Best Friends boyfriend brings other girl home

South Africa
September 6, 2006 4:06am CST
I have a best friend who just recently had a child. She is 36 and he is 25 years old. She has a child from a previous relationship ( so she now has 2 ). The ex just passed away in May 2006 but we only found out about it 2 weeks ago. My best friend and I have become distant because I do not like the idea that she is always finding fault in others and their relationships but not her own. When she delivered her baby end of June, her boyfriend brought one of his girlfriends to her home to see the baby and introduced her as his cousin's girlfriend. That is just one of the instances. Last week Saterday he had invited all his friends over to my best friends home and while she was inside busy with her newborn, he was busy with another girl right outside my best friends home. This weekend,on Saterday morning my friend asked him to go pay some of her accounts for her, and he did but never returned home until Sunday evening. I know that he was at his cousins place with one of his girlfriends (the same girl he brought home to introduce to his baby who was supposedly his cousins girlfriend) How do I know all this because I am the boyfriends cousin's friend and he tells me everything. He does not like my friend as he sais that she got herself pregnant to keep his cousin. I am distraught however I have caught him in the act but he does not know for sure. I do not speak to him because he told his cousin that I am the women he wanted from the very start and he is going to make sure that my best friend and I do not become close again so that he can pursue me. Well, that will never happen because I look for men that are honest, respectful,courteous and care about others feelings. I have morals, values and principles so what makes him think that I would when I hate hem with a passion. I don't know what she sees in him but its her life and I want only the best for her yet she is so blind that sometimes I think she is desperate because he is younger. Guy's should I tell her what I know although I feel that she should find out herself...it is just that I know how much she loves him and I am afraid of what she will do to herself. An example is that she has put aside her first child for him because he does not accept that child as it is not his own. Please help me, give me your views
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naidugopal
@naidugopal (941)
• India
6 Sep 06
Am very sorry to read this. I do understand how frustrated it could be. I think he is cheating your friend, any way u must be aware of those personalities. Try to explain your friend and tell her the truth, she forgot the values of relationship, tell her to accept her daughter which she was already left for his sake. This is not good at all, perhaps she was in deep depression, she don't have the active mind to judge a person. But this became advantage to him and he is playing wit others lives. This is not an acceptable, if it continues then your friends life will become a question mark, may be it is fine now, after some years she will suffer alot. U r responsible to save your friend. Please try to explain your friend about the values of life and try to bring her back to her normal life and if possible, take her to some other place where she can forget her boy friend. He is a cruelest person i think, playing games in ones life is an offence. It should not be taken as a simple thing by god. If he commits any harm to her he will be definitely punished by him. But it is your responsible to explain the behaviour of your friend.