Do you have big stress in your life now?

China
May 13, 2013 6:21am CST
I have finished my postgraduate degree and worked in a company for one year, and I holded our wedding ceremony with my wife six months ago, I love my wife very much. Now I find very big stress in our life. My wife always complain we can not work in one same city, and I find calssmates of my university all buy house and car of theirselves, they all achieve a amazing position in their job. my some calssmates of postgraduate start a phd, and other calssmates achieve a public offical job, the civil service is a very enviable work in china. I suddenly find more failure in my life, Thinkfully my own selfconfidence has not gone away, I have my goal about my career and life, and I work hard everyday now, I wil never stop my feet.
2 responses
• United States
14 May 13
look at the quality of life you have living in a "smaller" populated area compared to your classmates who have jumped into the big cities and have found what you may deem as "more success: The fact that you achieved your post graduate degree deserves a huge amount of kudos to you. You cannot judge your own success by the success of others.....you can only judge it by the standards you have set for yourself, and the goals that you, personally wish to obtain. Granted, when you bring another person into the situation (your wife) you have to figure out how to make some compromises, but compromise can only be made between TWO parties...
• China
14 May 13
I know judge success by the standards set by myself, but I feel very anxious when others calssmates all achieve more success, because I do not want to lag behind. Now, I feel that I need to relax in my life, there is only one success to be able to spend my life in my own way. Thank you!
@justyou (68)
• China
14 May 13
In fact,there is no only a little stress.... And that's great for you to be so confidence in you life,you'll get what you want,good luck