Should I make a relationship with someone I like in the time when I should study hard?

Guangzhou, China
August 28, 2015 8:05pm CST
I'm a senior in University,so it's high time for me to think about jobs. However there is just one year left in the school and I really want to be with the one I love. When thinking about the jobs and interviews,I deem that if I wast the time to be love with someone,I will not have enough time to prepare for the jobs an interviews. Also It's really a tough time to not to be with him. What can I do with it?
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lady Di
@lady1993 (27225)
• Philippines
29 Aug 15
I agree, it may be a distraction, i think you should prioritize work first though... and if you really love each other, you can wait, you still have the rest of your lives. but i don't know, that is just my opinion
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jaishankar
@else34 (13517)
• New Delhi, India
29 Aug 15
Work is priority,you're right,but what if remaining away from each other causes stress distract her from studies?They may use their time with each other in mentally preparing themselves for studies and jobs.
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Evian
@EvianGan (60)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Aug 15
Yes.Maybe you're right.But the bad thing is when studying I am always thinking of him,which also distract me.
Evian
@EvianGan (60)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Aug 15
@else34 Oh,you can absolutely say into my heart.I think that it's a good way that use our time with each other in mentally preparing ourselves for studies and jobs.Thank you so much.I hope that it will work for me .
missjahn
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
29 Aug 15
why not? as long as you know your limits and duties as a girlfriend and a student at the same time, it could be. It is just a matter of divisioning yourself to more than two or multiple tasks :)
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Evian
@EvianGan (60)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Aug 15
Yes.Maybe it's hard for me to disgust the limits and duties between a girlfriend and a student.I think It's the point.Thank you.
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howard96h
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
29 Aug 15
Hi, welcome to mylot. Is it possible to do both? Maybe you both can date and spend time together and also finish your school. Does he go to school also?
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Evian
@EvianGan (60)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Aug 15
Yes.he is also in the we are in the same class.But the problem is he doesn't know that I fall in love him,and whether I should tell him in this time.If he doesn't accept my date ,I will be sad so that it will effect my study.On the other hand ,if he accept,it will also wast time to date with him.What a difficult problem!
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howard96h
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
29 Aug 15
@EvianGan I understand, it is a difficult decision. I wish you the best of luck with this.
Evian
@EvianGan (60)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Aug 15
@howard96h Thank you.Best wishes to you.
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jaishankar
@else34 (13517)
• New Delhi, India
29 Aug 15
I can understand,dear.I don't think there is any harm if you spend some quality time in the company of your love.He loves you and can use the time in encouraging you to study hard and prepare yourself for jobs.What matters is what you both do in the time you are with each other.
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Evian
@EvianGan (60)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Aug 15
Thanks for your understanding.I hope that I can handle those two aspects.And I hope that I can move forward with him.Thank you.
Rahul Arora
@aurora_guy (6)
• Delhi, India
29 Aug 15
hey! Love is the most powerful feeling in the world.What does a job pay you if you don't have someone to share your happiness with. Whatever time you have even if it's 5 minutes with him or 2 hours. You should be with him.Cherish time you have together. Love each other and enjoy your life
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Evian
@EvianGan (60)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Aug 15
Yes.Love is the most powerful feeling in the world.It will get me more encouragment to do something.
tanveer tadavi
@tanveert (1)
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29 Aug 15
it depends on you are nature. if you does not get distract form other emotions in study. I think you should have only one goal at one time
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Evian
@EvianGan (60)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Aug 15
One goal at one time.Yes.However Sometimes I want more,which is the bad thing for me.
Rose Galavia
@cgalavia (1436)
• Philippines
29 Aug 15
I think It's better for you to have in a relationship when you already finish your schooling.If you made it for three without being in a relationship then why not for one year.You need to focus on your study,don't get disturb by having a relationship this time.Your study might get affected.
jaishankar
@else34 (13517)
• New Delhi, India
29 Aug 15
@EvianGan can't they utilize each other's company to inspire each other to prepare her for challenges ahead.
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Evian
@EvianGan (60)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Aug 15
@else34 Sometimes Iit's difficult to handle those two aspects.
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Evian
@EvianGan (60)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Aug 15
Maybe you're right,I shouldn't wast the time in this important time.But I am always thinking of him and feel lonely.
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Joseph Hans
@JosephHans (56)
• Romania
29 Aug 15
i think you should finish your study first. sometimes love is taking us from doing things that require concentration . i think it would be better for you.
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Evian
@EvianGan (60)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Aug 15
Thanks for advicing.Maybe it's the most important thing to study in school.
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