Would you reconcile with an abusive partner? / myLot

Malaysia

October 25, 2015 12:59am CST

There are many reasons why relationships or marriages ended and one of it is abusive relationship. It quite risky to walk away from the abusive relationship especially when physical abuse is involved. Most often victims from abusive relationships are afraid what their abusive partner would do if they managed to get out from the relationships. And it takes a huge amount of courage to finally cut the ties. The traumatized victims will often suffer anxiety or depression as a result of staying too long in the doom relationships. However, sometimes they do get back to their abusive partner for various reasons. Sometimes it can be dependency issues or children are involved or pressures from family to give it another try. What do you think? Should they reconcile? Personally, if I were in the situation, I would rather suffer then going back into the hand of an abuser.

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5 responses

tita417

@Tita417 (1228)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

25 Oct 15

The abuser should repent first before the abused can come into his life once again. If there is no repentance then it means it will a cycle of abuse and the abused is tolerating it

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Ellie

@ellie26 (4139)

• Malaysia

25 Oct 15

If the abusers are remorse, willing to repent and completely have a 360 degree change, perhaps there is still chance to salvage whatever is left in the relationship. But its very difficult to know if the changes are taking place.

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tita417

@Tita417 (1228)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

25 Oct 15

@ellie26 It really takes time to change and the abused can be patient in waiting if there is still love and she knows he's trying. Just give it time

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Ellie

@ellie26 (4139)

• Malaysia

25 Oct 15

@Tita417 There is a possibility that an abuser might change for the better with time. If it was meant to be, so be it.

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lady Di

@lady1993 (27225)

• Philippines

25 Oct 15

no...just no being in an abusive relationship can be very dangerous, since you an get killed one day

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Ellie

@ellie26 (4139)

• Malaysia

25 Oct 15

In an extreme abusive relationship, yes life is at risk. It absolutely vital to seek help or to get out from the relationship before its too late.

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Rose Galavia

@cgalavia (1436)

• Philippines

25 Oct 15

Usually the reason is because of the kids why staying in an abusive relationship,they always see the welfare of the kids before cutting the ties but if it is too much and keep on repeating what he did once before,then I think there is no need to stay in that relationship.

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Ellie

@ellie26 (4139)

• Malaysia

25 Oct 15

Of course when come to deciding whether to end the abusive relationships or any relationships, children welfare is a priority.

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Marlina

@marlina (154165)

• Canada

25 Oct 15

No, I would never take the abuser back.

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Ellie

@ellie26 (4139)

• Malaysia

25 Oct 15

agree.

J Fox (C/O TVF)

@joylol (148)

• Austin, Texas

25 Oct 15

No. If memories of rejection copy traumatized reliving of abusive verbal or physical scenarios, then you should NEVER, EVER go back to an abusive person. Abuse negatively affects our surroundings and the individual put through it. Unless you believe and are aware of when a person has changed and that you can change the person and that you believe that the abuser can change themselves, then go ahead and reconcile. If your going to reconcile with abusive person, make sure to not allow your feelings deter you from what is actually right. Our concept of good can make us overly submissive as we consider who is right as opposed to what is right.