Is ADOPTION a BAD thing???
@righttotheheart (226)
Delhi, India
January 6, 2016 6:13am CST
I live in a joint family, i am married for 2 years and right now i am not ready to plan a baby but want to adopt one.
Me and my husband discussed about it for few months and then came to a conclusion that as we live in a joint family we should consider the views of our family members also.
Finally the day arrived we called everyone and told them about the adoption. The reactions that came were shocking!!
My mother in law said '' why do you want to adopt a kid, can't you have your own?" by which she went are we physically unable to have one??..
''No this will never happen, you will spoil our image in the society'' was my elder brother in law's reaction.
After a long discussion I just couldn't convince that, yes we can have our own babies but there is no bad thing in adoption that society will see us as culprits come on it is a good deed and not a crime!
I just don't believe that this is 21st century, even if you want to do something good for others and yourself , people(my own family) are not ready to support you instead they want to pull you down.
But i know that fore sure one day or the other, by convincing them or retaliating, with their support or oppose I will adopt a child a girl child very soon!!
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
6 Jan 16
No, adoption is not a bad thing. But, so many people believe that a couple should only adopt if they cannot have a child of their own. It is a very old fashioned view, but it stays with society. All I can say is if you and your husband want to adopt, that is your right, it will also give a child a chance at a good life. I hope that your family will see that and support your decision.
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@righttotheheart (226)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 16
i know it will be good for me and the child as well but i cannot go against my family and as stated by @boiboing i should not bring her without everybody's acceptance as it might not have good consequences in near future.
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@bluesa (15023)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
7 Jan 16
@righttotheheart , that is sad but true.
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@righttotheheart (226)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 16
even if i want to bring her i cannot because my mother in law and brother in law are not ready to accept our decision and we cannot go against it!
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@righttotheheart (226)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 16
see generally in western countries when a child attains a mature age he/she starts living on his/her own and when they get married they live with their spouse only. But here it is different we have different culture and tradition we live with our parents until we get job in different place or if our parents wishes so.. So when a girl gets married either she lives with her husband only(nuclear family system) or she lives with her husband and his entire family( which includes brother in laws, mother in law, father in law and so on)- joint family system!
@dengcaijun (41)
• China
6 Jan 16
21st century doesn't mean anything is possible , but in my opinion, in a word , just do it as long as you feel no regret for that !
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@righttotheheart (226)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 16
this is a normal thing which should be possible by now.. people are going on mars to find life and we on earth cannot build a good life for someone who is in need? I hope i could do whatever i want to but I cannot go against the will of my family its typical i know but true!
@dengcaijun (41)
• China
7 Jan 16
@righttotheheart just do that you think is correct :)
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