What do you think of White lies
By sofs
@sofssu (23660)
September 25, 2015 10:18am CST
Do you think in is okay to lie to make someone happy? Or to save yourself some trouble?
Do you lie people to glibly lie to you.. or give it to you straight?
What you do you thin k about flatterers in this connection?
Do you feel guilty about saying white lies or simply lies?
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
25 Sep 15
Ok, I might be 1 out of 1000s here, but to me a lie is a lie. Plain and simple. I don't like any of them. I mean what actually constitutes as a 'white lie'? Someone saying that it is? One can go without telling a lie, by simply keeping their mouth shut. For example, you throwing a 'surprise birthday' party. You don't have to lie to the person you are throwing it for, simply don't say anything.
Second question: I rather have things given to me straight. I don't need no sugar coating or beating around the bush, or whatever/however they wish to disguise it.
Third on the list: When the person who is 'flattering another' is doing it only to hide the truth or what not, I have a serious issue with it. If the words spoken aren't sincere, they too need to learn to put a lid on it.
And now to take my own advice, I will shut up now. For this is a touchy subject for me. (everyone else can have their own opinion.)
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@sofssu (23660)
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25 Sep 15
@TexanTornado I agree with you a lie is a lie. I really don't like being told a half truth or a lie. I really don't care for flattery.. In fact I avoid those that flatter.. I know what you mean .. it is a touchy subject.
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
25 Sep 15
@sofssu It has always irked me when someone will say, 'Oh I just told a little white lie, it's no biggie'. It tends to send me over the edge. I mean if you gonna lie, make it a doozy of one. I feel if someone can lie about something small and petty, they can lie about anything. Once trust is gone, I simply have no desire to be associated with them at all.
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@sofssu (23660)
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25 Sep 15
@TexanTornado True.. Lies whether white or dark does slowly eats into the trust. Hey I need to ask you one question.. What if white lies go in the name of appreciation , approval, or encouragement?
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@TexanTornado (5573)
• United States
25 Sep 15
@sofssu It's still a lie, and even such why subject your child with such? To make them feel better, only for when they learn the truth it can go against you?
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@sofssu (23660)
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25 Sep 15
@TexanTornado TRue, However, do you see it happening around you? I have a friend who lets his son that he is the best pianist in the while world.. I feel terrible when he does that.. The kid is good.. no doubt.. but He has way to go before he gets there.
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@Rollo1 (16676)
• Boston, Massachusetts
25 Sep 15
One doesn't have to lie to be complimentary. There is always the avenue of looking for what is good and commendable without mentioning what is less attractive. Even if the question is "do I look fat in this dress?" One can always say "I think the blue one is more flattering" rather than "Yes, you look like the back end of a bus". Can't we put love first and brutal honesty second?
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@Rollo1 (16676)
• Boston, Massachusetts
26 Sep 15
@sofssu Oh yes, the old "you're always beautiful to me" line. The thing is, that it's really true. They do think you look fine and beautiful, but it doesn't mean they don't think the dress makes you look fat. They just don't care about fashion 
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@sofssu (23660)
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26 Sep 15
@Rollo1 You make a good point there.. one can always find the good in others and compliment without resorting to lies.
However, one doesn't have to be ,mean and say you look like the backend of the bus.. one can always say but one could give a suggestion like you mentioned about the blue dress,. My husband always says you look good to me. 
one can always say but one could give a suggestion like you mentioned about the blue dress,. My husband always says you look good to me. 1 person likes this
@allknowing (153529)
• India
26 Sep 15
If someone said I looked good and in fact I did not in that outfit then it is not a white lie but a big lie. White lies are harmless, those that save situations such as are told to kids in their interest. Would you explain to a three year where babies come from?
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@allknowing (153529)
• India
26 Sep 15
@sofssu And you think you have told him everything that ought to be told and so no lies were told. Very funny
@sofssu (23660)
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26 Sep 15
@allknowing At three that is what he needs to know whether you think its funny or not. In due time he knows what needs to be known.
@sofssu (23660)
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26 Sep 15
@allknowing God gave him to mama. That is what I told me son.. it isn't a lie either .
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@garymarsh6 (24028)
• United Kingdom
26 Sep 15
I never lie intentionally as the truth will always out!
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@Tampa_girl7 (54718)
• United States
25 Sep 15
I try hard not to lie, but say if someone gave me a gift I didn't like and asked me if I liked it, I would lie and say I did. I couldn't hurt their feelings.
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@sofssu (23660)
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26 Sep 15
@Tampa_girl7 You do make a great point.. I just received a gift which was not to my taste.. when the person who gave it asked me about it.. I couldn't say that I didn't like it because she really went out of her way to choose it.. it just happened to be a wrong color. I truthfully asked her if I could have it exchanged for the right color and we did. However, since our relationship has been great I could speak openly.. I couldn't have done this with a less known person.
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