Is there any disadvantage being pregnant at age of 40 and above?

Baby at the crib
Pasay, Philippines
September 3, 2015 12:03pm CST
Some people are telling me that getting pregnant at age 40 is not really good, though I think if this will be your first baby then it can be complicated. My ob gyne doctor even told me that it is not really recommended to get pregnant at 40 although her explanation was not that so clear. Do you know anyone who got pregnant around 40 years old and above? How was it? I am actually wishing to get pregnant at that age since I really want 10 years age gap from our first baby.
2 responses
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
3 Sep 15
Your baby is at a higher risk for developmental issues. Why do you want your children spread so far apart? I think siblings are closer to each other when there is less of an age gap between them.
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
4 Sep 15
I have to disagree. Being closer in age won't necessarily make them closer to one another. My own sister and I are 2 and a half years apart. We were never close (her choice, not mine). My husband and his brother are 18 months apart. My husband cannot stand his brother. Oh, he loves him, but the guy is a jerk, so my husband doesn't like him one bit. lol From what I remember @AmbiePam and her sister are the same way as well. They are close in age, but aren't close at all. Now when it comes to my mom and her sisters, they were always close. Her eldest (who passed away this year) was 11 years older than my mom.
• United States
4 Sep 15
@sacmom I am 9 years older than my brother and 14 years older than my sister and I haven't spoken to them in over 5 years and wouldn't know how to reach them even if I wanted to. But my kids who are all close in age get along really well. The twins are best friends and my younger 2 are best friends. The twins don't exactly get along with the younger 2 and vice versa.. and the oldest doesn't get along with any of them. There's never a guarantee that kids will get along, but my opinion is the closer in age they are the better they will get along.
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• Pasay, Philippines
18 Dec 15
@sacmom I agree because it is still a matter on how they grew up yet it is up to individual's personality and attitude on how that person treated the sibling. Including as well on how the parents discipline them. @katsmeow1213 I want to have the big age gap so that if the other one will be at the legal age or grow older at least I still have the little one. Like if the one is already college grad then I still have young kid. You know kids grow up so fast.
@Beatburn (4287)
• Philippines
3 Sep 15
The risks are higher at 40. I think 10 years might be a big gap.
• Pasay, Philippines
18 Dec 15
I really like that big age gap.