Have you ever had a good friend turn on you suddenly?
By Ann LeFlore
@poehere (15123)
French Polynesia
October 13, 2015 5:04pm CST
Do you have a person that you enjoy talking to, writing emails with, or meeting on FB to talk? Then out of the blue they turn on you for no reason at all. Maybe it’s because you thought you told them something that you wanted to tell them …. But you forgot. It could be as simple as joking around about something and they have taken it the wrong way. No matter what or how it has happened it is a shock to you when it does.
You have consider this person a good friend, helped them, gave them suggestions, and tried to be there when they were down. Then all of a sudden you get an email that seems like they are YELLING at you because they have used so many CAPITALS in their writing. When this happens you first want to lash back and then say forget it. You delete the email and call it quits. Why? Because maybe this isn’t the first time it’s happened to you.
I just recently experienced this and I feel betrayed and hurt. I considered this person a good friend and went out of my way to be there for them and to help them. Don’t get me wrong they were there for me too. It wasn’t a one sided friendship. Now I consider this a loss and have no idea what I feel like doing.
How did you handle this when it happened to you?
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@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
13 Oct 15
If they're really your friend, they will consider their actions because they will not want to lose you regardless of whoever's fault it is. Do not be sorry for losing people because the worthy ones are always the ones who stays.
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@JaneApril (334)
• Philippines
14 Oct 15
@poehere
If she really is your friend, she must've considered how you'll feel before sending such message.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
14 Oct 15
@JaneApril Couldn't agree more. Sort of looks like she isn't my friend after all.
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@noni1959 (13061)
• United States
14 Oct 15
It can be hard to extinguish the tone of a statement in an email, post or text. I had a friend who always emailed me even when wanting to meet up. She wanted a girls day and we agreed on a time. She sent an email right before leaving saying her boyfriend showed up so she will see me another time unless he can come. I emailed back saying it was girls catch up and can he wait for us to spend some time other wise we'll wait but please call me. She sent an all caps note saying since I don't want to see her she is leaving with him. It strained our relationship.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
14 Oct 15
I do agree it's hard to email all the time. Even SMS gets lost. I think it's hard to communicate all the time by email. But when you receive an email you can almost know the tone because of larger letter than normal and using tons of capital to stress points. You can tell the person is angry and yes it does stress a friendship. Sad but when all we had was phones things seems to be better than texting and emailing to work out problems.
@softbabe44 (5815)
• Vancouver, Washington
14 Oct 15
this could be like the worst thing that could happen its true you wanna lash out cause thats how you were treated it seems like its the right thing to do but you don't do it cause you wouldn't gain anything by it so you just say if thats the way you feel alright then sorry you had to go through that.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
14 Oct 15
Yes I do agree. I guess it could also mean that this person is having a hard time and took it out on me. So saying nothing is better than saying something I would regret later on. But if they can't see this then it's time to let it go and move on. I will miss my friend because it was like we became allies in several adventures and it was sort of fun.
@intal_carl (299)
• Quezon City, Philippines
14 Oct 15
I already experience this and it felt very badly because I thought his a true friend but he was not.
@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
14 Oct 15
I know how you feel. Guess there is some sort of email - communication or cyber gap in communication that has cause this event. Never really considered it before and over looked so many of the different corks and things. You think if you can do it so can others,. Oh well I am not considering this isn't a loss for me but a gain. Now I don't need to sit typing long drawn out helpful emails to give advice. Now I have more time during the day to not have to assist in other helpful things I did for this person. I sort of feel bad in all and how it has ended but I also have to look at it - it was their choice and it was them who decided to end it the way they did. I thought it could of ended better but looks like I was wrong. Sad but true I was wrong.
