Doom, Gloom, and a Negative Spin on Life
@jillybean1222 (6406)
November 23, 2015 1:44pm CST
Some folks I know just seem to feel so doomy & gloomy about life. I mean, don't get me wrong. i worry. A LOT! My 13 year old son died unexpectedly in his sleep from an unknown heart condition caused by a virus, so I get gloom. Believe me!
And I see the world for what it is: a scary place to raise my kids!
But...
I try to focus on the good in the world and not always put a doomy, gloomy spin on life.
For example, I know that pornography is a real problem facing kids today. It's VERY in your face due to technology. And it's nearly impossible to avoid. So I worry & I attempt to put protection in place for my kids. That's all I can do. I know some people who just seem to think about it, worry about it, incessantly. I just don't want to be that person.
There's more to this. I'm not really putting it into words properly. My point is that I think it just doesn't do anyone any good to focus on the doom and gloom all the time.
And seriously, with my loss, if I can say that and remain positive, then I think anyone should be able to do so. Or at least try.
I'm rambling. I'm tired.
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@GreatMartin (23670)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
24 Nov 15
I am the most positive person you will ever meet--since 1967 all I ahve to do is wake up in the morning and I know I have it made!
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@simone10 (54180)
• Louisville, Kentucky
24 Nov 15
@GreatMartin You are definitely the most positive person I have ever met!
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@GreatMartin (23670)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
25 Nov 15
@simone10 It takes a lot of work but even then I like the process!!
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@marlina (154103)
• Canada
23 Nov 15
I am so sorry that you lost your son because of that heart problem. When our oldest son was 20 years old he also developed a heart problem. For a while they were thinking of a heart transplant. But eventually they did do into his heart and burn the virus.
Now he is healthy and we are so thankful for this.
Again, I am so sorry for the loss of your son.
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@silvermist (19701)
• India
23 Nov 15
I am sorry about your loss.But it is great that you try to remain positive in spite of all that.
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@Juliaacv (56227)
• Canada
23 Nov 15
I thought that you made perfect sense and that you were not rambling. We cannot control the many evils in our world today, we can however, live safely in this world exercising caution where necessary and keeping our noses clean. And smiling, we all have to smile and be happy with what we have when we have it.
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@jillybean1222 (6406)
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24 Nov 15
i guess there was more i wanted to put to make my point, then realized it would be a bit much. so perhaps i was just rambling inside my head? :-)
@maggs224 (2317)
• Alicante, Spain
24 Nov 15
You may be tired but you are not rambling, you have managed to get your feelings and point of view over very well. I think that you are right if we focus on our problems we are feeding our fear and it will grow.
Not only will our fear grow it will stop us seeing and enjoying the things that we have that are good in our lives. I think that you are making the right choices when you turn your focus on the positive things going on around you. I am sorry for your loss.
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@jillybean1222 (6406)
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24 Nov 15
thank you. i don't know if i would be so good at focusing on the positive if i didn't have other kids. i'm thankful for them and the way they keep me among the living
@JamesHxstatic (29410)
• Eugene, Oregon
24 Nov 15
In your shoes, I would not do as well, I'm sure. I tend to listen to and read the news a lot and the news has not been good for a while. Yet, I do manage to laugh a lot throughout the day, even when I have zero to write about.
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@jillybean1222 (6406)
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24 Nov 15
sometimes i think it is that happy-go-lucky girl i used to be still buried beneath it all that fights to find her way to the top
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@JamesHxstatic (29410)
• Eugene, Oregon
25 Nov 15
@jillybean1222 No doubt that is the case for you.
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@LovingMyBabies (85923)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Nov 15
I worry...a lot in life, maybe too much. But I try not to bring too much gloom to others, I try to keep most of it inside my head where it belongs. Mostly I have financial problems that worry me. Then again, my husband and I with our children have been homeless 3 times now. So, of course it's always a concern that it could happen again.
I have been working on recently giving my worries to God more often and not letting the fear take over my very being.
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@Tampa_girl7 (54714)
• United States
18 Dec 15
Since I first met you on the other site I have admired your strength. It is best to stay away from doom and gloom if we can.
@HazySue (39265)
• Gouverneur, New York
24 Nov 15
@jillybean1222 I am so sorry about your son. I think you are entitled to a gloomy day every now and then.
