TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL?

Philippines
October 2, 2015 8:58pm CST
I have a friend.... but just a friend because she's my officemate! We talk and sometimes hang out together but not as comfortable as with my other officemates whom I spend most of my time with. So here's the thing, she smells not that pleasant because of hygiene? I don't know! But she is mostly being talked about because of it. I kind of concern about it but I do not know how to tell her but not offending her at the same time. I mean, it's a serious matter you know and I might hurt her ego even I mean no harm. Should I say it or not?
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4 responses
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
3 Oct 15
I'd send a deodorant anonymously through a gift courier? I am very particular about body odour. Don't get me wrong, I can stink. After a gym session, after eating too much garlicky food, after sick days where showering makes your hair rise like a porcupine, who wouldn't stink, right? But when I go out, or go to work, I make it a point to smell clean and good. Sadly, some people remain oblivious to their own smell. You can't just keep wishing you'd catch a cold so you get too congested to smell a thing, you know. At least that way, it's an indirect way of letting her know someone is bothered by how she smells, but she won't be able to pin it on anyone. She'll suspect everyone, but she will never know it's you.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
3 Oct 15
I probably would not say anything to them. If it is a problem then management will probably find a way to tactfully say something to them. If it's not a problem then why hurt their feelings by bringing it to their attention. I'm sure they realize that you should bathe daily so that you don't smell bad.
@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
3 Oct 15
If she is a friend you need to somehow let her know what is being said about her
@Carol2015 (136)
• Zhengzhou, China
3 Oct 15
It's really difficult to open the mouth. Maybe you can go out to have a spa with her and tell her tactfully.