Which first?
By julia
@zhuyongli (9)
Changsha, China
10 responses
@babmimi85 (4)
• Seychelles
8 Apr 15
For me, I would go for my job first. Marriage will eventually come after. Once you have a job, you feel independent and ready to face the many challenges that exists in this world today. I never depend on men, because I want to be able to continue to be dependent on myself even after getting married. What if after getting married, that person decides to leave you? Or if you stop working because the guy asked you to do so? Because there are certain cultures that permits man to fully support you and you just have to remain at home to look after the kids. Think thoroughly about it Dear.
@zhuyongli (9)
• Changsha, China
8 Apr 15
Thank you! If i were 25 years old now ,i will choose job. Now i am not young. What i am afraid is that one day i am too old to have baby.
@Sophiah (2)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Apr 15
@zhuyongli Most time ,marriage doesn't mean to lose your job,why are you so confused?
@sunilmishra7756 (4272)
• Moradabad, India
8 Apr 15
Marriage in haste is the repentance for the whole life.
@sunilmishra7756 (4272)
• Moradabad, India
9 Apr 15
@nabarnbanere3
Yes, I agree with you.Marriage before job is just like pouring the water on a drowning mouse.Marriage is not the name of enjoyment only but marriage is the name of taking more responsibility.Marriage without job is to invite the trouble only.
@nabarnbanere3 (1)
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9 Apr 15
Hi,
As far my opinion is concerned, self-independence is first before marriage whether you are too old or too young. Once you get a job or start up your business, it will take some years to make you self-reliant. Afterwards, you can always go for marriage. As in today's highly competitive and lavish world, you need money to survive and once you survive, you can think of making another survive of course.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
7 Apr 15
If you choose to marry the right person, you could choose both.
If the person you want to marry says he does not want his partner to work and you feel that the work you do is important to you (and others), then you may have chosen the wrong partner.
'Tradition' says that the wife serves the husband. This is not (and has never really been) true. If YOU want to have children, then perhaps you should marry. If a family is not as important to you as what you are doing for other people, then you should think very carefully about what your partner expects from you. If he loves YOU, then he will support you in whatever you want to do. If he wants a family more than he wants you, then he may be looking at the wrong girl.
@zhuyongli (9)
• Changsha, China
7 Apr 15
That is true. It is easy for me to choose both. And nice end! Problem is work oversea. Age is the biggest problem to women.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
8 Apr 15
I think you should be self dependent before going for marriage. If you marry first, then it may get difficult to find a job because you will have to pay attention to your partner also. When you are single, it is always better to find a job.
@zhuyongli (9)
• Changsha, China
8 Apr 15
Thanks for your advice. I am teacher in university. Now i have chance to teach oversea for two or three years.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
10 Apr 15
@zhuyongli - I think if you are getting a chance to teach abroad and you are interested, then you must take a chance. Once you have successfully made a career, it would be easier to get a partner. All the best.
@dorothyorsusie (2)
• Beijing, China
10 Apr 15
marrage doesnt effect your job ,dont put marriage to be your whole life
@masdilhan (4)
• Colombo, Sri Lanka
8 Apr 15
Hi
My feeling is experience about everything makes better person. if anybody choose to marriage first of all he/she will make limitations to their lives. therefore first of all think about job and have better knowledge and experience about society better. and then you can take decision to marry.
