Should I move out? I don't want to make stupid moves
By Theresaaiza
@Theresaaiza (10487)
Australia
December 8, 2015 5:04am CST
...especially financially. I can barely afford my own groceries, let alone, pay rent to be on my own.
At the moment I live with my boyfriend in their huge family home. Mum, dad, grandma and constant stream of come-and-go guests who sleep over from time to time, are the fellow residents in the house. They are all nice to me. They look after me. They shower me with gifts to the point that I feel I am being spoiled.
I am so happy they accepted me despite the cultural difference. They're chinese. So my issue is: I am so scared that one day I will do something that will disappoint them so bad that this loving relationship will take a 360 degree turn. Second, I have a Catholic upbringing and my family back home does not know we live together. I hate lying. Third, they keep pestering me to drive but these things take time especially that I am a certified coward. So every day is always a struggle explaining myself why I am still running out to take the bus to work. It doesn't help they don't speak English so I had to come up with lies like, "Oh, my friend from work gave me a lift home." When in fact, I just took a cab home. There's too much parenting going on and I'm starting to feel uneasy. Sorry for the information flood. But I need help deciding. SOS! Thanks!
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
8 Dec 15
REally thinking hard about it. But my finances may suffer if I start paying rent. Cost of living here is very high
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
9 Dec 15
@Theresaaiza I didn't pursue my driving though since it was too expensive.
@shellyjaneo (1076)
• United Kingdom
12 Dec 15
If you can afford to move out then you probably should, I don't know how old you are but I know I couldn't live in someone else's home now you need your own space even if you can only afford somewhere very small. You will have to learn to manage your money better though x
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
8 Dec 15
Hello @Theresaaiza ever since i added you in FB I've seen large changes in your life. I've always known when working abroad could be expensive, I mean every smile there's a huge burden lurking inside it. maybe it's time to try and take the risk and drive. maybe not today or tomorrow.
You know I didn't tell you this but when I was applying for a job in US, we went to a driving school and i was scared crap because I'm the only one of the three that doesn't know how to drive. though Im glad probably that i got rejected by the embassy, sooner or later it might get caught up with me and learn to drive for real.
Nice to see you again here btw.
