13
Hi friend, sad to hear about your cousins story. She selected a wrong person at first, so only she faced this bitter experience in her life. Good to know another person love her. Does he know about her story? Tell your cousin to share about her past life to him, if he still love her and interested in marrying her then there is nothing wrong in accepting his love and forget about the past events
@arpecubha (47)
• Bulgaria
30 Apr 13
Everyone deserves to be happy. It's wonderful to be in love with somebody and that shouldn't bother her. Her present boyfriend could be the love of her life. I hope she'll found the happiness. I'm sure she deserves it!
