My Depression remains
By Sylvia Pet
@robswife06 (3)
Presto, Pennsylvania
May 6, 2014 4:07pm CST
It seems nothing is going right for me lately. I look back on my life & wonder just how I let this happen. I have a wonderful husband whom I love w/ all my heart, but ever since we moved to his hometown in PA I have been depressed. I have no friends nor family here, I don't drive & I can't work so I'm in the house all the time. We live w/ my inlaws which just makes matters worse because we can't afford our own home just yet & I pretty much cry all the time. I don't know how I can change my life for the better so I settle for what is. I welcome sleep because at least when I'm sleeping I feel nothing, so I sleep most of the day(& my life)away. Is this all there is to my life? Do I just sit around & wait for death? What does one do when they have no family, no friends, & no life? What do I do now??
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@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
7 May 14
I wish you well and thank you for sharing these feelings. It is appreciated. Not everyone can open themselves up like you did. I don’t think there is a human being who has not had some taste of what you are feeling. We all go through things and maybe this is your time. These are not pleasant feelings. I’ve had companion with depression myself, like you described and had to work through it. In the end, I think I am better person for going through it. I kept telling myself, this too will end. It always does. Besides, we are never ever perfect or completely happy, just a little happier.
I am hoping you find some coping mechanisms. Sleep is one but perhaps you want another. I can understand that. I bet a friend would help, eh? No one should have to live with their in laws but in difficult times it is possible that it can be good memory if people learn to respect each other.
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@robswife06 (3)
• Presto, Pennsylvania
7 May 14
Thank you for your response. Friends would help me through this except that I don't have any. The few friends that I do have live hours away. For the most part I am on my own in this.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
7 May 14
@robswife06
That there might be a source for some of your anxiety. We don't have to be alone. Sometimes we want to and choose to be alone but if we want support can find it. The challenge is it should be someone we can trust and actually helps us.
That depends on the individual. For me it could be just a person where conversation is about unrelated things or similar things. It could be a casual acquaintance now and then that gives me something like standing on firm ground.
For example, I joined a tai chi class this winter and talk to the people in a friendly way once a week after class. We have gone for a coffee.
It works for me but sometimes I feel I could use professional advice. Someone who understands how these human emotions really work. It depends on my needs but I do think there will always be someone somewhere willing to listen if we choose to ask for help. Just have to seek it out. - yeah, i know, not so easy, but possible?
Hope this helps, if not just ignore me. 
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
8 May 14
You need to keep yourself busy and you need to cultivate some hobbies. Sleeping or sitting idle and thinking about miseries will worsen the situation further. If you are qualified, you could give tutions to kids means you could teach them at a nominal fee. If possible you could try to some part time job so as to keep yourself busy and so as to earn some money. You need to keep yourself busy to get rid of your depressing feeling and you need to to talk to others to share your feelings and pour your pent up emotions. All the best.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
9 May 14
@robswife06 - You could do any kind or work, the work or a hobby which pleases you ranging from singing, learning an instrument, reading, listening to music, some sort of creative art, learning a new language, photography or writing any article/poem. All the best.
@robswife06 (3)
• Presto, Pennsylvania
8 May 14
Thank you for your advice. I don't know what type of work I could do but I will give that some thought. Thanks again
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@Hopefull90 (921)
• United States
8 May 14
Look and see if there is anything within walking distance where you could volunteer your time.
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
9 May 14
@robswife06 is not alone, @hopefull90 I'm sure there are many people that feel some kind of depression in their life on various levels. I remember my grandmother had it but in her lifetime it was never called depression. It was just not feeling well.
Certainly, dwelling on depression does not help. There are times when you don't even want to read about it. That is why I think getting busy (volunteer @dpk262006 and job @Sarahlucky ) is such a good idea.
However, for me, I can say, that it would have to be something acceptable or it wouldn't help. Simple as that. It's never easy but is possible?
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@Sarahlucky (15)
• China
9 May 14
I think you can go out ,looking for a job,making new friends for your own. It's a hard thing to do when you first come to a new city. Before you make new friends and find a good job,you can talk to your husband.I t will make you feel comfortable and not lonely.Don't make a decision on your own. Life is beautiful outside. The only thing you need to do is just walking out to see the world around you. Make yourself bussy. You just go to the new stating point in your life. Don't make it low period in your life. As me, now I am in a new city myself. But I have made new friends here. And life is interesting here. I have a new job here. Also I can do everything that I want to do. Just keep going with your life. It will be better tomorrow!
