Middle-aged marriage is a contest
By liyihong
@liyihong (3)
Beijing, China
January 26, 2014 9:29am CST
I've seen all marriages , regardless of how fit look , no one is easy. If life time to measure , almost all marriages have irresistible bottleneck. We can do is wait , wait , wait quietly to himself through the bottleneck from this . Some fear this feeling , like you are walking in the darkness of the tunnel, broke down halfway , you pushed the car , do not know how much longer the darkness ahead , you are filled with dark drilled hope , and fear of the end of the distant and want to go back.
Thus , marriage becomes a battle of wills , it is with love, affection, friendship and money though have a relationship, but ultimately is not the deciding factor. The determining factor is your own willpower . You are absolutely convinced that there will be bright or does not survive ? Marriage is , to the - extent , you and their rivalry .
So , my definition of marriage is: Marriage is an old bike you drive smoothly broken car , it accompanies you through a long journey , with the passage of time, it requires maintenance , repair, and may even be halfway strike . If you keep not change , in fact, to the old, it still can accompany you , just different functions. At that time , you are old , walk, and it is the same, only lay their own backyard , the roof may have been sitting too mottled rust holes in the car , you will not care , even through hole in the roof , sitting there to enjoy the night sky lengthy stars.
If the car halfway strike, for you are a big problem. You are standing on the roadside saying Hao Zhao , or take a ride on its way, waiting for it to be towed back , you have a home in turn be there for you ? Or I simply do not , and for a new car to open to open , but you can not walk to your destination. Multi- old , you will need transport.
I sat here thinking about marriage. You can not expect its high functionality , love, happiness, joy and sex but it is possible to create a by-product . The purpose of marriage exists only two children, and to accompany . You want to make sure that your genes , your health can spread the seeds go , and make sure your elderly lonely, someone can accompany you to chat for a walk.
Marriage can not afford to carry a romantic and fantasy . It is a transactional work , and accounting firms , law firms , like so many of these firms called partners. You and your partner every day to deal with the bills, income distribution, children's education , social relations, the normal operation of the house maintenance , utilities are ...... all trivial . How many can stand this kind of passion to spend day after day ? So , patience and conservation than passion, love is much more important .
All in all , I understand , can fathom does not mean there is no luxury. Rely on rational person alive , who live happily rely on wishful thinking. And people live frustrated is the gap between reason and expect . People live in despair because you never know this might bridge the gap . You are pursuing the gap between what you achieved what you happiness range . Can be long or short, far to near, can be more or less , can be high or low .
Lover than a large part of the couple good reason: this emotion is a vacuum divorced from reality , and you do not need to carry cumbersome and affection laced affairs , only two people happy chat topic , cherish every once together , but anyway eating, watching movies, games and sex. Those things belong to the last bit of happiness in marriage are stripped out, but also do not have the heaviest burden of responsibility , from the social nature of man , as an animal naturally happier than simply as a human .
Some people choose to escape , some people choose to adhere to , some people choose joy , some people choose pain , some people choose easy thing, some people choose to challenge yourself ...... choice is our biggest problem . Are you afraid to bear the consequences of the wrong choice , but also looking after selecting the correct usher in victory. Thus, the choice of the moment, constitutes our mid-life crisis .
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