Out of Touch, Out of Time...Auld Lang Syne?

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Those lyrics from the classic Hall and Oats song from the 80s best describes a little story I'm going to share with you. Since it's the new year, too, how about Auld Lang Syne as well? Have you ever lost touch base with someone and recently reconnected, say last year or even earlier? When I lived in New Jersey, many years ago, I had a best friend for 13 years, until things went awry. Somehow she abandoned me around when we both graduated high school, though I'm a year and a month older than her, (which is another story....) We both lived on the same street and the same neighborhood and went to the same junior high as me. She knew my most uttermost secrets and defended me, when her younger brother picked on me. For reasons unknown, she borrowed items and never returned them to me. Her mother gave me some items back, which weren't the correct items. There was a tiff we had, when she had phone issues with her parents, and somehow I got caught in the midst of things, when she told me to call. The last time I saw her was on a winter day like day in New Jersey and after the holidays. Later did I know she had moved to another town and I couldn't get any information from her parents. Somehow they believed I was a bad influence on her, when it was discovered later, it was the other way around. I've tried mailing her parents and explained my anguish to them with nothing sent back in return. Her folks were like a second family to me, since I was jealous of her, since she was popular, always tanned than burned, and her parents didn't get divorced, when she was young. And I haven't heard her from her since last year... I wrote to my former best friend forever and send her a letter at her childhood address in July 2014--the same time I've revisited New Jersey and scattered the rest of her ashes, since she passed away almost two years ago, this March. I also revisited my former neighborhood and hoped I would see my former BFF. I didn't know if her parents had thrown it out or had given to her at her new address at the time, since I've moved to Ohio, 14 years ago. Fast forward to a year ago to this month, I've received a phone call from her that she received my letter. She recently returned back home to New Jersey from California I believe with her own family--once again, I was a bit of her, since she was happily married with kids, and I knew I would never be like her. She did a lot of catching up to do on the phone and exchanged phone numbers to text each other. I also gave her my new address, since I had moved since then. I've later found out, that her father passed away in June, real close to her birthday, too. Now I know why I didn't see her, since the timing wasn't right. But her mother remembered me... Though we've texted each other, on and off, until last summer to get caught up. The last time was last June, after my 39th birthday. So I wonder why it stopped. I continued to text her every once in awhile and never heard back. So yesterday, I sent her a text and wished her a happy new year, hoping I'll hear back from her more often this year. She just texted me back. She told me she lost her phone and just got it back. So I'm glad I've reached out with a text. I hope to hear back from her soon to do more catching up, even if it's monthly. I never did get her email address and such last year. Maybe I'll get it this time around from her. So Mylotters, have you ever lost touch with someone and reconnected with them later? I know my former BFF who now lives many states apart will be acquaintances and nothing further. Maybe she'll visit me here in Ohio someday this year for old time's sake.