Diary 1st October 2015
@arthurchappell (44941)
Preston, England
October 1, 2015 5:18pm CST
A quiet day at the start of a busy month. I had little to do today but job search, write on Mylot, and catch up on some TV shows.
There was another random burst of vitriolic nastiness from my Mother. She’d spotted a private letter to me that just happened to be junk mail. It promoted my ‘new credit card’ even though I never ordered one. The card attached to it was a fake one – clearly labelled as such to show me what my card would look like if I ordered theirs instead of destroying the card and mail right away.
My Mum unfortunately read the letter wrongly and at all (she didn't open it, the envelope was transparent) before even leaving it out for me after it was delivered and assumed I was ordering high interest rate credit cards and suddenly tore into me over it during our evening meal. She was totally unwilling to listen to the simple truth of the letter being pointless junk mail. I am getting seriously fed up of such bitter unreasonable downright nasty explosions from her – almost always at meal times.
She is highly vitriolic towards me so much of the time. Ordinary conversation is virtually impossible. It is really beginning to get me down.
Arthur Chappell
3 people like this
3 responses
@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
2 Oct 15
Sounds pretty tough, and unfortunate. Situations like that often have no good answers, even tuning her out or simply making your own meals and eating at other times might not help
1 person likes this
@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
2 Oct 15
I do that as much as possible. I'm virtually a recluse at home. I don't need the confrontation.
1 person likes this
@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
2 Oct 15
@arthurchappell heh, I can see it now, if it's not said nicely you develop some spotty deafness. It flares up when anyone is being a 
1 person likes this
@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
2 Oct 15
@Jessicalynnt yes, very much so. my mum won't compromise or listen - its just a torrent of accusation with no regard for facts or reason. It's impossible to deal with. My step-father used to just do what she wanted for a quiet life. I just avoid giving her the opportunity.
1 person likes this
@Freelanzer (10782)
• Canada
2 Oct 15
I love my mother dearly but I always say I could never live with her as an adult and I think the feeling is mutual. We are both very strong willed women and it just won't work
1 person likes this
@arthurchappell (44941)
• Preston, England
2 Oct 15
anyone living together will run into some conflict but the aggression from my mother can go beyond that. She upset her brother through her malicious gossip about him to the point at which he disowned the family; many neighbours never visit any more and my own friends often avoid visiting the house. She tries manipulating them into helping her get points across on me which makes them uncomfortable, and led to one of the angriest arguments we ever had in the house - one I won.
1 person likes this
@sherryeb (580)
• Duncan, Arizona
2 Oct 15
My stepmother came to live with me a few years back and toward the end of her life, she began doing the things you are describing, she virtually estranged her own daughters that is why she came to live with me. After she passed I found out she was spreading malicious gossip around town about me and my husband. I kind of thought that she was a little touched anyway, but a friend of mine, in the mental health profession, said she may have been going through stages of her life and she definitely was diagnosed with alzheimers, a few months before she passed. So I see it this way, even though she could get unbelievably nasty and ugly at times,we did have a lot of fun times and good memories, so I try to hold on to that.
