I find it hard to love the mother-in-law as my own mother

@srisahara First of all, I commend you for being so openly frank about it. Most of us may not want to admit it. Secondly, it's a normal feeling. It is not expected of you to love your mother-in-law as deeply as your own mom. Thirdly, on a personal note, I loved my mother-in-law very much and believe me, our feelings were mutual. Many-a-times, she got along with me much better than her own daughters. Just so you know, that there are no hard and fast rules in loving relationships.

I think it is normal. My mother brought me up and therefore we have a strong and long time relationship. Whereas mother-in-law is more like a closer relative and she appears in your life suddenly. The love relationship needs the time. Perhaps I will say I respect my mother-in-law much more. I will be nice to her. My relationship to my mom is closer because I don't want to be so polite as well as treating a guest.

No nothing wrong at all thats why we Americans usually try to find our o wn d ellings as living with a mother in law can be so very hard as two women of different ages in one household is very troublesome i indeed. Do find yo urself an apt of y our own i nstead.

No not at all..nothing wrong with you. I never could cotton to any of my mother in laws.

I really liked my mother in law and thought of he as my mother. She was nice toi me.

Who says that you have to love her as much as your own mother? I find the thought absurd.

I am sure you can find a way to get closer to her. You are too self-conscious about what she thinks about you, that is why you feel uncomfortable. i think you can get her to tell you about her youth, and from here, you get to know more about her as a person, and not as a mother-in-law.

It is because you love your mom and no one could replace your mom. I am sure you love your mother in law in a different way of love though.

if you say she is nice and she love you and care for you then why you uncomfortable with her,she is also like your mother and she is mother of your husband,so its good if you live together.If you mother is place of your husband mother then what you do love her or not?

I also experienced that and I almost have a heart attack. LOL. I feel so comfy after we move in to another house and live on our own. It has so many advantages and you also have your own freedom to live.

Hello! I have a soft spot for old women. My mother-in-law is seventy-four years old. When I first saw her, I did not have feel any reservations at all. I like her instantly. I guess, our feelings are mutual because I can feel that she loves me dearly. When she first saw me she hugged me tenderly and kissed my cheeks. My biological mom is not touchy, so I every time I go to Korea for vacation, I hug and hold hands with my mother-in-law because I cannot do this with my own mom. Unfortunately, my mom and my sister-in-law are worst enemies. Oh life.