would I know if you died?

@mike05 (156)
May 21, 2013 7:13pm CST
This is inspired by a couple of things I've been thinking about recently. Firstly the person I communicate most with on +Bubblews has been ill in the past. I, along with a few others (won't name names for privacy reasons) worry when we don't see him on here (or other places) for a few days. Secondly I watched a very disturbing and thought provoking documentary last night called Dreams of a Life. To cut a long story short a young, very pretty and popular woman died alone in her flat....she was not discovered for 3 years. I found that really really sad and it did make me think about my own, relatively solitary, life. For those that enjoy a decent documentary the link to IMDb is below, it's worth watching if you come across it. We all make "connections" on the net and some of them get quite deep and last for years. If you, or I, died how would these online friends get to know about it? Maybe they simply wouldn't. Many sites forbid giving your password details to anyone but when you're dead does that really matter!!! I'm giving my sister all the details of sites I'm on and I'm telling her to post on them if I die. If you've got any purely online friends maybe you should think about doing something similar. http://www.bubblews.com/news/545114-would-i-know-if-you-died
www.imdb.com/title/tt1819513/
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@owlwings (44032)
• Cambridge, England
22 May 13
An interesting and valid point (and a gory story). I have started putting my passwords to the sites I'm a member of into a small address book - convenient, because it is alphabetically tabbed and can be kept in a drawer by my desk. My daughter and son know what it is and where to find it so that they can do the necessary when I'm no longer able to post (or collect money) for any reason. I know of only a handful of people who wouldn't have any other way of knowing of my passing and I believe that only a few of them would be seriously concerned.
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• Chengdu, China
14 Jun 13
I will not English, can make friends here?
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@dpk262006 (58707)
• Delhi, India
23 May 13
It is a good idea to let any close relative know about your on line activities. I think if I die many of on line friend would not immediately come to know about it.
• Chengdu, China
14 Jun 13
I will not English, can make friends here?
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@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
4 Sep 15
This is actually a pretty sad subject but it may well go under the same category as writing your will early in life. I think it is a good thing to let your friends know should something happens to them as they may find some closure. You could even write a letter and keep it safe to be posted should something ever happened to you.
@robspeakman (1702)
25 May 13
It is something that isn't often spoken about. How would anybody I know online, know if I went toes up tomorrow? My missus and my kids don't know my online friends - So who would inform longtime internet friends? Quite morbid really
@mike05 (156)
25 May 13
someone on bubblews said it was morbid. maybe you should give one of your family your passwords so they can inform people if you die.
@honor00 (185)
23 May 13
It's good practice to keep your computer and the sites you use open and known about. Frankly though a computer site is about as private as a postcard. Passwords aren't all that private either as a rule we use a close relative or pet's name. A computer stores everything on it's hard drive so programmes and passwords are accessible to a computer expert. So, a morbid thought, but a good idea, but computer activity is accessible.
@mike05 (156)
25 May 13
maybe silly people use those things as passwords, I don't know anyone that does. most people I know use a combination of letters,numbers and symbols. also, stuff isn't stored if you have half a brain
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
15 Jun 13
You are true. We have a lot of friends here and there in different sites, just like online friends and a very few are really become closer in the later part of life. Some years (6-7) before I become a member of a site and in the initial stage, I was not much sure of how to go ahead and by-mistakenly I send a friend request and she accepted also. But we were not much in touch or hardly talk online or communicate. The facebook was not so common like of these days. However, I used to observe people there and see the activities over there. Recently I got a mail from this person's brother saying that 'this particular person is on comma and her list days were counted. Please pray for her and he got you people's contacts from her web site and assuming that you all are her friend, please pray for'. And again few days later I got one more message saying that her condition is improving and thanking for the prays. I don't know what happened later on and didn't got any message. I said it, because of your words and it reminded about his incident too. As you said, I have few best friends in myLot and all were in touch. Few are provided their mobile nos and mail ids too. Anyway, as I don't like the new face of myLot, I stopped here all the activities and I found relevant to speak with you here in this matter. We all have to die, and it can happen any of the moment ahead. If any people have so much of intimacy and wish to have a nice relationship, I think such people must have communicated in any way, and it will work out better.
@hereandthere (45852)
• Philippines
27 May 13
years ago, i had a friend who wrote a lot for magazines and some supplemental reading for schools. when her health deteriorated, she learned to scan all her articles and learned how to post them online. i was able to view it once but have forgotten the name now. she also set up a yahoogroups for us. she was the glue that held us together. some of us have been to her house. some didn't attend her wake because they owed her money. she emailed us her will but i couldn't open the document. her partner and her best friend were able to settle everything but they said the royalties for her books will stop. maybe i'll follow owlwings in using an address book but will also use email as backup. i'll address it to all my sisters. one of them also has a paypal account.