MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!

@Charmed1 (129)
November 23, 2006 4:36pm CST
Men don't take this personally as I know that there are some decent ones out there, but why oh why don't the men that are in my life don't listen. I have just ended my relationship with the father of my youngest child Rebecca. Things had just got too much for me to take. It was the only way I could get over all the crap that had happened in the past. The only thing is that he won't listen to me. I understand that I have ended the relationship so many times that this time he just does'nt believe me. The only thing is that this time I do mean it. I have to end this because it was(is) destroying me. This man hurt me so much that he literally broke me in half with all the mental abuse. He just could'nt stay faithful, and even though he knew that I knew about his cheating he still would'nt admit it. Which to me is the most obvious sign that he was never intending to stop it:( I just wish I could get into the mind of a man and understand why they don't listen or at least only hear what they want to.
3 responses
• India
24 Nov 06
i am sorry about ur breakup..but I know it would sound hard but don't u think sometimes even women fail to undersatnd emotions properly..its seems all right to say that someone is wrong but do we care to look at ourselves..may be not..I m not saying that u are wrong or anything like that..all I m trying to say that u need two hands to clap..
@Charmed1 (129)
24 Nov 06
Thanks for your response. I believed for a long time that everything that had went wrong was all down to me. Now I know that, that was'nt always the case.
@ArsonCuff (3121)
• United States
23 Nov 06
I guess I cannot give accurate "advice" not knowing more intimate, specific details per-say or not knowing you or the guy persoanally..HOWEVER, one cannot really group all males into the same category and say they are all the same, and possibly if that is how you feel and are basing your opinions on only your own personal experiences then you may want to look at yourself and how you may be affecting these relationships and what type of man you are going after time and time again or whatever
@Charmed1 (129)
24 Nov 06
Thank you for your response also. I know that the one thing that I am to blame for is staying in that relationship and letting him get away with everything he did. You see I did'nt want to break up our family. I know that there are decent men out there:D
@rainyl (671)
• United States
23 Nov 06
Well I appauld you for ending the realtionship if you can really stay away from him. However this is not all MEN. It is only your situation and to a degree you need to take responsiblity for your own actions while in this relationship in order to not have another one like this. why did you let him treat you this way to begin with and why did you tolerate his cheating from the very first time you found out about it? We are not stuck in any kind of relationship, we can only blame ourselves if we remain in a relationship that is abusive in any way or not satisfying. You need to work on your own mind frame before trying to get into any one else's mind. Be strong for your children and hold your head up high, you can do it on your own and you will find a man that is deserving of you once you see for yourself you deserve a good man. remember you have children to think about and right now you need to concetrate on your children and your own life not to worry about a grown man or about not having one in your life.
@Charmed1 (129)
24 Nov 06
Thank you for your response and your right I can only blame myself as I should have left a long time ago. I love my kids to bits, they are the only reason that I am still going today:)